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10 yrs of hell

Posted by Giving up on 3 February 2015.

My Stepson has been using Cocaine for 10 yrs, he has lost 10 yrs of his life & has the mindset of a 17 yr old. In 11 yrs he has been sacked from 12 jobs for not turning up, due to drug benders. We have tried the hard, soft, understanding, supportive approaches but seem to get nowhere. We have now discovered that he doesn't actually want to stop doing drugs and have decided that he's made his choice in life but it's hard to turn your back on someone who's "hungry" and begging for food even though you know, deep down, that any money they have is going on drugs not food. Feeling very guilty and blaming ourselves!


Icarus Trust
4 Feb 2015

This is very hard for you isn't it! Sadly there are many people who are in a similar position to yourselves. If you would like to talk to someone who has experience of what you are going through The Icarus Trust is a charity which supports people, like yourself, who have been affected by a loved one's addiction. We could offer you our 'Family Friends' service. These are trained volunteers who have had lots of experience with what you are going through. It may help you to talk through  with one of them how you are feeling. It is a free service.
You can contact us on or visit the website
All the best. I hope this helps!

5 Feb 2015

I know what your going through, my son is on heroine, and has been for about 13 years, he is the most loving person, but has got lost along life's way, he runs up debts, and I help in out, as. A Mother would, we recently lost my husband, his father, which has really knocked him over board, I feel I have no one to talk to , has I don,t want people to judge him, don't feel guilty about giving him money for food, your only guilty of having a heart , good luck in your quest, x

Icarus Trust
11 Feb 2015

I'm really sad that you have no one to talk to. If you would like to talk with someone who would understand what you are going through you could talk to one of our 'Family Friends' at The Icarus Trust. It is a free service so you may find it worth your while. I hope so.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Good luck!

11 Feb 2015

Hey MT, so sorry for your loss...if ever you need to talk there are afew regulars who can listen...take care x

11 Feb 2015

Thank you for that, Can't take anymore, I'm just a bit screwed up at he minute, just waiting for the plauge of locusts, just get over one thing and there's something else, x

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