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How do I tell my 9 year old her father is an addict

Posted by Nicki99 on 8 January 2017.

Hi, I'm looking for some advice regarding my daughters dad 
He has been addicted to heroin for almost 20 years now 
He has done a few stints in rehab and managed to stay clean for a couple of months at a time Over the years, however in the last few years it has become apparent that he's never going to be clean 
He recently went to rehab for 2 months but told my daughter he was away for work...that has been the cover story for his last few failed attempts at rehab
Now that she's getting a bit older I'm finding it hard to watch her go through this heartbreak of missing him when he's gone and just not having time for her because of his addiction 
I'm wondering if I should tell her the truth about his problem or is she just too concern is that one day he'll be found dead in his flat and she will have had no incling and it will be like a bolt out of the blue 
But I'm also worried that if she does know he's an addict she'll spend her days worrying about him - he seems to just constantly let her down 
I really don't know what to do.any advice would be very welcome


Icarus Trust
24 Jan 2017

Hi Nicki
Thanks for sharing your story.
I can understand how difficult it is for you to know what you should be telling your daughter. If you would like to talk through this please contact us at The Icarus Trust a charity that provides support for people dealing with the impact of another's addiction. You would be able to talk to one of our Family Friends' who have a lot of experience of what you are going through.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Good luck.

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