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I don't know what to do

Posted by Emma on 29 June 2015.

I'm 16 years old, I have been aware of my mums drinking problem from a young age, although I've never known who to tell or what to do so I just kept it to myself. My parents had a huge fall out last night and my dad finally confronted me about my mums problem, it feels a relief to be able to talk about it with one family member however now I do not know what to do. My mum started drinking shortly after I was born, I presume due to post natal depression and I can't help but feel this is my fault. I really don't know what to do and I'm overwhelmed with emotion, my mum is in complete denial and has left the house to stay with a friend. I've confronted her before about her problem and she promised me on many occasions it wouldn't happen again and she just gets angry at me and then continues to drink. I find bottles all the time. However I'm scared if I confront her she will just flip out, however I fear for her safety and her job. I really don't know what to do before it's too late or she will lose her job and we'll lose everything. I need help I just don't know what to do


29 Jun 2015

there are no support groups close and I am an only child, I don't know what to do next

Icarus Trust
29 Jun 2015

Hi Emma please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports people like you who are having to deal with a friend or family member's addiction. I really think it might help you to talk to one of our experienced trained volunteers called 'Family Friends'. If you contact us we could put you in touch with one of them. Talking through how you are feeling with someone who understands what you are going through may help you make sense of how you are feeling and find a way forward. It is a free service so I hope you will give it a try.
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Good luck!

5 Nov 2015

hi,  my mum is an alcoholic too, while I was growing up.  My earliest memory was about 10 years old and she eventually went into rehab when I was sixteen, I used to find her whiskey bottles which I found in her bedroom and tip any remains down the drain.  You have to maintain support as much as you can, but she needs to admit it first and until then its just a matter of getting to admit there is a problem.  I hope that things improve for you, but you are not alone with what you are going through.

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