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Should I give up?

Posted by Poppy36 on 2 November 2014.

I met my man, 2 years ago. He was funny, exciting and so loving. He smoked a bit of weed but it seemed like a fairly recreational thing. Anyway, over the next few months, I discovered he had an addiction to amphetamines and cannabis. A huge addiction and one that was 20 years strong. He is a functioning addict, if you like. It's a constant cycle- he takes the speed to work and the weed to sleep. I'm terrified he's going to have a stroke, heart attack or break down. Furthermore, he decided 2 weeks ago to leave. He said he can't quit and be the man I need or deserve. Even though he left, we have still seen each other and I'm not convinced he totally wants to go completely. I guess what I want to know is this- do I just give up? Do I accept that he can't quit? I've read that addicts can't choose love over drugs, otherwise they wouldn't be addicted...I just don't know what to do- any advice would be appreciated.


6 Nov 2014

Hi Poppy,

That is a very difficult situation, but it is one you may need to discover the answer on your own.  The Icarus Trust provide Family Friends for you to speak to, who has been affected my addictions too - so they can relate to similar situations.  Often speaking to someone and letting it all out is the best way for you to discover what it is your should do.  You can contact them on or go to their website  

Best of luck!

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