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How much more can my family take

Posted by dolly on 8 November 2016.

So 5 years ago we found out that my brother was taking heroin and had been for a few years previous to this.  He has been in and out of rehab/living on the streets/stealing off every single family member and work colleagues even burglary.  We have found numerous court summons/fines everything possibly imaginable but he still wont stop. Every now and then he will appear back at home with my parents and makes us all believe that everything is ok and that he has a job - which he has had - but then things go spiralling downhill again.  He has lost his job again.  He is still living with my parents but is not allowed in the house when there is no one there and has taken to sleeping in the garage as he's too ashamed to knock on the door.  Only this week my dad caught him collecting heroin from a dealer outside their house.  He took it off him then my brother walked away I'm guessing to go find some more.  I don't know how much more my parents can take! It makes me so angry what he is doing to them!!  They have spent so much money on trying to "fix" him and pay his debts/fines etc but I've said to them enough is enough.  I'm scared that they are going to wake up one morning and my brother is going to be dead.  I really feel for them as having children myself I couldn't imagine how I would feel to let them just go and live on the street but I've told them that that is what they have to do.  No amount of money is going to save him if he doesn't really want to help himself.


Icarus Trust
9 Nov 2016

Hi Dolly,

Thanks for sharing your story. This sounds very hard for your parents to cope with and I can see why you are so worried for them as well as your brother.
If you would like to talk to a trained person who has lots of experience of what you and your family are going through please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that helps the families and friends of addicts because we know how tough dealing with a loved one's addiction is.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Wishing you and your family all the best.

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