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HELP! My mum died and then I found out my dad isn't my real dad? What do I do??

Posted by CharlotteRigby23 on 22 March 2015.

When I was 14 I lost my mum. She was only 37 and there was nothing wrong with her, It's just that her heart had stopped beating. And she wasn't strong enough to pull through the life machine. 
My mum and dad split up when I was about 9. So me and my brother and sister went to live with my mum and her new boyfriend. My mum and her boyfriend Lee had a baby together and Lee already had 2 of his own kids. So in our house there was 2 adults and then 6 children. When I turned 14 my mum died. Which meant I had to go and live with my dad with my brother and sister. And then Lee kept the baby and his 2 kids. When I was 16 I got told that my dad wasn't my real dad and that my real dad left me when i was a 3 weeks old. So my family decided to make me think dave was my real dad. Accept now i know the truth and i have a whole new family out there. I don't know if I want to see them or not? My real dad does drugs? But he has3 other little children and i really want to get to know them ?But i don't know whether or not to see him and the rest of his family? HELP PLEASE!!!


Icarus Trust
23 Mar 2015

Hi Charlotte. It sounds like you might like to speak to someone who would understand what you are going through. If so  please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports the families and friends of addicts. We have trained volunteers called 'Family Friends' who have lots of experience of talking to people facing situations like like yourself. Maybe by talking to one of them  might help you to decide what to do next. It is a free service so I hope you might give it a go.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Good luck with everything. Hope it all turns out well for you.

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