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My adult son of 42

Posted by optimist on 11 May 2015.

My story is too long to tell, but at 17 my son started taking drugs. For 8 years it was hell, then he stopped, became a vegetarian non smoker and became mentally ill after a breakdown. He was in an acute ward for 3 years and eventually was forced to take anti psychotic drugs. He was like a zombie for years then started again taking drugs and drinking. He had liver damage, fell and broke his ankle which mended badly due to his psychotic behaviour after having to be drug free for the operation. It never healed and he has severe bone disease with pain running through his body.  He takes legal highs to dull the pain. Painkillers don't work. He cries a lot. His father has given  up on him and I am tired with it all not seeing an end.  We don't visit him. He has been supported by the mental heath in accommodation but they have now withdrawn assistance because of his aggressive behaviour and drug taking. I want to support him with his leg which needs amputating.  He is frightened and will not attend appointments.  My husband will not agree to my supporting him and would stop me. I am 65 and emotionally drained. I don't know what to do and time is slipping by.


Icarus Trust
12 May 2015

What a horrible situation you are in . I do feel for you and am not surprised that you are emotionally drained. Please contact The Icarus Trust as we are a charity that offers support for people who are affected by another's addiction. We could put you in touch with one of our trained volunteers called 'Family Friends' who you could talk to in confidence. They have lots of experience of people in similar situations to your own and talking with them  might help you to find a way ahead.
You can contact us on or visit the website
I hope that you will give this a try and that you get the support for yourself.

12 May 2015

Thank you so much for your response, i will make contact.

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