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son of 18 really worried

Posted by worried very worried on 15 April 2017.

my sn whos 18 is now smoking hash all the time and going into massive outburts of verbal abuse , he is always swearing at me and demanding i do things and give him money , i left a very viliont relationship 6 years ago and at this time my oldest was taken into care for my own saftey as he had also got to the stage of drinking heavely and then flipping in me , so the decision was taken out of my hands by now my 18 yr old is starting to scare me as well he got into my face and was screaming and shouting at me , i replyed that he cant bully me he then started saying that i had wrecked his life and its  my fault that he is the way he is , can anyione please offer advice ,


worried very worried
15 Apr 2017

i should have added im a sinle mum and i work 3 jobs , he throws up at me that i spend time with my firend who is my rock , and he gets jealous when ever i leave the house , im always say here waiting for the next out birts , i lost my brother to a dirty needle and 6 other family members within a space of 3 years , he dont remeber any other family members as he was too young , but he is always throwing things in my face like , its your fault as you have never been a mum , im at my wits end and dont know what to do for the best , i feel as if i have failed everyone and even the family who are no longer with me , i have no one to speak to as people are quick enough to judge and say that its my fault for staying in the relationship that i was in for so long , i know this didnt help the boys as they grew up but i moved 500 miles away from home when my husband turned on me and the police moved me to a new area , and thats where i met the ex and its eems to be one big thing after anther , and this is just the icing in the cake , i tryed my hardest with the biys but no one understands what its like unless they go through it them selfs

Icarus Trust
2 May 2017


Thank you for posting and sharing your story. I'm so sorry that you have had such a lot of stuff to deal with over such a long time. Its very sad that you have no one to speak to but if you get in touch with The Icarus Trust there are people who could help. We are a charity that gives support to people who are having to deal with a family member's drug abuse. Please get in touch because you could talk to one of our 'Family Friends' who may be able to help you. They are experienced trained volunteers and would not judge you. It is a free service.
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I really hope that you can get some support for yourself. Good luck.

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