We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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Posted by Alexis on 3 April 2017.
I am, I suppose in total denial but things are tough. I don't feel that I can write much on here.. We both had always loved drinking, his drinking would usually mean he would be unable to walk, stand, rarely he would be violent (not ever to me) but to other people. He is like two people, an angel and a devil. It's difficult to know what personality you will get. However he puts a lot on to me, that things are my fault and I feel I am betraying him by writing this. His drinking came from a former lifestyle. I have been a facilitator. Like feeding a fat child cake to make them happy. I have provided money. I pay for so much but if I ever mention it he withdraws or get cross with me but he hasn't used me for money at all. He has a good job, but the drink is a constant cloud over our lives. He is taking steps in the right direction because our marriage was almost broken. He sees a counsellor, however I feel angry, disappointed, like things are unfair and I lie to myself all the time and bury my head in the sand. I have started to reveal things to my family now but it's taken 8 years to get there. I love him so much and I want him to be well but every day is a battle for him and him addressing his feelings. I can't talk to him about it because it makes him feel so bad and he almost left me because he was upset that he made me upset all the time. I don't want to live in denial. I want to take the bull by the horns and try and over come this. His parents don't understand the full extent of this and he doesn't want anyone to know. Thanks for any help.
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