We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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so home again
Posted by newdidit on 12 January 2015.
Hi, I have searched and searched for help and came across this site so i hope you can show me where i go wrong but more importantly how i can help to get it right. in saying that i have just heard this saying and think it speaks volumes ' i have to learn to stop being a parent and parenting and just let life go on' i think i may have lost the correct ending but i will carry on. my son is 25; i have two boys the eldest is 30; they both live with their respected partners. My life, our life has not been the easiest but not the hardest either but to cut a very long story short my youngest is home from his partner and 2 year old daughter again. i love all 3 of them to bits and this revolving door incident happens time and time again. His partner tells me that he smokes dope everyday and is spending far too much money on it his version of events is that its not everyday and he doesnt spend as much as she thinks. she is totally fed up with it and has once again thrown him out. They are young both work hard in full time jobs both devoted to their little girl but somethings going wrong and version of events are poles apart. i am trying to remain impartial; very hard; i cant seem to get through to him that if he is lying about his use then he is only lying to himself but he is always always adamant that hes not.While i love his partner and we have grown very close i can imagine that she is very difficult to live with for various reasons but this does not excuse his smoking. how can i help or should i just step out ????
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