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At my wits end

Posted by Lemontop on 22 January 2016.

My son has had a codeine addiction with alcohol I believe since his divorce but it could have been earlier.  He had lived away from home from 12 years returning after his wife and him split.  Things got so bad three years ago we as parents and he admitting to his problems decided on a month long period in re-hab. He most definitely came out better, back on track. He moved away back to London but things started to go down hill again and in less than 12 months he was black here living with us. Back on over the counter ibroprofen and codeine and drinking. He gets very very aggressive and verbally very abusive with help from our GP he back on another withdrawal programme which seemed to be working on the outside trouble is as you well know addicts lie constantly to the point they believe the lies to be true. Then just as we thought things were improving full time work, new girlfriend by husband who was an MS sufferer died not from his illness but after being hit by a car, a tragic accident this was just over a year ago. Myself and my other son who lives away struggled be my eldest went to pieces again and back on pills and booze. He somehow managed to hold down his job and acquire a new girlfriend they all leave him after a few months because of his abuse. They moved with my help into a flat and now after 6 weeks he has got so much worse, not going to work telling lies all the times, collapsing she called an ambulance more than once.  Now it's all over and I have no idea what to do next or how to cope all I know is after 7 years I can't go back to having him in my house.  There is no help out there I personally think he needs residential care of some degree, he's not capable of looking after himself not eating for days, lying in bed and abusing his body, well no more in my house I will have a breakdown. 
Please somebody tell me what to do


Icarus Trust
3 Feb 2016

So very sorry to hear what an awful time you are having. Please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports the family and friends of addicts. We offer a free service called 'Family Friends who are our experienced trained volunteers. You could talk with one of them and they would be able to tell you what other help is out there for both you and your son.
You can contact us on or visit the website
I hope you can get someone to help you in this really difficult time Good luck.

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