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Families sometimes feel lost or struggle to express themselves regarding a loved one’s drug or alcohol use. This can be down to fear of stigma, a concern that they won’t be properly understood or simply not knowing what to do.

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cocaine addiction - past

Posted by pickles on 7 December 2017 (0 comments)

Hi 4 years ago i had progressively got into Cocaine not knowing the extent at the time jow bad it had got as you become very good at lying etc,  i was martied 3 children and had become friends with this new vibrant youbger mum at the school life seemed more fun.  Then as our friendship evolved she and her partner was selling it so most times i had for free and i became gutty. Then as money started… read the full post

Husband - Cocaine - Escorts

Posted by Taylor on 4 December 2017 (1 comments)

My husband takes cocaine. No everyday but every so often he will go on a binge and he will end up going to escorts. Our normal day to day life is fine. It is when he does this that it breaks me down. I don't know what to do and I have nobody to talk to.… read the full post

Cannabis is ruining my family

Posted by Stevie on 4 December 2017 (4 comments)

I felt very lucky to have been blessed with 3 beautiful boys but it was hard work, particularly with the older two, as they were both naughty and got into trouble at school. The older boy was very successful and continues to do extremely well in his working life, however he is addicted to smoking pot. He works very hard but away from his job, all he does is smoke cannabis. Our middle son is even w… read the full post

Frustrated and emotional

Posted by May on 29 November 2017 (0 comments)

I got Married a year ago to my childhood sweetheart from the age of 17, I am now 31 and have been through many different situations which lead us to break up and get back together. When we finally decided this is what we wanted, we got married but it was shortly after that I noticed a change in his behaviour and looking rather withdrawn and spending alot of time in the toilet. I would look through… read the full post

Struggling

Posted by JAH on 18 November 2017 (1 comments)

I found out several months ago that my 19 year old son was taking drugs, he has admitted to taking cocaine in the past and maintains he only smokes dope now.  I have paid off his debts, made him take drug tests and had tears and promises that things will change.  Over the last two months things have spiralled and I fear he is an addict, maybe he has been for longer and I have been in denial!  He i… read the full post

Birgit

Posted by birigit on 17 November 2017 (1 comments)

My daughter is 27 years old. She has been taken drugs on and off since the age of 14. I send her to live with her dad to get away from the people. But she started again at his place, meeting the same type of people again. When she got pregnant she stopped for 5 years. Than she met the wrong man and started again. Just worse this time. He introduced her to the drugs she normally would never take. S… read the full post

Heart broken

Posted by Glamma on 14 November 2017 (1 comments)

My son is drug addict he trying at the moment to come off coke but also has been battling addiction for 26 years he was 14 maybe 15 when he started smoking cannibis he his also addicted to perscription drugs ie tramadol,antidepresants he has a loving wife and 3 lovley children however he as held it together for so long is beyond me it all could come crashing down .l pray everyday for him to be dru… read the full post

Living with addiction - A daughter's story

Posted by MeMe Detroit on 14 November 2017 (2 comments)

I am a musician and recently wrote this blog on my regular public blog as I wanted to raise more awareness about addiction and mental health. It has become more apparent since doing so, that I, myself may be in need of some help. Thought I'd start by sharing my story on here also. Thanks........


For years, since before i can remember i have lived with an alcoholic dad in my life. My mum parted w… read the full post

Partner now in secondary care

Posted by Jord14 on 13 November 2017 (2 comments)

So my addict is my partner. He is addicted to cocaine and has been for the best part of 3 years.. maybe longer, we have 2 children 2 and 8. It all came to a head in July after countless lying, stealing, drug binges, not going to work, blaming his behaviour on depression he finally admitted he has a problem and entered a 4 week rehab programme at a well known rehab. He blossomed back into the man I… read the full post

Feeling broken

Posted by Gabby on 13 November 2017 (2 comments)

Whenever I tried to bring up about my daughter using drugs she said she used to, but not anymore. She has now told me straight that she is a cocaine addict and she needs help. I had noticed that she was often down & very tired & broke. However, I always put it down to the fact that she contracted viral meningitis when she was little & this had attacked her left lobel side of her brain… read the full post

Drugs and mental illness.

Posted by Frustrated Dad on 12 November 2017 (2 comments)

My son is biologically an adult. He lives at home with his mother.  He uses pot, cocaine and alcohol.  He takes medication for schizophrenia.  He apparently goes off his meds when things are seemingly ok.  I have cut him out of my life as long as he is using.  His mother refuses to kick him out, I guess because of his mental disorder, she is afraid for him.  And I think afraid OF him.  I am a long… read the full post

I'm loosing my son, need help

Posted by Ashi on 11 November 2017 (3 comments)

My 16 year old son is affected by drug & alcohol recently. He is Absolutely out of my control, doesn't listen to me at all, does what ever he wants, stays out whenever and wherever he wants, i have no control of him. I am a single mum feeling Absolutely helpless, don't know what to do i am loosing him. Any advice would be appreciated.… read the full post

Getting clean - My story

Posted by Think Positive on 8 November 2017 (4 comments)

You are the most loyal, loving, caring, patient person I have ever met and who has the most beautiful of souls. You made me happy throughout our lives together (and still do now) and I am glad to know that the good outweighed the bad times which I created, that caused you so much heartache and sadness. So, you know, I am truly so deeply sorry for the misery that I sometimes caused you, especially… read the full post

How do I let go?

Posted by Amy1210 on 2 November 2017 (3 comments)

My partner has issues with his mental health, and as a result addiction. In the time we have been together he has relapsed on heroin, and in the process of recovery has sporadically had episodes of heavy drinking. His lapses are scary, and usually happen when I least expect them, I'll go to work and everything will be fine and come back to find him drunk, covered in sick or self-harming. He is a v… read the full post

Are you a parent who's experienced abusive behaviour from your drug or alcohol using child?

Posted by Administrator on 30 October 2017 (4 comments)

If you are a parent who has a child (including adult children over 18) who has a drug or alcohol problem and you have experienced abusive behaviour from them then we can help.

Funded by Comic Relief Adfam has trained a group of parents affected by these issues to help their peers - other parents.

If you'd like to know more please see this link and leave your details.
https://docs.google.com/form… read the full post

Struggling with resentment and anger

Posted by Louise86 on 27 October 2017 (2 comments)

For a good 12 months I have known that my partner has a dependency on alcohol. I know there is no physical addiction as I know that he can go days and weeks without drinking with no adverse affects which is perhaps what makes it worse. For months I have been asking him to see a doctor for his mental health issues which ultimately lead him to drink the way he does but he never has. I have also just… read the full post

Has my 23 year relationship been a lie

Posted by Fifi on 26 October 2017 (3 comments)

I have recently discovered my partner is a cocaine addict, well ive known in my heart for over ayear now, but i thought he had it under control or he told me did and he was just doing he's thing!!! It all came to head 3 weeks ago, after a he had what i can only describe as a meltdown in which he verbally abuse both me and our children, which resulted in our 12 year old son asking him to leave and… read the full post

My soul mate

Posted by Lisa 1976 on 6 October 2017 (7 comments)

Hello I have come on here for some support as I have suffered great depression and anxiety trying to stand by my partner, we have a 2 year old daughter and I have tried not to enable him so he gave him self a kick up the bum to recover however he took the cowards way out and slept withsome behind my back this has let me ver distraught.. he has since moved in with her he had only known her a few da… read the full post

My Son

Posted by Steff on 6 October 2017 (9 comments)

My 32 year old son has for the past 8 years caused me and my hubby endless heartbreak and anxiety,  he is the most gorgeous looking guy and such a charmer .BUT he has bullimia and is a cocaine abuser , he has cost me thousands (not anymore since i realised i was enabeling him) He has used my credit cards, stolen money, threatened my hubby.
Every time we try to talk e becomes aggresive and it frigh… read the full post

My boy

Posted by Evonia on 25 September 2017 (5 comments)

My baby boy was delivered by forceps after I had been injected with pethidine several times. He was a hyperactive child and despite my going to our gp and asking for help for him, none was available. My boy started smoking marijuana at the age of 15. I was distraught and went to our gp, only to be told not to worry unless he started injecting drugs. My boy is now 46 and a heroin addict with hiv an… read the full post

Family torn apart by alcohol addiction

Posted by Abi on 8 September 2017 (5 comments)

So my brother has been an alcoholic for a few years but recently this has stepped up. His wife an sons (age 8 and 10) have now left the family home. He has been into detox in the past an was doing well when he came out with meds to help him abstain from alcohol. However he stopped taking medication then relapsed an hasnt stopped since. Hes now drinking average of 1 litre of vodka a day an has rece… read the full post

My sister - the heroin addict

Posted by Xoxo on 5 September 2017 (6 comments)

So as it says, my sister is a heroin addict. It all started when were children, my dad was brutally murdered outside our home with my sister witnessing the whole thing at the age of 11. A few years down the line aged 14, she turned to heroin. I grew up beginning to think this was normal, although my mum shielded me from the bulk of what was going on. Constant over doses, hospital stays, the all ni… read the full post

My 18 year old smokes weed and has no direction

Posted by StephEd on 30 August 2017 (12 comments)

My son is just 18, he is smoking weed every day, i know it isn't hard drugs but I am worried that it may progress if it hasn't already to harder substances.  
He left school at 16, did not know what he wanted to do and together we found him an engineering apprenticeship; after 1 year he had a car accident and was off work for 4 months.  He totally refused to go back after the break and eventually… read the full post

Will I ever be happy again part 3

Posted by Funhaha on 29 August 2017 (1 comments)

Well here I am again. This time in tears. I am so warm down I dont know what to do. He is at that point that the coke is pulling him. He didnt want to go ti a meeting tonight and uses the "I dont get to see my kid" then says how would I feel if I didmt get to see him except for an hour in the morning and 30 mins at night. To be honest if I thought it would help me I wouldnt care. But mat… read the full post

Is he alcohol dependant?

Posted by Mrs-Mezz on 29 August 2017 (3 comments)

My husband of 7 yrs , together for 10.5 yrs has told me he doesn't love me and wants to separate. 
This has totally devastated both myself and the kids. 

He says he hasn't loved me for some time and has recent sought comfort with a female colleague of his. He has since advised that this was a knee-jerk reaction to being unhappy. 

He is massively reliant on alcohol, frequently consuming 15+ cans… read the full post

My son is a cocaine addict

Posted by Runner on 29 August 2017 (9 comments)

My son has been addicted to cocaine for 4 years, I only discovered this a year ago last June when he made his 1st serious suicide attempt. He also hears voices, has done since he was 5, (now 25) has anxiety, depression and borderline personality disorder, and aspergers syndrome.
He has been sacked from 3 jobs, the last one because he had too much time off sick, was an inpatient in a psychiatric un… read the full post

Feel like I've failed

Posted by Pollyann on 27 August 2017 (7 comments)

Hi my partner went through a detox programme after being with him for a year (drinking ) .
I've stayed with him and I don't know why but he did the detox and came out after a 10day hospital stay he was given tablets to take everyday and signed off,
3months after the detox we went away for a week and it was very hard as I didn't trust he wouldn't drink but as far as I know he didn't .
We came back… read the full post

addiction to prescription drugs

Posted by Chris1958 on 26 August 2017 (5 comments)

My daughter was badly injured in a car accident 12 years ago.  She sustained multiple fractures (including her vertebrae) and internal injuries; she was not expected to survive.  Since that time she has become addicted to, among other medicines, Tramadol, Orymorph, Oxycodone...she takes these daily with Pregabalin, Pizotifen and Lorazepam.  This actually represents a reduction in her range of meds… read the full post

Will I ever be happy again part 2

Posted by Funhaha on 24 August 2017 (3 comments)

Well hes been off it for a month and now its starting. I can do anything right. I am the worst person on the planet and I cant cope. We have one son off for summer hols. I have to pr his buisness including paperwork (which he seams to have forgot to tell me about this week but thats ok I am a mind reader) and keep clean house and keep 2 german sheps (one of which is a puppy) I have no help except… read the full post

prescription drugs

Posted by twins03 on 24 August 2017 (2 comments)

My soon to be ex husband is addicted to prescription painkillers, the doctor prescribed a different drug whilst telling him not to use the current one, it lasted a week until he was back on them as he could not cope without it. His mood can change with the wind, l have seen him get shaky and anxious when he needs his tablets but he says its the pain. He wakes very early then sleeps all afternoon.… read the full post

Will I ever feel happy again

Posted by Funhaha on 20 August 2017 (2 comments)

My partner never told me he was on coke. I was unfortunate to find out after we had our son. He went away with some "friends" a week after I came out of hospital and left me with baby and 2 dogs. No phone calls no texts. Maybe I should have got out then but I loved and sill do love him. When he came back he seamed to have changed. Our sex life has always been good but once baby came alon… read the full post

Is this the beginning or the end..

Posted by Illustroanimus on 17 August 2017 (1 comments)

Hi this is my first time here, my wife is now regularly consuming 2 bottles of wine a day to try and block out things from the past, and its now, or really been a long time brewing a problem.  She knows it's an issue but she is still in denial. I love her dearly but seeing her sink into alcoholism is destroying me. I don't know what to do or how to help her. If I don't bring wine home she turns in… read the full post

Is this the beginning

Posted by Shermie89 on 15 August 2017 (1 comments)

My husband and I got married last year in August and during our courtship I knew he drank alcohol but it was never on a regular basis. We have been faced with a number of problems during our first year of marriage. Early January i noticed a change in my husband's behaviour especially after a long time friend's marriage ended. He became frustrated more when we were rejected by a number of churches… read the full post

he don't want to quit

Posted by sutkina on 15 August 2017 (1 comments)

my hubby been doing coke daily since age 18. the first part of his life until  age  40 was life like a rock star, no worries on money as he had wealthy parents, when they died and he had to manage his funds, he now is broke, working in a kitchen (he chooses that career, even though he has qualitfications, degree from ivy school)   every month, he hands me 1/2 the rent, and not even half the expens… read the full post

help with depressed brother

Posted by Lisa Jane x on 1 August 2017 (1 comments)

My brother has depression, and he was really suicidal about 2 years ago but he gradually got better, but he smoked a lot of weed during it too which i assume didn't help. He was doing really well but he's recently got worse again and i can't tell if he's smoking weed again or he's unhappy. He's nearly 20 and I'm 17 and i don't feel like i can ask him how he is, and my mum worries a lot, and I'm ju… read the full post

Where next, don't know which way to turn

Posted by akd1961 on 31 July 2017 (3 comments)

My daughter has been using cocaine now for over 2 years to the fact that she is addicted and as a result also gambles.  She was due to get married this year (not sure if this is happening) her partnet is very week.  I feel like I have lost her she used to be so kind and caring and we were very close as a family, she has stolen from her dad and brother, gambling debts are in the thousands, she lies… read the full post

Hopelessness

Posted by Losthope on 25 July 2017 (1 comments)

This is how I feel. I cling to the memory of my beautiful and sweet natured daughter when she was a girl.  She is now in her 20s and addicted to heroin. I am beside myself with worry.… read the full post

Broken Dreams - Surviving the loss of an adult sibling

Posted by VicKie D on 18 July 2017 (3 comments)

Coping with the loss of a sibling through drug and alcohol abuse is something I never expected to face. 
As a sibling, you feel that you have no right to grieve because your parents are facing their worst nightmare. You stand in the shadows of a family broken, not knowing how to reach out and help your parents. The feeling of helplessness and hopelessness engulfs you as you try and ease their pain… read the full post

Had enough now!!!

Posted by fbc83 on 14 July 2017 (1 comments)

I fed up with my partner using drugs! He takes methadone because hes a functioning heroin addict but now he's wasting money on coke. It's annoying that if our kids need something we have to save because he hasn't got the money to pay all in one go but dealers get £100s in one go. Hes excuse is hes not a bad person he just has problems. I recreationally used coke in my 20s before i had my children… read the full post

I miss my brother

Posted by Game2.0 on 12 July 2017 (1 comments)

Can you help me? I haven't seen my baby brother once since he's been born and i feel like i'm missing out on something. I want to see him but I don't want to get attached if i do see him could you guys give me advice on how do deal with it please! ;)… read the full post

Bullied at school

Posted by Game2.0 on 12 July 2017 (1 comments)

My friends are saying that im a bullie and there making me feel like killing myself.

                     What should i do?… read the full post

She chose drugs over a relationship

Posted by Eddiebamboo on 1 July 2017 (4 comments)

My now ex girlfriend uses Coke and pills, I didn't know she used them when we got together, when I found out I expressed my dislike towards drugs. I was disgusted when I found out. I couldn't help being disgusted by her when she used. She told me she wouldn't do it around me etc and wouldn't bring into a situation where it was happening. But I was still worried and hated knowing she was using it.… read the full post

18 months of living hell

Posted by Mumataloss42 on 27 June 2017 (2 comments)

Last summer , we found out our 19 year old was using cocaine frequently. It got that bad, that i had drug dealers who we thought were his 'friends' contacting me.
At the beginning of this year, we thought through love and support , he had made a complete turnaround for the better. He got a job, was earning more than enough to still socialise with his nicer friends who he had dropped whilst in the… read the full post

Relapse

Posted by Leigh on 19 June 2017 (12 comments)

I don't even know where to begin, my partner is a drug addict primarily cocaine but alcohol or any other drug also becomes a problem. We've already been through so much together. He went to prison for 3 1/2 years a year into our relationship and was clean for a while at the end of he's sentence. Upon release he relapses over and over and a lot of the time somehow blames me for not making our home… read the full post

Teenage son stealing and using drugs

Posted by Petaleyes on 16 June 2017 (2 comments)

My 16year old is steeling from myself and his brothers I know he is using drugs and I am so worried about him this is causing so much tension with the family they want me to throw him out which I don't want to do how can I do that to some one that I love and has a problem he also has Aspergers my emotions are all over the place trying to do the right thing for all of us… read the full post

92 year old alcoholic, about to become a grandma

Posted by SunnyG on 15 June 2017 (1 comments)

My 92 year old mother in law lives with me an my husband. Although I am happily married and expecting a baby I cannot stop thinking about the effects my mother in law's drinking will have on our baby.
I am not sure where to turn to, but her drinking makes me really angry and worried about us as a family.
I don't want our baby to see an alcoholic in action and although her drinking is mostly contro… read the full post

I've lost all hope

Posted by Macca on 9 June 2017 (3 comments)

My 23 year old son is take drugs drinking and gambling so I've got a triple whammy . Such a lovely kid everyone loves him yet he is hiding this this dark secret life . He is so good at lying and covering his tracks he believes him self . He's had a good upbringing and good education yet he's turned into a lying deceitful dirty smell two faced nasty kid he steals off us and I think he steals from a… read the full post

Totally at a loss!!!!

Posted by bayleaf on 7 June 2017 (6 comments)

my husband and I are totally at a loos regarding what is best for our son. he's 23, still living at home and has shown he can be a caring, loving and generally 'good guy'. We became aware he was 'dabbling' in smoking drugs a couple of years ago, when he would come home smelling strongly of what we believe to be cannabis, would become very argumentative, verbally aggressive followed by sleeping sol… read the full post

slow hand spike

Posted by slow hand on 6 June 2017 (5 comments)

So I became addicted to drugs age 13 and ended up on the streets and in a mental hospital several times doing nine months in all every time they would stick me back wit my family against my wishes who would get me hooked up on drugs again before they would put me back out on the street and then when I was quite stressed enough I would get stuck back in the asylum. I gave up around 25 26 and have b… read the full post

my wedding day

Posted by mel c on 2 June 2017 (6 comments)

My brother is a heroin addict, I'm due to get married 2 weeks Saturday in Austria, where we grew up and he is such a mess right now that the doctors wont let him leave the country because for the second time he is on a methadone program but only just restarted, I'm totally gutted, our dad died 18 years ago suddenly while we were really young and we have all struggled to come to terms and deal with… read the full post

My husband

Posted by Daisy on 2 June 2017 (5 comments)

I have been married for 23 years and my husband has always been a heavy drinker.  Over the last 10 years his drinking has sliwly got worse and worse.  He will admit he is dependent on drink but wont admit he is an akcoholic.  He doesnt touch alcohol until 5 pm but then drinks at least 2 cans of lager and a bottle of wine every night.  He also has quite a few medical priblems and is i am sure adfic… read the full post

My son

Posted by Darcy on 1 June 2017 (2 comments)

My son has been using drugs for over 15 years.. Cocaine , legal highs, and other substances but not ever heroine . He had held a job down sometimes by the skin of his teeth. He has ripped my family apart with worry over the years and did a 4 month stint in Jaik for domestic violence over his drug habit.. He has no kids and us 34! He lies, he has been known to threaten all of us to get money for hi… read the full post

My Girl Friend

Posted by SarahR4 on 23 May 2017 (3 comments)

I met my beautiful amazing girl friend when I came back from a few years traveling about 7 months ago. We hit it off amazingly and I've never felt a connection like I have with her. On our second date she told me she has been to rehab that she was addicted to Ketamine but was getting help and doing well. She told me prettty much everything and if I wanted to stop things she wouldn't be offended as… read the full post

My son

Posted by Justine on 19 May 2017 (1 comments)

On returning from holiday we found my son has been taking cocaine , he has taken various drugs over the last fifteen years . I have tried getting him to counselling to no avail. This episode has been particularly bad as I new at Christmas he was doing some thing but not sure what. He has got himself into a lot of debt. When we came home from holiday we found four wraps in his room and confronted h… read the full post

Our son

Posted by Therase on 19 May 2017 (6 comments)

We knew our son had a struggle with alcohol but it's become evident that he's been using cocaine and other drugs since his mid teens. He wants to get clean and is now without a job. As his parents, we will always love, help and support him , and so will his partner, she has been amazing. Our son is 27 now and recently he was pressurized , by a dealer,to pay a considerable sum of money - owed for c… read the full post

Myself

Posted by Joannemm,73 on 15 May 2017 (1 comments)

Iv been a heroin addict for some years and its ruined my life! Iv been user for 26years.now im in a situation where iv had to sign my 9year old over to my parents by social services.they told me to sort my drug issues out,my health,a housing.im clean but on methadone and have hair folicle tests every 6mths.i just signed for 2bed house with council.then today i have social services at my houze tell… read the full post

Echoes of dad

Posted by Elf on 13 May 2017 (1 comments)

I have read lots of posts and can identify with so much here.
My story comes in two parts. 
It started with the boyfriend I met at 15. He was my first boyfriend so I can use the excuse that I didn't know any different. From the beginning he liked alcohol but hey, we were 15 and who didn't like alcohol then?
Some friends nicknamed him 'Beer' and by the time we were 17 he was the one who looked preg… read the full post

My son

Posted by joanna46 on 11 May 2017 (3 comments)

I am at a loss, I dont even know what my son 'uses'... he is almost 20, the brightest happiest boy ever....and then weed....which increased in strength and use, probably I see now from about 16 yrs old....the last 2 years going AWOL 5 times, returning filthy and starving and penniless...me helping and taking him home....he gets a job and then payday comes... he disappears... reappearing having spe… read the full post

My daughter

Posted by Lynbo on 3 May 2017 (2 comments)

My daughter has had a problem with taking cocaine and drink since 2009, when it first reared its ugly head I buried my head in the sand, and couldn't believe what people were saying, she went working 6 months to Australia, to come back after 5/6 weeks but it seemed to have her back on track, since then she has lost really good jobs through letting her bosses down and not being able to trust her, s… read the full post

Struggling for help

Posted by MrsH on 3 May 2017 (3 comments)

My husband has recently admitted he is an alcoholic and we are now trying to deal with it. He's also suffering a severe depression. He's asked for help, wants to stop drinking, but is being passed from pilllar to post with no one willing to offer him any immediate help, meanwhile I'm trying to hold everything together - managing the kids, holding down a job. I hate seeing him so sad and unable to… read the full post

Emily

Posted by Suey63 on 29 April 2017 (4 comments)

Where to start. Emily is 22 she has a beautiful 2 year old a gorgeous 2 bed new build housing association house in a lovely place and a good job. All of which could be lost in a flash because Emily is a heavy cocaine addict and has been for approx a year and a half, maybe more. 

I am at my wits end though am learning more and more each day about cocaine addiction. Emily is at her worst an excelle… read the full post

My son

Posted by Anya on 26 April 2017 (5 comments)

My son started smoking weed when he was 14.  I had my suspicions for a while and I had questioned him. He finally broke down and admitted everything to his Year Head at school.  From then on I did everything in my power to try to get him to stop.  I kept close tabs on him, making him ‘check in with me’ every couple of hours, never gave him cash as I’d been caught out that way before and I re… read the full post

My mum and dad

Posted by Lilly Smith on 23 April 2017 (2 comments)

Ever since I can remember both my mum and dad have been addicted to alcohol. Don't get me wrong it's not like they sit at home all day drinking, they both work. As soon as they get back or have a day off their lives revolve around alcohol. I feel consumed by it, I try to get away from it but with my money troubles I have to live at home with them. When I was younger they use to leave me at home fo… read the full post

My mum is an addict

Posted by Sandy101 on 19 April 2017 (2 comments)

My mum is a drug addict, she has been for at least 15 years now. I am her only child and I am 22. She takes coke, heroin and maybe crack now and then. I have been with her through withdrawal of drugs and seen her at the lowest but then she takes drugs again to feel 'normal' or 'levelled'.. 
The last five years have been the worst for me, I've been working in jobs and making my own money which has… read the full post

son of 18 really worried

Posted by worried very worried on 15 April 2017 (9 comments)

my sn whos 18 is now smoking hash all the time and going into massive outburts of verbal abuse , he is always swearing at me and demanding i do things and give him money , i left a very viliont relationship 6 years ago and at this time my oldest was taken into care for my own saftey as he had also got to the stage of drinking heavely and then flipping in me , so the decision was taken out of my ha… read the full post

My son's downward spiral

Posted by Bethany on 10 April 2017 (4 comments)

I have just had the worst night of my life. my son, who is 28 has been a relatively functioning alcoholic for around 7 years but in the last few months he has become much worse which has resulted in him losing his job and girlfriend. he is now back at home with me and my husband (his step dad) on the sofa. He started drinking on Friday which lasted until last night when he tried to commit suicide.… read the full post

My partner and I are addicted to coke

Posted by Woody on 5 April 2017 (2 comments)

I am really struggling with life. After separating from my husband two years ago, who is a good man but suffocated me for years, I went crazy. I met another man who is amazing, generous, honest, loving... but we have a problem (HUGE) problem with drugs. He is self employed, earns a lot of money. But we are facing eviction. We owe money everywhere. We're both parents (I have three living with me, h… read the full post

Alexis

Posted by Alexis on 3 April 2017 (2 comments)

I am, I suppose in total denial but things are tough. I don't feel that I can write much on here.. We both had always loved drinking, his drinking would usually mean he would be unable to walk, stand, rarely he would be violent (not ever to me) but to other people. He is like two people, an angel and a devil. It's difficult to know what personality you will get. However he puts a lot on to me, tha… read the full post

my partner was abusing drugs and my finances

Posted by Kia_Davey_84 on 2 April 2017 (5 comments)

I have written this very simply as going into too much detail is a bit upsetting for me

I posted on here to hope that it can be viewed by non judgemental readers and help alleviate some of my stress.

Partner and I moved in together October 2016 he needed to borrow money off me for the deposit even though we had planned this for month… read the full post

My brother is a alcoholic and drug abuser

Posted by Ann on 31 March 2017 (2 comments)

Hi to all thoses going through drink drugs and mental Heath with a family member . I am desperate me and my sister regarding my brother. He is 46 with mental health he's taking drugs weed crack and a full blown Alcoholic we love him dearly but we are tired as we have been doing this for years helping in everyway we can. Him going into hospital getting him rehoused again and again he doesn't care a… read the full post

Is it his problem or mine?

Posted by Zac1976 on 27 March 2017 (3 comments)

Married to him for 25 years.  3 growing children. He is a senior professional. No financial worries.  Not an abusive relationship. My question is  whether his drinking is his problem or is it mine.  It is not the quantity he drinks but it is the habitual nature of the drinking.  Every night for the past 25 years he has consumed 3 pints of high strength lager EVERY SINGLE NIGHT.  It increases at so… read the full post

partner drinking

Posted by A.lone on 23 March 2017 (5 comments)

I have been with my partner for 16 years, all of that time he has been a heavy drinker, but over the last few years his drinking has become a real problem. He is literally drinking himself blind with strong lager. He has been diagnosed with optical atrophy and was told if he did not stop drinking he would lose his sight altogether. He can be very verbally abusive, very difficult to live with a per… read the full post

My Story

Posted by winkle on 20 March 2017 (4 comments)

I grew up in a village and to everyone that knew me i was just an ordinary child. I didnt feel very ordinary though. I could never put my finger on what i felt like, but mostly i felt that i was'nt worthy or deserved anything or anybody to like or even love me.
I married at 21 and had my first son a year later. The moment he was put in my arms i had this terrible fear that he would either die or g… read the full post

Cocaine over me

Posted by MHC85 on 19 March 2017 (3 comments)

When I met my partner in Greece and he moved here for me from Holland 6 months later to be with me I thought I was in a fairytale. Turns out every fair tale always has a villain and ours is cocaine. I knew he did it before he moved here but things have been getting worse and worse. He use to only do it every 3 weeks but at that time use to take money from our joint account, this hurt as I felt lik… read the full post

Drugs and Mental Health

Posted by Rosie B on 14 March 2017 (2 comments)

My son was 19 when he suffered his first psychotic episode after heavy cannabis smoking. He had two more, one keeping him in hospital for 7 months, before he understood that he could not smoke cannabis. While recovering from the third episode he met a beautiful girl selling The Big Issue, and fell in love, saying he was going to save her from heroin. But of course he tried it himself, and decided… read the full post

My dad.

Posted by Cab on 8 March 2017 (3 comments)

My dad has always had a problem with drink in my 37 years of having him as a parent. It was partly to blame for my parents getting a divorce and separating when I was just 3 years old. I was allowed to keep seeing him whilst growing up and in the early visits with him I became afraid to visit him alone. Just because he would drink and then fall asleep and I would then be alone until he woke up to… read the full post

terrified and heartbroken

Posted by tabbie on 7 March 2017 (2 comments)

My partner has relapsed after 5 months sober, drinking about a litre of vodka a day and that's only after a week of drinking! hes diabetic not eating, i dread going to work and dread coming home as i don't know what i will find when get home, hes been in rehab, been positive,i just lost I asked him to leave but hes no place to go and cant put him on the street. I love him beyond words when he not… read the full post

Heart broken but staying positive.

Posted by Annon20 on 6 March 2017 (2 comments)

My mother was an alcoholic. She lost her battle with alcoholism last year which left me heart broken. I tried my best to help her and support her as she was desperate to stop. I still think about what I could have done every day and night before I go to sleep to help her. I spoke to her one minute and the next she was gone - the dreaded phone call came. For the past year I've been torturing myself… read the full post

Hope for my child

Posted by Alicex on 6 March 2017 (2 comments)

I am the mother of a son and daughter. I have done what I thought was my best to bring up my children. I always thought they would come to me with their problems, they had been brought up not to take drugs, mix with the wrong crowd, have minds of their own.
I didnt realise at the time how powerful drug addiction can be. Ive been told it starts off like something that make you feel good to somethin… read the full post

Watching my son deteriorate through drugs

Posted by Wexford63 on 4 March 2017 (11 comments)

Firstly can I say how sorry I am to read about the many problems  people are having. It's heartbreaking to read sometimes. This is long, my apologies. I just need to get this out as its becoming really difficult for me to deal with. 

I am a father to a 21yr old and an 18yr old. The 21yr old has been depressed and smoking pot for many years. Just to add, his mother and I are divorced since he was… read the full post

help for hubby

Posted by alicia on 22 February 2017 (2 comments)

my husband i drinking more he wants to stop but finding it hard l,m trying to help him by refusing to get him drink ,it is distroying him he does not have a drink first thing in the morning it is in the afternoon he can go through a full bottle wiyhin a couple of hours. l,m just wanting advice on how l could help him cut down  he did go to counciling in the past and did cut right down but it is no… read the full post

Boyfriend is an addict

Posted by Lore on 9 February 2017 (5 comments)

The first time i found out my boyfriend was a crack addict I couldn't believe it. He has lied to me for more than 2years and i didn't even suspect he was consuming. I found out I was pregnant and i decided to be with him and help him change but it has been more than 2 years and he gets colder and colder. We've argued so many times he doesn't make enough money so I always have to ask my dad or his… read the full post

Can they really recover

Posted by Ktaka on 4 February 2017 (4 comments)

About 4 months ago I found out my boyfriend was addicted to cocaine. I did have a gut feeling that he had an addiction but it never crossed my mind. He has join the CA and been attending meetings and got a sponsor. He has had a couple of relapses and every one I react different I either accept it or it gets me so mad. I love him and love the guy he is. I want to be with him and watch him get over… read the full post

Still having my heart broken

Posted by Donna on 2 February 2017 (5 comments)

Hi, my name is Donna, Ive posted before.

I have been married 16 years in April. My husband has been using cocaine for 25 years. He is a binger. He sometimes goes 2 weeks without a binge, but the last 4 months he has been bingeing every week. I cannot begin to tell you the heartache this is causing me. Even though he is not taking daily, it feels like i am loosing him. His personality changes some… read the full post

Scared my son is addicted !!

Posted by Milly33 on 29 January 2017 (5 comments)

My son has is 18 now but has been experimenting with drugs now for a few years he has terrible mood swings and is always causing a big scene drawing attention to his self I'm so concerned about his behaviour as at times it's appalling and scary he seems to be taking percription tablets xnax he seems to dislike everyone and most of his friends from school no longer bother with him I live a very set… read the full post

Do I give up on her for my own sanity?!

Posted by sianny25 on 29 January 2017 (8 comments)

I'm 25 years old and live with my parents still, I'm saving up to move out.. My Mum is 65 and has always enjoyed a drink. She is so skinny and hardly eats. As iv grown up I've realised she's an alcoholic, a functioning alcoholic. She can go a couple of days without a drink if she's trying to prove she's not alcoholic, but quickly goes back to drinking stupidly as soon as anything gets to her. She… read the full post

worried

Posted by whattodo on 28 January 2017 (2 comments)

. when my sister finishes work she is buying booze every day and getting blathered she is married they both do it every night theres alot of things going on my mother is not well and she has to put up with this every single day she has hight blood pressure so she is on medication of the doctor, my sister as asked her to be a guarantor for a 12k car mum said no no i find out that my sister has told… read the full post

Do they ever change?

Posted by Emmalou2394 on 28 January 2017 (3 comments)

Im 22 years old and have watched my 26 year old brother grow up addicted to weed for the past 12 years. Through the years he has been abusive phsycially and mentally with numerous police calls and arrests. My mum has tryed to help him for the past 10 years but everytime she kicks him out she feels sorry for him, not knowing where he is and lets him back him. I resent some of her decisions as it wa… read the full post

Do they ever really stop?

Posted by Maxx on 24 January 2017 (5 comments)

I'm a mum of 29 year old drug addict to Legal Highs and weed - which he seems to believe is his medicine he's convinced himself that he has a Mental Health disorder and he's self medicating  (so obviously doesn't have a drug problem!), over the past 10 years he's lost everything his business, partner and friends. We have had so many nights worrying and wondering where he is, he sleeps on the stree… read the full post

Alcoholic husband

Posted by Ariel on 23 January 2017 (2 comments)

Hi after a crappy Christmas time and my husbands drinking taking over everything he's finally admitted hes an alcoholic. Something i have also had to say out loud after knowing for a while. He's always loved a drink but i suppose when your just a couple you sort of accept it and if its not massively affecting your life carry.on with it! The drinkings got worse since we had our 2 beautiful children… read the full post

It's never going to end is it??

Posted by BlueButterfly1 on 22 January 2017 (8 comments)

My partner is an alcoholic. What can I do?nothing. She doesn't care where she drinks. How much she drinks. As long as she can drink it quickly and often.  You read all the info. Don't argue with em while drunk. But what can I do? Don't enable them...don't sort out their debt etc...we'll I'm stuck. If I don't pay her bills, her half if the mortgage I lose everything. Not only do I pay fir everythin… read the full post

Want him back

Posted by hrw on 19 January 2017 (2 comments)

I recently found out my boyfriend is using heroin. I found needles and burnt spoons in his bag months ago and when he told me it was for steroids I went along with it cause I was too scared to admit the truth. A while later he admitted he had been taking it and was addicted to it so I had to face up to the truth. I broke up with him and managed 3 weeks knowing he was sleeping in a tent until I got… read the full post

My boy

Posted by Tilly on 14 January 2017 (2 comments)

My boy is a lovely kind hearted young man and I love him very much but now I can't cope with him asking for money everyday, he was taken off of methadone and started put on Buprenorphine and I think he may be using on top ... this year things have got so bad that I told him go and die !! I can see he is struggling and I don't have the strength nor energy to help him .. it's like watching him behin… read the full post

my wonderful so is a crack head

Posted by eavy on 12 January 2017 (23 comments)

There iv said it.I can remember the first time my son"at 17 years old"
Came home,after 2 days,it was in the middle of the night.He came into my bedroom,and was crying like a baby.Mum,he said,please help me.I held my son in my arms,and said,ok my darling,tell me what yiu have been taking.I new, at this point,i had to be strong.At the back of my mind,im praying,please dont say the word her… read the full post

My boyfriend stay in one place use drugs and achool

Posted by Adriana on 12 January 2017 (2 comments)

My boyfriend live with me 3 years.  Last monday he desapear the house. He have 2 childrens with the last marrieg. He supost going court tusday for request more time with his childrens but he no show up. He love his kids and he always trying have more time with then. I going in police departament make one missing report. The cops found him in one house with one old man complet drunk and no take him… read the full post

How do I tell my 9 year old her father is an addict

Posted by Nicki99 on 8 January 2017 (2 comments)

Hi, I'm looking for some advice regarding my daughters dad 
He has been addicted to heroin for almost 20 years now 
He has done a few stints in rehab and managed to stay clean for a couple of months at a time Over the years, however in the last few years it has become apparent that he's never going to be clean 
He recently went to rehab for 2 months but told my daughter he was away for work...that… read the full post

Lost and alone

Posted by Anni on 8 January 2017 (4 comments)

I have been with my husband for 5 years we have a son and married only 5 months ago. My husband is addicted to cocaine and I don't no which way to turn. It all started a couple of months before our wedding and I noticed a complete change in his behaviour. At the time we were living with my parents and they too had noticed a change in his behaviour and were very worried about it. He was working lat… read the full post

Pandora's box

Posted by Broken Mum on 5 January 2017 (2 comments)

"Knowledge is power" or so I have always thought, but her I am - head in hands, wishing I could somehow 'unknow' something I discovered by violating my daughter's privacy.
To provide some context, my daughter left home 4 years ago to embark on a journalism degree. Winning prizes for free-lance work during the first year of her studies, I was convinced that her path in life was set. Alway… read the full post

A bit lost

Posted by Arya on 5 January 2017 (2 comments)

I have known my husband for nearly 30 years, we both have always had a tricky relationship with alcohol, I know that I sometimes use it as a prop and a comfort when I am stressed, he worked in the music business and theatre most of his life where the drinking culture was powerful and normalised.
In recent years I have become concerned about my own consumption and have made an attempt to cut down,… read the full post

Dee

Posted by Donna on 5 January 2017 (2 comments)

Hi.....Ive posted on here before. I am sad to say that nothing has really changed and my husbands addiction to cocaine is still making my life miserable. In fact the word miserable does not do it justice. He is destroying my soul. He never takes cocaine sober but loves to go out and drink and let his hair down as he does have a stressful job. Once he has had 3-4 pints he will start with the cocain… read the full post

My mom.

Posted by Lay93 on 5 January 2017 (6 comments)

Hey guys. My mom has been an alcoholic for over 15 years. I started noticing it when i was just 11 years old. For years ive had to pick her up off the floor when she's had far too much, and she has also suffered with black puts and fitting. She doesnt mix with the right people and i try to talk to her about it but she pretends to listen to me. For years me and my family have offered our support an… read the full post

He wont give it up for us

Posted by Jenna2017 on 3 January 2017 (1 comments)

Been with partner for 23 years and hes always smoked stuff. Obviously it was ok until we had kids. We have 4  now. It got to the point that anytime he was about to run out or had run out hed become impatient with kids and verbally abusive to me. Hes so addicted. Ine night he walked 6 miles just to get it. It was getting so bad i told him to choose. He left us. He comes and sees kids but says he ca… read the full post

Living next to a alcoholic

Posted by Bananacake on 2 January 2017 (4 comments)

Hi, so I live in Hertfordshire, need some advice. Since August 2016 I have been living next to a alcoholic. When he drinks he is volient, has very distressing mental health episodes, is a very heavy smoker (the communal hallway smells, his bedroom backs on to mine and it has started to come through the wall), plays very loud music, and has recently been arrested for class a drugs, rape and somethi… read the full post

Out Of My Depth

Posted by Queen Bee on 30 December 2016 (5 comments)

My son is 19, i have recently got divorced and moved out of the family home. He has changed. He used to e lively, talkative and funny. After starting college 2 years ago , he stated smoking, then smoking canabis. I had my hip replaced and he stole all my pain killers....
  Now he is thin, pale, withdrawn . He never eats with us as a family. He is quiet
He is illusive, comes in very late and stays… read the full post

Christmas Break

Posted by Administrator on 21 December 2016 (0 comments)

Dear Share Your Story Users,
From 22 December 16 to 3 January 17, Adfam staff will be taking a Christmas break, so this blog will not be monitored. If you are in need of help please call a helpline, you can find details here: http://www.adfam.org.uk/families/find_a_local_support_group/call_a_helpline. If you or a family member or friend is in need of urgent medical attention, or you are concerned… read the full post

Sharing my son's poem about his battle with drugs to help others

Posted by EDP on 21 December 2016 (3 comments)

My sister and I following the death of my son, Simon, want to share a poem he wrote whilst in prison at 5.30am which shares insight into his battle with drugs. The poem was read at his funeral and provoked much emotion from all. We hope that by releasing the poem and sharing his story that other people who are in a similar situation will be inspired to find help. Or that people who have family mem… read the full post

My daughter is an alcohlic

Posted by Rita on 19 December 2016 (1 comments)

Mydaughter has been an alcholic for15years and she has many ilnesses and i have got to a point where i can not handle it anymore i just dont know what to do for the best if sge does not get her own way she gets very abusive can any one out there help me how to realky understand what i am suppose to do… read the full post

heroin & crack - my youngest son

Posted by valerie on 19 December 2016 (1 comments)

Hi am new to this but not to my sons drug addiction , am off work today as i can't face the world, i have had support for years now to help me deal with his addiction and it has been a life line . but now things have changed he is on crack & heroin and can't believe i wish he was just back on coke. He has now started stealing from supermarkets , he turned up on my doorstep unkempt slept for 2… read the full post

Heroin and my son

Posted by Shaneal on 18 December 2016 (3 comments)

Hi l really just do not think l can take any more l have a large family of 1 daughter and 4 sons and my two eldest sons are drug addicts one in prison and has spent most of his adult life in there and the other son after 20 years and nearly losing his own family he went to rehab for 3 months , he looked so good  when he returned and put on weight and l thought the misery was over but l am sure he… read the full post

heroin & crack misery.

Posted by Suzy on 18 December 2016 (4 comments)

Hi I am the mother of a Loving Son who is addicted to crack & heroin. He has been now for almost 20 years of his life. On two occasions during this 20 year period he has gone through 2 detoxs and rehabs the last one in 2009 when he was close to death. Over the last 3 months he has declined terribly into a truly abbhorrent lifestyle.  I haven't been to his flat to see him as I can't bear to see… read the full post

I need Advice

Posted by Jasmine16 on 14 December 2016 (2 comments)

My husband and I have been together for 16 years. Over the past 5 or so years he has started drinking heavily every night. He can easily drink a bottle of gin 1 Litre straight in less than 2 days. Its horrible I have tried to talk to him just calls me awful names and once or twice has gone for me. I don't understand because he did Dry January and stuck to it just drinks heavily the rest of the tim… read the full post

Long distance support

Posted by Sam80 on 14 December 2016 (4 comments)

My partner of three years was diagnosed with probable alcoholic liver disease (I don't yet know the details) on December 1st and was told he needed to stop drinking immediately. He's been a moderate to heavy drinker for 22 years. The most positive aspect of the situation was that he went to the doctor on his own initiative, readily admitted the extent of his consumption and told me he wanted to ch… read the full post

I give up

Posted by Singlemummy on 11 December 2016 (2 comments)

I knew it was there somewhere but i have found my limit. I wrote a few months ago about how i hoped my husband was managing to beat his addiction and that i had even tried to forgive his adultery. 
But after a 6 month separation he has been spiralling out of control again, taking out over £700 in pay day loans this week and staying out all night - and he still has not paid me a penny towards xhil… read the full post

im 14

Posted by lily7890 on 5 December 2016 (6 comments)

im a 14 year old gilr and i have drug and alcahol problems,my dad dies when i was 9 and ive been depressed since,i got into the wrong crowd and then it became my life,it made me forget all my pain,but now it just is an addiction,never try drugs or alcahol.… read the full post

Sister

Posted by Mel on 30 November 2016 (3 comments)

Hi, 

My sister is 29 and has a little boy. She has just gone through a 6 month rehab programme, but I fear she might be struggling and possibly on the verge of a relapse. She has on 3 occasions I know of had a drink since she has left rehab - I just do not know what to do to help her and I am very worried about my nephew having to go through the same situation as before.… read the full post

Searching for Solutions

Posted by Elli on 19 November 2016 (4 comments)

My daughter is 31.  She has been having terrible problems with alcohol for about 6 or 7 years.  As time goes on she just gets worse and worse.  Of course her drinking means that she ends up in the company of some pretty awful people.  Drinkers of course.   These men that she finds only seem to make her life so much worse.  She then drinks more to get away from her terrible life and so it goes on.… read the full post

Part one

Posted by annalouise on 18 November 2016 (2 comments)

There are 200,000 grandparents and family members raising up to 300,000 children. Many give up work to care for these children and end up in poverty. 7 in 10 are stressed, depressed or isolated. They raise these children without any financial, practical or emotional support.(These facts/ figures are directly from the grandparents plus organisation.) These people are called kinship carers and I am… read the full post

How can I get myself out of this negative downward spiral

Posted by CB on 18 November 2016 (2 comments)

Over the past 11 years my son now 27 has gone on a downward spiral that has resulted in prison for many various criminal offences  , stealing from his family ,a failed relationship that has resulted in a wonderful 17 month old grandson that is just so beautiful ,my son doesn't really see him much .He is now a self confessed drug addict ,  I am now as his father completely uncertain of my relations… read the full post

not sure where to turn

Posted by Georgie on 16 November 2016 (6 comments)

Hi there, I'm looking for some kind of help/support as im at my witts end. I'm 19 and for my whole life my dad has suffered with heroine, crack, and cocaine addiction. I wasn't really aware of it until recent years, I always knew there was something wrong but didn't know what until finding heroine and crack in his bedroom a few years back. Since then his problems have got worse and worse with him… read the full post

No end in sight

Posted by alib on 15 November 2016 (17 comments)

I am looking for anyone in a similar situation to me. My son has been a drug addict on and off for 10 years. I am at my whits end as to know where to turn to for help. He has been homeless, in prison and in general is a hateful person but because he is my son I always try to see ways of what I thought was helping him. The last 2 years have been hell on earth coping with his behaviour. The way he s… read the full post

18 yrs for what

Posted by Too long on 10 November 2016 (11 comments)

I met him after the failure of my first marriage. He was so caring, so loving, such a special man. He moved in with me and my children. He was so good with them and my eldest was so awful to him. I became pregnant and was overjoyed. He'd told me about his past but no mention of addiction. He'd made bad choices and been to jail but oh my arrogance - i could make it all better. I could give him a li… read the full post

How much more can my family take

Posted by dolly on 8 November 2016 (2 comments)

So 5 years ago we found out that my brother was taking heroin and had been for a few years previous to this.  He has been in and out of rehab/living on the streets/stealing off every single family member and work colleagues even burglary.  We have found numerous court summons/fines everything possibly imaginable but he still wont stop. Every now and then he will appear back at home with my parents… read the full post

How can I help my boyfriend beat cocaine

Posted by Jolie1 on 1 November 2016 (7 comments)

I am a new mum! I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. He is now a cocaine addict. He hid the fact that he took cocaine from me for the first two years, however it finally all came out (I have no idea about drugs, so I didn't recognise the warning signs) - He apparently only used to take cocaine at weekends, on nights out! Now he has it everyday (a small amount, but still... everyday)..… read the full post

Mother problem?

Posted by I Am. on 31 October 2016 (7 comments)

So many times I told my mother I'd move out if she carried and drinking, and when I did actually move into my dad's (I'm only fifteen) she got extremely upset/depressed. This hasn't stopped her drinking though, or made her even acknowledge the fact that her alcoholism and attitude/behaviours are the reason my family is falling apart. I obviously don't want to say that to her because she's my mothe… read the full post

Struggling

Posted by Charlotte12 on 28 October 2016 (15 comments)

Hello all,
 I'm a newly single mum of 3, my youngest being 6 months old.  My ex moved out 2 months ago after I could no longer handle his addiction to vodka.  He had become too much of a risk to have in the home in terms of being drunk through the day when I'm looking after kids etc and so I of course had to prioritise the kids and he's gone.  He completely understood that id reached my limit and… read the full post

Any success stories out there supporting a loved one?

Posted by Wife/Carer on 26 October 2016 (22 comments)

Hi All.

I know we all often come here in times of desperation and needs and when things are not going well….

What I’m wanting to know is, are there any success stories from family out there… read the full post

Broke, broken and cheated on

Posted by Singlemummy on 19 October 2016 (8 comments)

Firstly -my husband through NA (can not rate it highly enough, but only when the addict is ready) has reached 60 days clean! So hopefully this story will have a happy ending....
I found out about his coke use 6 months into our relationship and took out loans and lent money (£40,000 to date) to pay off the bailiffs and his pay day loans and credit cards every year or so since then. I believed the… read the full post

Heart Broken & Depressed

Posted by Panda on 18 October 2016 (11 comments)

Hello,
I would like to share my story, hopefully someone here can relate and i can move forward in my life without feeling hate and resentment towards my now ex boyfriend of 2 years and his family..well his Mother who I once had the utmost respect for, but now it's lost. My boyfriend and I was very much in love, we were great friends for 6 months before we got together, he lived at mine for a year… read the full post

Broken

Posted by GAF2016 on 18 October 2016 (13 comments)

Hi I am a broken hearted Mum of a 27 year old cocaine addict.  I have been trying to "fix" him for over a year now.  I am 21,000 in debt and I don't know which way to turn now.  I can go on and on with all that has happened over the last two years, but I don't think there will be enough space on here!!  I have done Counselling 1on1 and nothing is really helping me to cope and help my son… read the full post

Broken hearted

Posted by Jean Joyce on 17 October 2016 (6 comments)

I have covered up my son's drug addiction for years.  He is 33 now and is guilt ridden and hates himself.  When he fights his addiction and has good days he is a helpful, kind supportive son.  But his demon is crack cocain which eats away at  his brain and his weakness.  Over the years i have paid out thousands of pounds to drug dealers in fear of what they will do/have done to him and to stop the… read the full post

Living with a cocaine adict

Posted by Wits end on 16 October 2016 (9 comments)

Ive been with my partner for five years no children. When we first met he knew i hated drugs and had spent 18 years with a man that drank took drugs and was very violent and controling. He also knew how hard it was for me to get out of that relationship and pick myself up. After we had been together a couple years i learnt he had a very traumatic childhood and a cocaine habbitt but that he hadent… read the full post

Lost and trying to figure it out

Posted by Found my soulmate on 15 October 2016 (2 comments)

My partner has admitted an addiction to cocaine his been clean now for 3 weeks and a bit and is doing brilliant attending classes etc however he has said he needs time out as to look at me feels him with guilt and now his totally withdrawn all effection and touch gone. I know he has lots to sort out but i feel slightly punished but innocent ive googled loads but nothing comes up as help i want to… read the full post

Making the right decision

Posted by Shelby on 14 October 2016 (2 comments)

My brother is a re occurring addict. He's just come out of a rehab after a year. He was taking 50 tremadol tablets a day and  any other tablets he could get his hands on we found out after he started having seizures and nearly died. I found out last week he has been taking heroin and is now living with me my two children and my partner. But I'm so lost I don't no what to do and it's tearing me apa… read the full post

Need help and advice over stepson smoking weed

Posted by Juls29 on 13 October 2016 (2 comments)

Need help step son smoking weed
Really don't know what to do for the best , my step son who 19 been smoking weed for good  few years now and is causing huge issues in our marriage. 
A year and half his dad kicked him out over it and money and he lived with a drug friend up road. I stupidly felt sorry for him after 6 months let him back . We told him on the condition no drug stuff in house. We a ye… read the full post

Other opportunities to share your story

Posted by Adfam Administrator on 13 October 2016 (0 comments)

Here at Adfam we are continually impressed by the bravery and the honesty of the stories that families share on this blog. The intention is to allow family members to tell their story in their own words, and we hope that this helps people to get feelings off their chest, and that other families will feel less isolated and alone when they read of other’s similar experiences.

At the moment at Adf… read the full post

alcohol addicted

Posted by John on 5 October 2016 (5 comments)

a member of my family used alcohol because they got beaten by there EX partner and the EX partner keeps sending terrible messages and think that she is worthless and that she will never get with anyone… read the full post

On the Periphery of Addition. Notes from a Mom.

Posted by daytoday on 27 September 2016 (2 comments)

Along the bumpy road to recovery……  and then what?  More bumps and the random sink hole. That’s what! 

I’ve met many heroin addicts over the past couple of years.  During that time some have died, some continue cycling through the system, and a few have made it to sobriety.  This is a story about that backend of the road to recovery.  

While policy makers and researchers look into causes… read the full post

Hope

Posted by Bunny on 27 September 2016 (1 comments)

Hi my son is in his 14th year of alcohism,and 2 years ago i hit my rock bottom,my life in dealing with his illness and all the worry anxiety and constant state of panic had deeply affected my health,i really didnt want my life to continue any longer.
I found al-anon and 2 years later i am a completely  renued woman,
I followed the suggestions to keep coming back to the meetings,i got a sponsor and… read the full post

If I could turn back time

Posted by joan22 on 10 September 2016 (10 comments)

If you are young enough and strong enough and you are so fed up with being lied to and used, and feel your health is being damaged as a result of worry - walk away. Walk and keep on walking, and don't look back. Yes, it will hurt, but five, ten, fifteen years down the road you will be so, so pleased you did. I wish I had. I have endured the never-ending lies, begging, crying, prison visits, no rea… read the full post

Had it all. Lost it all

Posted by Sillver Surfer on 7 September 2016 (5 comments)

To every body that knew him my husband was a successful person.  He had Grand children who doted on him and family members that had told him how concerned they were about his drinking. He had been warned on several occasions. However he has been a functioning alcoholic  for the past 12years.   Sadly both his parents died within 6 months of each other and instead of accepting the help that he was o… read the full post

My brothers using again after a year clean

Posted by Charlotte on 4 September 2016 (5 comments)

So I just found out today that my brother 26 yrs old has started using heroin and crack cocaine again after being clean for nearly a year. He was in a 12 step recovery rehab programme yet he's still gone back to the drugs. He's been using constantly now for 2 weeks and has been kicked off his programme and out of his flat. Two christmas's ago he nearly lost his leg due to severe injuries from inje… read the full post

My Tangled Love

Posted by Liam60 on 26 August 2016 (6 comments)

I feel I'm dying as my sadness bruises my lungs and my throat swallows hard

I'm aware of my nostrils warm and bitter flies as buzzing around the open door

My hope is gone and with it my last beating heart of hot air misplaced and out of join… read the full post

my husband is an alcoholic.

Posted by grace on 25 August 2016 (9 comments)

My husband has been an alcoholic for a number of years. He has been through detox once but it did not work. For years I have put up with the emotional abuse and blackmail, in and out of jobs so I have had to try and keep the family afloat and hiding his alcoholism from all our friends and family. After I found out he had an affair I began to stand up for myself and challenged his behaviour. He cou… read the full post

Nearly ready to give up...

Posted by Near the end on 22 August 2016 (12 comments)

Hi, please please please can someone help me.. I'm desparate and I've no where else to turn to.. I've been with my partner for 2 and a half years and his drink and drug use is now completely out of control. I don't know how much more I can take. It started off with him going missing at weekends when we first met and I thought he was just a bit of a jack the lad, the more I fell in love with him th… read the full post

Julia

Posted by Julia on 20 August 2016 (7 comments)

contentTonight I recieved forwarded messages from my son sent to him by his drug dealer.  They threatened to do violating things to him and me if he did not pay up.  I am broke from helping him and i dont know what to do.  I am told not to pay but i am left with the nightnare of what they said they would do and i am alone and scared.  He has been kicked out of our home this week because he stole h… read the full post

Same old same old

Posted by Desperate Mum on 19 August 2016 (10 comments)

My son has had alcohol/drug addiction for what seems like forever. He is waiting to go inti a 3 month rehab but  i am worried that he will ruin his chances before he ever gets there. He goes 1 step forward and 3 back! I have tried so hard to support him but he just goes from bad to worse and i really feel i hate him sometimes for the way he uses people and cares about no one but himself. He has ju… read the full post

Jackrussel2

Posted by Jackrussel2 on 17 August 2016 (4 comments)

I feel so alone and would value people's comments and advice. My husband of 15 years (aged 61) is addicted to Cannabis. He has smoked it since he was a teenager and does not want to stop. He would deny he is addicted, but I know he is. He had a hard emotionally abusive childhood and struggles to cope with stress and conflict, using weed to 'numb' his emotions. He has 3 children aged: 24,27 and 30,… read the full post

Hurricane Hailey

Posted by intheatticagain on 16 August 2016 (6 comments)

She's at it again! She's using herion. She's at the point where she's coming down and she is violent. She throws things, breaks my stuff, and tries to hurt me. She has been to rehab 5 times. Always meeting Mr. Perfect in rehab. He supplies the next fix. I'm afraid and it seems no one will help me. I guess because she's been at this for 10 years. I'm ready to give up. I'm done with her hurting me.… read the full post

What can I do?

Posted by Irishgirl on 12 August 2016 (15 comments)

Hi everyone, this is a totally new situation for me and I am struggling to deal with it. I have been with my partner for 8 and a half years and he hadn't had a drink in 9 and a half years up until May when he quit his job as it was becoming very stressful and his manager was treating him like crap. I had no idea that he was drinking again until I arrived home from an evening out with my friends an… read the full post

Advice Please

Posted by concerned mum on 10 August 2016 (7 comments)

My son is currently in a UK prison awaiting trial...he has been in and out of custody since 16 and is now 21...Nearly all offences drug and alcohol related...I have at the moment authorised use of his bank account to pay debts and keep an eye on his finances...He has just called me and and asked for hundred pound to be paid into a prison drug dealers bank account...What the hell do I do now? sensi… read the full post

how can i help

Posted by jayejaye75 on 8 August 2016 (7 comments)

My partener of 18mnths is alcohol dependent and has been for 11 years he does try to cut down and has been on 3 detox programmes he suffers bad anxiety and if he needs to go anywhere he has to have a drink at least 2-3 hours before feeling 'normal' to leave home. I really feel he is going around in a vicious circle and the help he gets dosnt fit what he really needs i feel that his anxiety should… read the full post

How do you do this?

Posted by fubar on 7 August 2016 (5 comments)

So I've read a lot of posts on this site and I am sorry for all of your struggles.

My story seems to be the opposite to most. I am 25 with 3 sisters. We were born into a world with 2 alcoholic parents, and while we were young I didn't realise that my sister was getting us breakfast and taking us to school because my parents were too hungover, or that my clothes were too small, dirty or ripped bec… read the full post

helpless

Posted by smeeeee on 4 August 2016 (18 comments)

I have a daughter who is a heroine addict and has been one for many years, I have helped her all I can to no avail, as I am a pensioner and lived so far away from my family, after a discussion with my son I decided to move nearer to him, I got on so well with him and thought that he would help me through my twilight years, just be closer if I should need help.

I was here for a few weeks and all w… read the full post

What do I do.

Posted by Mitch52 on 2 August 2016 (11 comments)

My husband has what he tells me is three pints a day up the local then will come home and have at least 4 cans sometimes up to eight.  He only has one day off a week, a Sunday when the boys are not on the scene.  But if they get in contact it can be 7 days a week.  He has gone through so much with cancer I wonder whether this is his way of dealing with it.  But there is only so much I can cope wit… read the full post

Any advise please....

Posted by jonic on 31 July 2016 (5 comments)

Hi, I have never posted any comment on this kind of site before but feel I really need the help for me as a mother and for my son (29).
I will keep my story brief, I found out that my son has a heroin addiction about 2 years ago, his addiction is 4 years on but I didn't know until 2014. He lives with me and my parents and is from a really good home. We supported him, went to all the usual places a… read the full post

scared

Posted by brokenmam on 30 July 2016 (6 comments)

My son has been a Heroin user for 20 years on and off, more on than off, he was diagnosed at 15 as having some learning behaviours and this has had an impact on his ability to enhanced think and struggle to see consequences, he recently relapsed again and I discovered today he has been stealing from my bank account to fund this, I am broken, i am not even angry, I can't afford the loss but i am mo… read the full post

Feeling lost and alone

Posted by Wife/Carer on 28 July 2016 (33 comments)

My Husband is is heroin addict. He was an addict before we met, was in recovery when he first started going out and opened up to me 3 months into our relationship about his past. 
The first 3 years of our relationship consisteted of one big and messy relapse where he hit rock bottom, lost his job, had numerous car accidents and our relationship broke down but he eventually seeked help through deto… read the full post

Drugs .. :(

Posted by Jodiebob on 27 July 2016 (2 comments)

Hello all, I'm not entirely sure why I'm writing this ... But it just seems that speaking about it to people who really feel the pain of having a loved one (s) with drug abuse will understand why I'm writing this ?! If you know what I mean :(
I'm 40 I am the baby off my siblings I have had horrible heroin in my life for 28 years now .... I hate it ... It took my best friend and brother when he was… read the full post

Sandra

Posted by Sandra on 24 July 2016 (14 comments)

I have just had my hopes dashed again today by my 37 year old son who has been a drug addict for the past 14 years. Just found out that he had spent the rent money I gave him last month so faces eviction unless I pay the arrears. I feel like I am on a roller coaster with him as he tells me lies and then dashes my hopes when I find him out. I feel like a drug addict myself as I always end up helpin… read the full post

Tired

Posted by mummyd on 18 July 2016 (2 comments)

I am so tired and weary. My child has been on and off heroin for the last 12 years. Recently has been using daily again but is now seeking help (again!). I just don't know where to go from here. Sometimes I just want to walk away, but how can I leave, I may be the only friend they have. I somehow blame myself (although told time and time again it is not) and as I write this just want to collapse i… read the full post

agony

Posted by upset on 15 July 2016 (4 comments)

I'm so lonely my daughter and I don't have much to say over the past years she never speaks to me only comes when she wants something I fee like I've lost her years ago over the years I've cryed for many years I used to try talking to her but always ends up arguing she's not the same girl anymore I wait every day for bad news she's destroyed her own life and others why should any mother have to de… read the full post

Addict bf and im ill with worry :(

Posted by zoeceleste on 29 June 2016 (2 comments)

Hi im zoe from scotland .
my bf is a herion addict and i have no one to talk to,we met at high school went our separate ways and after many years got back together,i have two young children and he has two grown up kids,
Things at the beginning was so good a normal happy life until i noticed some behaviour changes i kept questioning myself over and over "" but no way could he be hes so cl… read the full post

What to do for the best

Posted by helloworld on 26 June 2016 (3 comments)

Hello all,

About a month ago I found out that my older brother (41) is a cocaine addict. He has been taking cocaine for over 15 years, unbeknownst to our family. Of course, there were occasions now when looking back it should have been obvious, but for whatever reason - be it naivety or unwillingness to notice - I didn't put two-and-two together.

His long-term partner left him two Christmases ag… read the full post

Loosing hope

Posted by Granny of 8 on 23 June 2016 (4 comments)

Hi my name is Sheila my son 39yrs of age has been a drug addict for 14 yrs now with very brief periods of being clean. Well we've just had another bust up my health is poor and don't know how much more stress I can take well ive told him not to contact me again I was so angry and frustrated with him it's all the lies ive heard them so many times I could write a book I've told him when hes ready to… read the full post

Depression or Alcoholism???

Posted by miniatureone on 20 June 2016 (10 comments)

I have a wonderful partner, we've been together for 3 years. He has always liked a drink but on more than one occasion he has been violent & aggressive towards me, my children & our friends.  He is always so upset the next day, apologising etc.  He blames these outbursts on his "depression".  He takes antidepressants, prescribed by his GP.  My question is, does he drink because h… read the full post

Addict Son in Youth Offenders Again

Posted by concerned mum on 11 June 2016 (2 comments)

Hi all its been quite some time since my last post but not because things had settled down life has become a real strain.  I am mum to a Son who has spent approximately 3 months of every year since the age of 16 in a Youth Offending Institute.  He is days away from his 21st and there again..He is a binge drinker and when that is not enough its Mkat weed cocaine and now I hear he is smoking Heroine… read the full post

what to do?

Posted by Elsie on 3 June 2016 (2 comments)

Hi, Ive just signed up to Adfam blog. My son is almost 27 and is driving me to despair. Bottom line is he stole from home from an young age to buy cigarettes and weed and heaven knows what else (he's not on heroin) and we all believed we were misplacing things, my other son even suggested we had a poltergeist!...Yeah that's how ignorant we were. Anyway, this week his girlfriend ended the relations… read the full post

Life Goes On...

Posted by Younger Sibling on 1 June 2016 (7 comments)

5/31/2016
My name is Emily Fisher and I’m 13 now and this took place when i was 12, and my brother at age 16. so if you need to read a story here you go. (I have parents permission to do this.)

I remember the day that I found out vividly. It was a winter day in January and I just got home from school. I was working on homework and when I finished I went up stairs to help my mom with some laundr… read the full post

My dad..

Posted by Product of a broken home on 31 May 2016 (2 comments)

My father started drugs (meth) about 5-6 years ago as a way to cope with my grandpa passing away. Ever since then he's been an addict. Its really gotten bad over the pass 2 years and continues to get worse. Since he loss his job he's home all day and has nothing to do so he turns to drugs. My dad was once a man who loved his wife and daughter and would do anything to make them happy. My dad always… read the full post

Don't Know Where To Turn

Posted by Rob J on 27 May 2016 (2 comments)

I have a son aged 33, still living at home.  A long time user of Cannabis and to a lesser extent Cocaine.  He is increasingly irrational, paranoid and aggressive when he is depressed enough to use something other than just Cannabis.  It has reached the stage where his aggressive outbursts are accompanied with threats to kill himself, or set the house on fire.  The next day it's like it never happe… read the full post

son 23

Posted by motherinneed on 26 May 2016 (2 comments)

Hi I  am other to a 23 year old who has been a user of various subs since mid teens.He is bright but failed verious uni courses due to alcohol and lack of friends and engagement on the course.He has now lost his manual job and flat due to subs abuse and lives back at home.He is attending couselling but has nolife skills whatsoever,even failing to get job seekers due to him not having enough bus fa… read the full post

Husband abuses drugs

Posted by Hausofmel on 24 May 2016 (2 comments)

My husband has hit rock bottom. We got together over four years ago and back then he was a uni student and I a college student. He was open about his weed use from day one which I didn't have a huge problem with. But almost two years ago a few weeks before our wedding I found out that he was addicted to morphine as he was able to steal it from his mum. My word came crashing down then but stupid me… read the full post

Sad

Posted by Sad on 18 May 2016 (5 comments)

My son and his wife are heroin addicts, they have a 18 year old daughter who was six when the heroin started but previously they dabble in all sorts of drugs! They live quite a distance from us so my main contact is by phone, or I should say my bank!! Because that is the only time I hear from him. But I have always had regular contact. And always had our lovely granddaughter regularly. She lives i… read the full post

My mother is a heroin addict

Posted by Emily on 6 May 2016 (3 comments)

my mum is on drugs. I can't say this to anyone.. I am 30 now and my whole childhood she was an addict and a terrible mother. For the last 10 years I thought she was clean. 4 months ago I went to visit and heard a weird noise in the night, walked in her room to find her smoking a silver foil thing. She is old with a full time job she is so close to loosing, 2 detoxes in 4 months she's on a meth scr… read the full post

Experience with alcoholic partner

Posted by Vida15 on 2 May 2016 (2 comments)

So a year a go I got with this girl who I had known for a few year. She has had a tough life has been in abusive relationships and her dad died when she was young. After a few month it came apparent to me that she had an alcohol problem, she's got two kids from a previous relationship. Anyways to keep a long story short social services were called and the children were taken from her and lifted te… read the full post

Been here before

Posted by Lindsey on 30 April 2016 (4 comments)

In 2011, my brother died at aged 55 from alcoholism. My parents were devastated and within 2 years they had also both died, one with bowel cancer and the other with prostate cancer. I have 2 sisters, and these 3 huge family events hit us all very hard. We only realised my brother was an alcoholic when we saw him in 2010 and he looked so ill it was frightening. My you ger sister and I did everythin… read the full post

Shatter illusion

Posted by #confused on 28 April 2016 (4 comments)

Once apon a tyme, many years ago, i was a girl of forteen.
 i met a boy who was my everything. He was 17. Just less than a year we dated. He was the first person i slept with....

Our relationship was a turbulent one, even then he liked to dabble in drugs, he introduced me to them.  One night things came ahead and he finished with me. I was devistated. No man ever made me feel like that again. Alt… read the full post

My mother the cocaine & painkiller addict

Posted by Sandy on 23 April 2016 (3 comments)

Was wondering if I could have some advice as I don't know what to :( 
I am 24 years old now but my mother has had a cocaine problem since I was 11 and still to this day let me start from the beginning 
As I child I remember my mother never being home and one of my older sisters looking after me my father had left at a young age he is of Irish traveller decent I also remember bad incidents between… read the full post

Alcaholic dad

Posted by Jess241082 on 21 April 2016 (3 comments)

I'm 33 years old and my dad has been an Alcaholic for as long as I can remember, never a drinker in pubs and never ever violent towards us, he's always been great fun and loads of friends. When I just had a baby at 22 my mum finally reached all she could take and packed her bags and moved out and I can totally understand why, dad drinking was becoming worse and she was beginning to be grinder down… read the full post

The Man Who Lost Everything

Posted by Jennie21 on 20 April 2016 (3 comments)

I once knew a man who had everything. He was smart, funny, had a home, a partner, a job and a family of his own, but this was not to be forever. 
Of an evening coming home from work, he thought he'd have a can or two to relax and get over the stresses of the day. Then he also thought he'd have "a few cans" of a weekend, to wind down from the week and have fun. The "few cans" of… read the full post

My 17 year old son addicted to legal highs

Posted by Marymay on 18 April 2016 (2 comments)

My son has been taking legal highs since the age of 15 i only noticed as the mood swings was getting out of control for me I kept finding little sachets of this chemical not for human consumption on it so I didn't seem to fink much as I've never seen this kind of thing before only yesterday I cleaned his room and found a unlabelled bottle of this red syrup so I googled syrup looking drugs and befo… read the full post

Yong Love

Posted by Harrietemily on 11 April 2016 (3 comments)

I met a boy 4 years ago, I was 17 and he was 16. We were at a party and he had taken several pills and was off his face, I was oblivious to all this as I had no knowledge of drugs whatsoever and this was not a usual circle I mixed in so it was all unfamiliar, however we met and despite our differences I asked him to put his number in my phone he put a prison address and told me to write to him, he… read the full post

Help please!!...

Posted by Gem0805 on 10 April 2016 (5 comments)

Right....I'm gonna try and make this as short as possible....but may fail.....so nearly a year ago I met a guy through a dating sight....we clicked instantly and I loved how kind and caring he was....and sensitive too....after seeing each other for a few months I realised I was falling for him...so we became an item....I just felt like he was holding back something from me...and I found his job a… read the full post

I feel so alone!!

Posted by Lbz16 on 7 April 2016 (9 comments)

I met a lovely man and we just "clicked" really hit it off. After a few weeks he told me that he was having a joint, I immediately disliked this, couldn't believe what he was telling me, I felt angry at me for not telling me right away. I told him my views on weed and he told me that it wasn't that bad and it wasn't something that he did regularly, I really liked him so I believed this.… read the full post

Your worried big sister.

Posted by KAT92 on 31 March 2016 (7 comments)

Tonight you'll be spending your 3rd night in hospital. But this is not the 3rd night of which this poison runs through your vains. Mum took a picture last Friday for the Easter Weekend of me & our little sister. It truly was a good one, yet in that picture laid a whole other picture. It was missing you. I know you're not well right now, I know I will never make heads nor tails of why you do th… read the full post

Feeling powerless.

Posted by NKA94 on 25 March 2016 (9 comments)

I'm 21 years old and for as long as I can remember, my mum has had a problem with alcohol. It's hard to pinpoint an exact age or moment in time when I realised that her behaviour wasn't normal, but it's been an ongoing worry for the majority of my childhood and now my adult life too. I have taken so long to admit that she is alcohol dependent because I always believed alcoholics were people who dr… read the full post

making the break

Posted by mclovin on 21 March 2016 (4 comments)

my partner of 7 years has a cocaine addiction. he went for treatment which he completed around 3 years ago but has since relapsed. this month his beloved nan passed away and he has hit rock bottom. he spent £600 last week on it and on Friday he lost his temper and began screaming at my 9 yr old, a row erupted as I tried to defend her and infront of all of our scared kids he had me against a wall… read the full post

Reaching the end of the line....

Posted by Springtime on 19 March 2016 (14 comments)

A letter to my 23 year old daughter who is an addict..... What the ****? How the hell can you NOT change after everything you have put your daughter and family through?  How the hell can anyone on this planet be SO  selfish and think of themselves and ONLY of themselves? Is it a personality disorder? Is it the drugs?  Who the hell knows...only I know that I have been hurt beyond belief and am past… read the full post

It is Killing Me to Love You, Loving an Addict

Posted by Susan on 18 March 2016 (9 comments)

How do you love an addict? And why love an addict? Because we do not choose who we fall in love with.  Who our children or loved ones turn out to be are out of our hands. We do NOT in fact love the addict. We actually HATE the addiction! We love who the addict once was, who we thought they were or who we would have liked them to be. We love the goodness underneath all the destruction that addictio… read the full post

Hoping for a happy ending.

Posted by ldrboyfriend1990 on 17 March 2016 (4 comments)

Well I guess it starts roughly 18 months ago, but I can't be sure. Me and my boyfriend are currently in a long distance relationship and have been for a while before this happened. About 18 months ago he started using drugs. I'm not 100% what he used or even really care, but they were mostly prescription, sometimes his but mostly not his. Pretty strong stuff, pills or a injection. For 6 months he… read the full post

Hidden bottles and lies

Posted by Millie699 on 17 March 2016 (7 comments)

My partner of 3 years started drinking heavily about 2 years ago... It started when his ex stopped him seeing his kids and gradually throughout the months got worse. He eventually went through courts and got access I thought the drinking would stop or he'd cut down but how niave was I ??? We have 5 children between us 20,16,9,7 to another partner but have our son together whose 15 month. He's drin… read the full post

Frustration

Posted by Kath on 15 March 2016 (8 comments)

I'm sharing this here because I don't know where else I can express my frustration. I appreciate that drug and alcohol services do their best and have to make difficult decisions, but often they seem to completely fail to take into account the safety and wellbeing of carers and family members. I care for a close family member who is on a methadone script and has in the past also drunk alcohol very… read the full post

helplessness

Posted by Mac1 on 14 March 2016 (9 comments)

This is my first time in sharing in this way. I have a 23 year old son who is struggling with the consumption of alcohol. He has had a very stressful year, having lost his house and his fiance due to his issues with alcohol although he struggles to accept this. He goes for short periods where he can abstain but then binges considerably. He is starting to accept that he has a problem relating his d… read the full post

drugs tearing the family apart.

Posted by Raelynn on 13 March 2016 (5 comments)

My brother has been taking amphetamines for atleast a couple of years now. He's 29 and it is causing the family to fall apart. We're at a loss as to what to do. He's on house arrest at the moment. He lives with my parents and 3 other brothers. I no longer live there and I'm finding it difficult myself to put up with what he is putting the rest of my family through, so I cant imagine what they are… read the full post

daughter meets druggy

Posted by david on 7 March 2016 (5 comments)

5 years ago my daughter left her husband for another chap he seemed ok to start with but as time went on I learnt more about him he had done time for badly beating his wife infront of his children he is a drug addict and I believe she is taking them , he agrees to let her see her children(she lost custody of them so long as the chap is around they are looked after by other family members)then stop… read the full post

Save my mum

Posted by PeaceLily on 6 March 2016 (6 comments)

It's been going on with my mum for 15 since I was in high school. She is 53 now and still hiding bottles of wine (at least it's not gin now) in her wardrobe and finds ways not to eat meals so she can get drunk quicker. My dad now doesn't realise when she is drunk (slurring/sleepy/aggravated/quiet) as he's so used to it. She has 'given up' drinking and is signed up to a rehab centre and is going to… read the full post

My mother & brother...

Posted by CT320 on 27 February 2016 (5 comments)

I have such a long story, but will try to shorten it up the best I can. My brother and I are from the same father and mother. They divorced when we were about 3 y/o and about a year old. My father started his own life and got married, had two kids, and moved to another state when my brother and I were about 9 and 11. My mom met my step-dad when I was 7 and my brother was 5. When they were dating m… read the full post

The fight doesnt end

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 20 February 2016 (9 comments)

I haven't been on for a while. My AS has had years of abusing his body, his mind, his mental state through drugs and alcohol....he gets clean, then relapses ,then he's sorry and the cycle continues..I know his triggers, I get a feeling when the proverbial is about to hit the fan...call it mothers intuition. Well he was extremely lucky just before xmas..he OD and ended up on life support...the shee… read the full post

Relationship Realities: listen to other families' stories, tips and advice

Posted by AdfamAdmin on 4 February 2016 (8 comments)

Thank you so much to everyone who shares their stories and listens to others on this blog.

We know that hearing from other people who have been through similar experiences, and listening to their tips and advice can be extremely helpful. That's why we have, in partnership with the relationships charity OnePlusOne, produced an audio collection of real-life stories and practical advice from couples… read the full post

Loving an addict

Posted by Helenjh on 3 February 2016 (11 comments)

If you have never found yourself in the unfortunate circumstances of loving an addict then I do not expect you to understand how I feel - some choose to judge yet have no experience of what we have been through but believe they could have done better 

For those starting their journey of watching a loved one with an addiction my heart breaks for I know the pain they will endure 

Loving an addict… read the full post

What next?

Posted by Aimiee on 1 February 2016 (12 comments)

Hi, I would really like some advice if anyone has any? 
My mum is an alcoholic, she has been for 2-3 years now. 
It peeked last Christmas, and a few months later ended up in hospital with serve confusion and liver damage. She had poisoned her brain as her liver wasnt functioning properly. She was in hospital for about a month, and came out 'sober'. She then stayed sober for nearly 6months, with th… read the full post

Struggling

Posted by Rayoflight on 31 January 2016 (16 comments)

Hi, I am looking for some advice as to how best to manage myself and help my son. He is 26 a beautiful caring sensitive person but he's lost to addiction Whilst I feel I have tried to do my best for him I'm not sure I'm managing  to be  a helpful mum at the moment.Since the age of 13 he has smoked weed. At 16 I asked him to move out to stay with my mum to protect my younger son. He was chaotic and… read the full post

At my wits end

Posted by Lemontop on 22 January 2016 (10 comments)

My son has had a codeine addiction with alcohol I believe since his divorce but it could have been earlier.  He had lived away from home from 12 years returning after his wife and him split.  Things got so bad three years ago we as parents and he admitting to his problems decided on a month long period in re-hab. He most definitely came out better, back on track. He moved away back to London but t… read the full post

Destroyed

Posted by Jac on 21 January 2016 (14 comments)

I have a 32 yr old son that as been on crack now for 6 months but at his worse since nov 2015 lost 3 stone in weight since then he is using 300 a day , like a foul i was led to believe he had stopped xmas time but was seriously wrong ,  the thing he as done for the last month is play me and his stepdad against each other by telling us all the old trick in the book ,  until i found out today when i… read the full post

its back again!

Posted by Snow on 11 January 2016 (14 comments)

When i met my husband nearly 20 years ago i knew he had had his problems but had no knowledge he had been a drug user or addicted to class A drugs prior to us getting married.  Shortly after getting married his behaviour changed.  I put this down to us expecting a baby and moving home all quite quickly.  This was new to me, I had no experience of drugs or what to look for.

It came out whilst i wa… read the full post

My partners dependency

Posted by Worriedpartnerx on 11 January 2016 (8 comments)

I am the partner of someone who is heavily dependent on cannabis. As i write this he has just smoked a joint. We have a 3 month old child together and it is upsetting that i can not bring her around him when he is high/has drugs. I have tried for the last year to make him quit, spoken to him, his family have spoken to him, but his dependency is more important. Not even the love for his child has h… read the full post

I am an addict and have been for the past 10 yrs

Posted by A mother that needs help on 3 January 2016 (17 comments)

I have 3 children and have lost 1 to my sister she has been with her since she was 3 she is 9 now i also have a 3 and 2 year old, a script taskes 6-8 weeks to get sorted. I cant afford a rehab and im also fighting with social services too, my kids are well presented and my house is tidy i want help now please can any one help me… read the full post

exhausted mother

Posted by pat2 on 26 December 2015 (16 comments)

we have a 33 year old son who has drug and gambling addiction and I am mentally and physically exhausted,also brokenhearted as he has 4 beautiful children,at the moment he has left again ,and the phone calls and txts have started for money,if I gave a list of flat and houses deposits , cars training courses ,always the promises  of a new start from him, I know deep down he will never change ,so ha… read the full post

Christmas Break

Posted by AdfamAdmin on 22 December 2015 (8 comments)

Dear Share Your Story Users,
From 23 December 2015 to 4 January 2016, Adfam staff will be taking a Christmas break, so this blog will not be monitored. If you are in need of help please call a helpline, you can find details here: http://www.adfam.org.uk/families/find_a_local_support_group/call_a_helpline. If you or a family member or friend is in need of urgent medical attention, or you are concer… read the full post

alcoholic mum in rehab

Posted by chowebella on 19 December 2015 (12 comments)

New to this ans feeling rather overwhelmed, thought sharing my story may help. Ive recently found out my mum is an alcholic, recently seperated from my dad she turned to the bottle and things spiraled pretty quickly. To see my mother so low she even considered suicide made me take action and we admitted her to a detox and rehab unit this week. Only now I feel like the worlds worse daughter, i thin… read the full post

Losing the hope to keep trying.

Posted by LauraLou92 on 17 December 2015 (8 comments)

Hey, new to doing all of this. But i'm laura and have a mam whose an alcholic.. shes been an alcholic for around 10 years but was always a heavy drinker before hand. I don't live with her as i have my own family but my dad still lives with her. In august she was diagnosed with bowel cancer. She needs operated on and there hoping to operate next week but her drinking hasn't gotten any better, its j… read the full post

nice one

Posted by mccvaer on 16 December 2015 (6 comments)

hi love this site… read the full post

My mum is a heroin and crack addict.

Posted by elle on 14 December 2015 (9 comments)

I don't know what I'm looking for on here but i know I'm looking for something and think this is as good a place to start as any.

My mum has been addicted to heroin for a long time ,as long as i can remember.
Needless to say that had a huge impact on me as a child and a different impact on my adult life i guess.*new line… read the full post

Cocaine Addicted Husband with Depression

Posted by Unhappy and tired on 12 December 2015 (12 comments)

I am 36 and have been married for almost 4 years, but with my husband for over 10 years in total.  Since we got married, his drug taking has got out of control.  He is addicted to cocaine.  At the beginning, the drug taking was a social affair, but over time it has become a particularly solitary affWe are in the same profession, I am at a more senior level.  His drug addiction has impacted upon hi… read the full post

Desparatly Sad....

Posted by always parenting on 29 November 2015 (6 comments)

Hi

I'm new here and have arrived at the point of wanting to reach out to others for support and advice.

My 31yr old daughter has to my knowledge, probably since her early twenties been involved with drink and drugs.  When she was in her last year of University she got involved with an intelligent guy who we later found was involved in drugs and was convicted having been found with a large quanti… read the full post

Here we go again...........

Posted by JumpingJehosofat on 11 November 2015 (8 comments)

I got married to a bloke when I was 21 - I knew he drank every night to wind down after work, but thought having a house and mortgage would make him stop. It didn't. I used to have to sneak home from work through the day when he was off to see to my babies because he couldn't get up, we never had money in the bank -  he kept it in his wallet to make sure he had enough to buy drink in an evening an… read the full post

Help

Posted by Tricia on 9 November 2015 (9 comments)

I have a son and daughter who have been heroin addicts for 25 years my daughter is also epileptic  she lost her kids 10 years ago so has my son I have tried everything in my power to help them I hardly ever c my daughter I am a empty shell my health is not good because of the worry I am on antidepressants there is no help here for families I wish I wasn't here sometimes cause they are my kids and… read the full post

Can't cope much longer!

Posted by drivebunny on 9 November 2015 (6 comments)

I'm new to here and this is the first place I've been able to speak about me. My 50yr old fiance is alcohol dependent and about to go through a detox. I'm almost begging the nurses not to do it at home. I NEED him to go away and do it. Recently he has become very verbally abusive and it hurts so much. I have MS and the stress has put me into 2 relapses and I'm really struggling now. I feel like th… read the full post

grrrr

Posted by kathan on 9 November 2015 (4 comments)

So 38yr old supposedly sober now. Yea right. He gives the game away in so many ways he is unaware of. To be honest I just want to beat him up,shake him and say get a life. At 4foot 11inches cant even reach his shoulder.He still denies that he said and did the things I  have said he did. But honestly  would  I  really make it up.

Have a new mantra....I did not cause it,I  can't cure it, I can't  c… read the full post

my 38 year old daughter

Posted by Bell on 9 November 2015 (5 comments)

She has been a meth user for many years. Our family has been ripped apart. She lost her kids 7yrs ago because of meth use. Thr othrt grma took the kids in. We took her, got her clean the year she was with us. Moved out and boom right back to it. Have tried to get her into rehab. She lasted 24 hours. Last week went and found her tried again an she wouldn't do the detox. It just breaks my heart seei… read the full post

Not just us

Posted by Notjustme on 3 November 2015 (7 comments)

Hi everyone
I am new to this and writing because it is something I have needed to do for ages.
I want to tell my story but it is a very long one, so I am going to strip it down.
My son is 30 years old but he's been smoking cannabis (and doing other things with it too!) since he was  a teenager.
I never condoned his habit- I have always taken the tough love approach, never giving him cash (ok-there… read the full post

A Mother's Love

Posted by Libby1959 on 30 October 2015 (4 comments)

I am a 56 year old mother to three sons and a step-daughter, all of whom live away from home now. I am married to Mark, who is not my children's father. I am a teacher, but I no longer work as I have full time custody of my granddaughter, who was born addicted to Heroin, Crack and Methadone, in January 2014. She is Paul's daughter, he is my eldest and first born son. He is now 33 and is a drug and… read the full post

cheating while an addict

Posted by rjs on 30 October 2015 (7 comments)

Ive been with my boyfriend 9yrs and we have 4 children together. The first 6yrs were brilliant and we got on so well then he started using cocaine and drinking...alot! He'd always done it but it had only been social so I didn't see it as a problem, but then he started using daily,  from about 5.30am before work until he  finally went to bed at about 2-3am. He would dissappear for days on end with… read the full post

It Happened Again

Posted by I Am. on 27 October 2015 (5 comments)

My mother got drunk again. It happened last night. She had two of her friends over and she got drunk. Then, when I let the dog out of my room, he escaped and ran down the street. I only noticed a few minutes later. I ran downstairs, calling for my mother but I couldn't find her so I got dressed and went outside. I'm only fourteen and it was nearly eleven o'clock. I found my mother outside, wearing… read the full post

14 year old daughter on legal highs

Posted by Upsetmum on 24 October 2015 (6 comments)

I am lost as where to turn, I've tried the police, Drs, School, Multiagency Team for support and nothing is being done. I am a paramedic and I am so afraid of seeing my child like the ones I attend. I am depressed and alone. Can anyone suggest where to try next 😥… read the full post

worried about my boyfriend

Posted by chanel on 23 October 2015 (2 comments)

Im really worried about my boyfriend of 4 years. When we first got together i was 16. Everything was fine. After a year (when you actually feel like you love them) things started to change, i realised he was sniffing cocaine. Now its only every when he drinks. Only over the past year its getting more and more often. 

He drinks up to 2-3 times a week and when he drinks he gets so angry (never towa… read the full post

Vodka.

Posted by hrw on 14 October 2015 (5 comments)

My boyfriend has struggled with alcohol for on and off 5 years (we've been together for 3 and a half years) but over the past 2 years it has got a lot worse. 6 months ago he admitted to myself and his mum and dad that he's an alcoholic and has been getting help going to meetings. I just feel like he's never going to change am I a bad person for wanting to walk away now? All of my family and friend… read the full post

Mum

Posted by Rolypoly on 11 October 2015 (5 comments)

My mum is an alcoholic.
She has always liked a drink but since she gave up work 9 years ago to retire,she has become much worse.
I don't know what to do anymore.I'm a professional person who works with people with addiction problems on a daily basis.
My Mum used to be a lovely,nice person and she still is in many ways.But,she has started lying about her alcohol use.She saw an alcohol counsellor a… read the full post

Brother at Crisis Point

Posted by Crusha on 8 October 2015 (3 comments)

So since posting my last message a few weeks ago my Brother had another alcohol relapse on Friday which led him to coming to mine, reacting to me because I told him to go away and he was not allowed into my home drunk. He kicked open the door upset that I had locked him out & was very verbal. Neighbour called police & he was removed & dropped on the streets. He returned the next day re… read the full post

At crisis point with brothers alcohol addiction

Posted by Crusha on 2 October 2015 (5 comments)

Where do I begin. I grew up with a father who would change personality through alcohol & become very aggressive.Mum gave up her marriage when my brother was 12 years old as she could no longer cope. My brother chose to stay with my dad & my dad isolated him from his mother & sisters for years & their relationship became mentally & physically abusive. My brother didn't speak up… read the full post

My boyfriend has anxiety, depression, anger issues and smokes weed

Posted by Penelope on 29 September 2015 (6 comments)

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now he was lovely when I first met him, but as time went on things changed we were on and off for a while and he has cheated on me with a prostitue and I have slept with another person when we were on a break, from then on finding out we both were unfaithful he got controlling and very angry ever since he cheated he has been getting outbursts of ang… read the full post

My Daughter is a heroine addict and my grandson is suffering

Posted by asureme on 24 September 2015 (4 comments)

I need advice on how to get custody of my 7 year old grandson, I have exhausted every avenue and the only way forward is to take him to live with us.  My daughter is a user and so far has not demonstrated any desire to stop using, she tries to make me believe that she is but she really isn't.  She grew up in a happy family environment, she had a lovely bedroom and had a lovely relationship with us… read the full post

Other opportunities to share your story

Posted by AdfamAdmin on 24 September 2015 (1 comments)

Here at Adfam we are continually impressed by the bravery and the honesty of the stories that families share on this blog. The intention is to allow family members to tell their story in their own words, and we hope that this helps people to get feelings off their chest, and that other families will feel less isolated and alone when they read of other’s similar experiences.

At the moment at Adf… read the full post

Grieving Sister

Posted by Ash on 23 September 2015 (11 comments)

This is very difficult and I don't know where to start. My brother was an alcoholic and people always judge and have their cruel opinions like it's their own fault etc etc. People are not aware that alcoholism is a disease not an addiction
 Many will not understand or try to understand and many who judge you has a lowlife nobody waste of space and expect trouble from an alcoholic which I experienc… read the full post

Angry,annoyed and ready to turn my back on my son!

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 22 September 2015 (6 comments)

My son has just about lost me for good! I've supported him fif over 5 years.taken him to appointments, championed his recovery, praised him when he was doing well and stopped enabling him.he lost his last job after being there for a year...he was doing really well, then just ould t resist and went straight back on the drink,and drugs. That lasted for 3 weeks,and during that time I had no contact w… read the full post

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So very tired and emotional

Posted by Arabella on 18 September 2015 (3 comments)

My daughter is 42 and an alcoholic. Her husband wants a divorce and can't see why she can't come back home. Why must we be made to feel the baddies because we say no. My mother had alcohol problems and Alzheimer's and l looked after her for 18 years. I have cancer and been told to avoid stress as much as possible but thats irrelevant as we have a spare room which it is assumed our daughter could u… read the full post

Tired

Posted by kathan on 17 September 2015 (8 comments)

Son just had a drug induced psychotic episode,placed in a secure mental health unit to detox.He is 38,and has abused alcohol and drugs since he was 18.
I  said he could come stay with me for a while so I could feed him up, Thank god for Primark,clothe him and attend the local rehab agency.  What  has taken me by surprise  is what the hell do I  do with all the hurt and anger stored up in me from h… read the full post

Everyone will be able to relate to this... Long post!

Posted by KF141 on 17 September 2015 (7 comments)

My fiancé is a heroin addict trying his hardest to get clean, we have been together 10 years on and off and have a beautiful 5 year old boy. My fiancé has my full support but he knows he is on his final chance, I am proud of how far he has come and he is currently seeking support through his doctor, drug counsellor with regular meetings. I wanted to share with you all a letter I wrote to my fian… read the full post

Finding the bottom of the barrel

Posted by Echo on 15 September 2015 (3 comments)

My brother is an alcoholic. He has been a substance abuser most of his life. We have had long periods without contact with him and from time to time he dries out, but never for long, always when he feels better he starts drinking beer. He justifies this by saying it's better than spirits. However,he always finds himself drinking spirits once more. He drinks most of the day, joking about having a c… read the full post

Cocaine paranoid delusions

Posted by MeJu on 13 September 2015 (3 comments)

My partner and I have known each other for over 10 years and have been living together for 4 years.  My partner likes to take cocaine which I never thought was a problem until now.  In the last couple of years he has gone from using it as a party drug to using it 6 out of 7 days and in the last year in particular has suffered increasingly severe paranoid attacks.  It usually happens a few hours af… read the full post

in love with a person with an addiction

Posted by peppa33 on 11 September 2015 (2 comments)

Well after seeing my boyfriend for 7 months I realised he had an addiction to heroin,I was absolutely gutted,felt like he had cheated me into staying with him,he knew I would not have went near him if I had known from day 1.I can see past the drugs fortunately for him.at times I've been more like his child minder than his girlfriend,trying to make sure he has eaten something,but mostly making sure… read the full post

Lost son

Posted by libby on 10 September 2015 (6 comments)

my son has used drugs from the age of 14 he is now 35 over the years he has managed several jobs had  a relationship which resulted in a beautiful girl, his relationships all break down because of his obsession with weed and pills. I have tried to help and support him as much as I can but he feels I have let him down all his life. He has cut all communication with me because the last time he visit… read the full post

roo

Posted by roo on 9 September 2015 (4 comments)

I have a partner of 6 years, we have an amazing daughter of 4years old. My partner is a crack addict. He has taken my rent money, he takes the car when I'm meant to take or pick up my daughter from school,its her first week at school and he's gone off again, I'm so angry and tired of its effect on my daughter and I, I'm reaching out for help, can any help me, I don't know what to do?… read the full post

Cannabis addiction caused mental health illness

Posted by Anne2015 on 6 September 2015 (3 comments)

I've been with my partner almost 7 years and he has smoked weed since i met him.
A few years into our relationship he started to deteriorate and i believe the weed caused him to develop a mental illness as well, his anger controls him, at time he is not in touch with reality and he says awful nasty things with no limit.
Over the years he has also taken money for weed but never given it back and co… read the full post

Like a poison arrow in my chest

Posted by Cappuccino on 5 September 2015 (2 comments)

A warm beautiful son who started a career in the military and fell for a girl who changed out whole lives but that was not all. 
We learned through my sons breakdown at 20 that he had been a used when he was younger, we never knew a thing. I was devastated . We tried to get him help but he wasn't reAdy so he went from job to job and eventually the girl who has histrionic personality disorder and w… read the full post

My brother was decesed through drugs and alcohol

Posted by VicKie D on 5 September 2015 (2 comments)

My name is Victoria I thought it appropriate to give a true life reflection on the way in which my brother’s addiction affected my family.  This is our story.
My brother Nicholas died of a heroin and alcohol overdose on March the 6th 2001. Nicholas was my only sibling and the loss of him hit me hard. Initially I cried for him but did not have the life experience to truly understand the nature of… read the full post

I keep getting it wrong

Posted by UnrecognisableMe on 4 September 2015 (4 comments)

My partner of 3 years is an alcoholic. A bi-polar, anxious, introverted alcoholic. And one of the most wonderful people i know.
I am so lost, and clutching at straws as to whether any kind words from others can help at this point. I am sorry if I ramble, but I just have to say it! Someone has to read my story for it to not be a horrible dream. I need it to be real.

He is lovely, complimentary, he… read the full post

11 years married to herion addict

Posted by Aliceelizabeth on 3 September 2015 (1 comments)

I am writing as I am in a very desperate place. I met my husband 12 years ago, and within the first week of dating, he told me of his heroin addiction and that he had a naltrexone implant and was 3 months clean. I was nieve to the drug and though that 3 months was a huge achievement. The implant lasted 6 months and as far as conversations went, he was totally clean. I had no reason to doubt this.… read the full post

My brother

Posted by LAUMAR134 on 29 August 2015 (4 comments)

My brother is 28 and I'm 17. We both live in our parents home (he has never moved out) and I'm due to go to university next summer. 
My mother struggled with a domestic abuse at the hands of my brothers father when he was a young child. He credits this as his 'reason' for having such an illness. However, we have an older brother who suffered through the same experiences yet has created a great lif… read the full post

My daughter is killing hersef

Posted by Anne1 on 24 August 2015 (2 comments)

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Hi my name is Anne and I'm 50+ years old
I have 4 grown up children married and left home. I had a fantastic job until last year when I had to give it up as I now have 3 grandchildren living with me and am an approved kinship carer for them as both their parents are addicted to heroin and crack cocaine. My story begins in 1997 when my eldest daughter got mixed up with an elder boy. She was… read the full post

Letting go

Posted by JR on 20 August 2015 (3 comments)

My storey seems to similar to most. I have a 25 year old son hooked on Cocaine, started with canabis. Comes from a loving family and still lives at home, has lost jobs and suffers with paranioa. I have just returned from hospital this morning as he had up all night going through every cupboard, drawer and suitcase, as apparently we are trying to set him up. This is having an impact on my health an… read the full post

Money stolen for drugs

Posted by JS on 16 August 2015 (8 comments)

my 25yr old son has a serious drug problem, he takes cocaine. until recently he has always worked and supported his drug habit but now he has no job. He has been sacked from his last job because of his behaviour (snorting cocaine regularly in the pub where he worked). 3 days ago he stole £1000 from me and his step-dad and I threw him out, even though I knew I had no choice I'm so worried about tu… read the full post

My grandchildren

Posted by Kyle on 15 August 2015 (4 comments)

Hi im in a bit of a sticky situation, my son and partner have been smoking herion off and on for last 12years, we have had the grandchildren for 3 weeks 2months ago.when social workers got involved trough the police, because my son was hitting his partner.We hoped that they would come clean with the drugs and tell social everything which they didnt. I got upset the other day with her as she could… read the full post

Free Fall to Heroin

Posted by MrsM on 13 August 2015 (1 comments)

Today my brother was in the local paper having been convicted of possession of heroin and crack. How did come to this? It seems over the past 3 years he has gone from alcohol to cocaine and now this.
I have given him money, I have bought him shopping paid bills and rowed with him. Today I  pleaded with him to get help that he says he doesn't need.
When he was born my mum bought me a copy of The Ho… read the full post

my son heroin addict

Posted by kj on 9 August 2015 (6 comments)

my son has been on hard drugs since the age of 15, he is now almost 33, he comes from a good family he has a brother who is now 31 and he doesnt do any of it, doesnt drink or smoke even, we have given my eldest son all the help we can he has been to prison numerous times and this hasnt helped at all, the last time he came out of prison he got helped with finding a flat and we helped him with all t… read the full post

It all started with a messy break up and a chance meeting with a old friend

Posted by Squidgy on 7 August 2015 (2 comments)

So wow how do I start so around 12yr ago I split from the mother of my child and moved back to old town and into my dads started going out on weekends and bumped in to an old friend who said here take this it will help you forget your troubles that was my 1st ever Mdma pill and I was hooked that carried on for years with cocaine chucked in when the funds could affort it then legal highs arrived an… read the full post

Distraught first time blogger

Posted by Maggie on 6 August 2015 (12 comments)

i don't know where to begin really - my story started about 12 years ago I reckon.  My son is 28 now.  I think he started smoking cannabis when he was 16/17 and started work/ an apprenticeship as was earning money.  For the first year he was doing really well and the company gave him excellent reports. However in the 2nd year he started missing college and not going to work some days, I don't know… read the full post

fiancee in rehab

Posted by lost33 on 6 August 2015 (4 comments)

This is my first post and I'm not sure where to start.

My fiancee has been admitted into rehab on a 28 day programme a few days ago and I'm lost and scared of the future. We have 2 young children and he has been addicted to prescription pills for a few years which he buys from research chemical companies online. This has evolved and I no longer recognise him most of the time. He hasn't contribute… read the full post

Furious and scared for my brothers future....and the effect on my mum

Posted by DKWTD on 6 August 2015 (2 comments)

My brother is in his 40s and has had issues for years, I think he has ADHD and this underlies his drug problems. For years he has had problems with aggression, never being able to settle in a job. He's been living back my parents house for the last few years and they are endlessly supportive. He had a lot of problems with excessive use of crystal meth which impacted hugely on his and my parents li… read the full post

I am so sick of weed!!

Posted by KAnon on 4 August 2015 (1 comments)

I have probably spent about 3 grand on weed the past few years yet I have never touched the horrible stuff myself!

From the second I met my partner when I was 14, I knew he was the one for me, we didn't get together until we left school and we went our separate ways, all of his friends smoker cannabis and I was a bit naive to think it's just how they have fun he'll grow out of it. 

I've been wit… read the full post

My son

Posted by Mrs M on 3 August 2015 (2 comments)

I have just discovered my son is using crystal meth.  He has a successful job and has spent 10 years trying to be the best he can.  He works very long hours and late evenings.  He had a marital breakdown and started to use this substance as a crutch to make him feel a little better.
His partner has remained with him, he has told her he is addicted to this substance.  She is standing by him and he… read the full post

My fiancé does coke

Posted by Lightbulb on 3 August 2015 (7 comments)

I met my fiancé about 2 and a half years ago and pretty much lived together since we met. Probably a really bad idea looking back.  He had a pretty bad upbringing...dad was an alcoholic and mother with mental health issues.  This all made me want to look after him even more.  I am desperate for some help as I have just left the home we live in together as I could not cope with his coke use.  I fe… read the full post

My Mum is an Alcoholic

Posted by I Am. on 1 August 2015 (1 comments)

Since I was 4, my mum has been a really bad on and off alcoholic. I'm 14 now. My sister tried to take care of me when my mum drank, but it was difficult for her because she was only 9 at the time, and my dad was nearly always at work. Before we came to England, it got really bad, and even on the flight over my mum was drunk. It took her a couple years to fully get over the drinking, and she was so… read the full post

Marrige in a bottle

Posted by Hopeless78 on 31 July 2015 (2 comments)

I don’t know when it all went wrong or even what I did to deserve this but it’s destroying our lives. Maybe it’s my fault for wanting our beautiful son, or not being supportive enough when things got hard at work. Maybe I shouldn’t have encouraged a life of self-employment because it’s was just too much. 
I should have done more at the beginning and not just hoped that it would all go aw… read the full post

my son on weed

Posted by shazb1971 on 23 July 2015 (1 comments)

well this will be a long one as i know i write essays so will apologise firstly. Well where did it start well i left an abusive relationship i had lived with for 17yrs now my son had heard a lot of it him being the eldest although he never touched my son his bark did a lot when we broke up i was very depressed and drunk a lot by this point my son was 17 and my daughters were 13, 7 and 1. Well when… read the full post

What do i do??

Posted by Shellz on 17 July 2015 (2 comments)

It all started back last year when our home was destroyed by a flood. We were living in a hotel for months with our 2 children. It was the most stressful thing I had ever dealt with in my life. Every evening we were eating out as unable to cook meals. It was easy for my husband to order a drink with every meal. I have always been someone who doesn't drink to relax drinking at Christmas and birthda… read the full post

Brother a crack addict

Posted by MrDH on 17 July 2015 (2 comments)

How do you help your brother if he is locked in a cycle of drugs feeding emotional difficulties feeding drugs feeding emotional difficulties .....??
We (brothers and sisters) found out about his serious coke habit and tried to help and he promised he was going to sort it out, had convincing arguments etc. It was one of my little brothers who found out last time, this time around he knew to hide it… read the full post

I need support too.

Posted by blue butterfly on 12 July 2015 (11 comments)

My partner of 14 years is an alcoholic.  She always liked a drink...famous last words...but over the last 9 months its out of control, shes out of control.  She began treatment for depression and the heavy drinking began. We have been through 2 fitting episodes and one 3 week stay in intensive care due to DT's.  She says she wants to stop...probably why she keeps going through bad withdrawals howe… read the full post

helplessness

Posted by susie on 12 July 2015 (1 comments)

Hi, this is he first time I have used a blog so I may ramble. My ex is an alcoholic. We were together 22 years and have two grown up boys who live with me. He has been drinking for about 15 years. He never used to drink at all when we first got together.  Over the years he has done many things to us all, mostlymental totrture. Although he has never physically hurt any of us that is just down to go… read the full post

Having trouble viewing or is it just me 😂

Posted by little Al on 8 July 2015 (1 comments)

Sorry to mention on here but is anyone having problems viewing other users comments ..? I keep getting emails to say people have commented on my blog but I can't see the feedback given 😕… read the full post

I want my dad back.

Posted by Blue bird on 8 July 2015 (7 comments)

I am 23 and my dad has been taking cocain for around 17 years. Life has been hell some times. He has been taking as much as 8 gram at a time recently. I don't normally complain that much as we have had a better life than some people. We have never really gone without and always had a roof over our heads. 
My dad is the best dad in the world when is 'normal' everyone was always envious of my dad be… read the full post

What are these symptoms of..when will he wake up and smell the coffee?

Posted by little Al on 5 July 2015 (1 comments)

Hi everyone; I hope you are enjoying the sun shine. .I'm very worried about my partner. 
He is a long term heroin user of 20 years on and off. His latest relapse has lasted for the past 5 years..He is on the methadone programme also. He works as a binman and because he has more money now his heroin use has doubled. He has been experiencing some electric shock feelings down his arms and legs and al… read the full post

I don't know what to do

Posted by Emma on 29 June 2015 (4 comments)

I'm 16 years old, I have been aware of my mums drinking problem from a young age, although I've never known who to tell or what to do so I just kept it to myself. My parents had a huge fall out last night and my dad finally confronted me about my mums problem, it feels a relief to be able to talk about it with one family member however now I do not know what to do. My mum started drinking shortly… read the full post

Transitioning Out Of Treatment Safely

Posted by JustinRose on 27 June 2015 (3 comments)

Everyone who is in treatment faces the prospect of transitioning to the “real world.”  Some face it with an “Okay, I’ve got this now” attitude, and others with an “Oh no… What’s next?” attitude.  Each approach seems very different.  One needs to dig deeper, to find what goes into the patient’s mindset.

The critical key to this difference is one simple four letter word: Plan.… read the full post

if I could only make her see what she is doing

Posted by everhopefull on 24 June 2015 (4 comments)

this is the first time ive ever used a forum and its in desperation to help me help my daughter. 
my daughter is 25 yrs old has 3 young children and her life is out of control with alcohol. I could fill pages with the effects drink has had on her life her childrens life and her familles lives trying to help her.
I feel im in a losing battle where im constantly trying to save her from herself. ive… read the full post

fed up

Posted by when will it get better on 20 June 2015 (3 comments)

Today is a bad day my husband has been drinking since 3pm yesterday afternoon.when we spoke to his counsellor the other day he said its not uncommon for someone who knows that rehab is round the corner to have these binges but I need to rant. today so far we have had stupid behaviour crying about how he is an idiot to finally arguing about how its my fault (which I know its not) and now falling as… read the full post

He thinks he's different

Posted by HC on 20 June 2015 (4 comments)

My partner has been a cocaine user for 5 years, previously in his early 20's his whole life fell apart and he did rehab, so I say 5 years but I think really it's been most of his adult life he bounced back, he's now a very successful businessman. He started using again during his divorce from his first wife, I found out about his using about 6 months into our relationship, although like most stori… read the full post

stressed

Posted by when will it get better on 15 June 2015 (6 comments)

This is the first time I have written here or anywhere so excuse my ramblings but I suppose now is the time I need to get all my frustrations out..my husband is an alcoholic as I write this he is flopped on the sofa he has been a drinker for about 20 yrs and did give up for a while but the last 2yrs has been a living hell finaly he has sought help and his detox starts on the 29th of this month he… read the full post

My Sisters nightmare

Posted by steelers on 11 June 2015 (5 comments)

I have a 60 YO sister who has a son that is a lifelong heroin addict. He has a rap sheet a  mile long and is terrorizing my sister who isn't well. She lives in a senior apartment and every time he gets out of jail, he goes to her for a place to stay and preys on her guilt. He is 38 YO and threatens her, takes all of her money, and then cries that he wants help. Her landlord threatens to evict her… read the full post

my partners depression and drug problem

Posted by deborag on 10 June 2015 (3 comments)

I have been with my partner for 11 years and we have 3 children under 10. 8years ago he was diagnosed with depression after I found numerous empty tablet packets hid around the house. Since then iv been lied to non stop about tablets, where hes been, what hes spent money on and small silly things I literally dont believe a word he says. I love him so iv supported him as much as I could blaming eve… read the full post

My Son's Love Affair with Opium

Posted by Susan on 10 June 2015 (6 comments)

A blog post I wrote about my son and his addiction.
Not everyone dreams of someday becoming a parent, and in fact not everyone should be a parent in my opinion. Not all parents strive to bring up happy and well adjusted children when they do become parents. I was one of those young girls who dreamed of becoming a mommy and I would often say to my mother, "when I grow up, I want to be a good m… read the full post

Don't know how much more i can take.

Posted by Amber on 9 June 2015 (4 comments)

My son began taking weed and drinking heavily at the age of 16. Up until then he was a happy. loving son enjoying school as much as boys do at that age and enjoying his sport. music. He went to 6th form and it all started from then and has continued. He is now 28 living at home, not working. In the last ten years he has been in and out of work and has not worked at all the last three years. The la… read the full post

How can I cope

Posted by Marigold on 9 June 2015 (9 comments)

My son is due out of prison - again - in 2 weeks.  He is 32. Diagnosed with ADHD when he was 9, refuses medication, but has used drink and drugs, mainly cannabis, to help him with his anxieties.  He has had numerous GBH offences, ABH, burglary etc - all due to drink, which makes him violent.  I cannot have him home but cannot stop the awful feeling of dread and mainly GUILT that I cannot offer him… read the full post

lost on what to do next

Posted by mrsp on 7 June 2015 (4 comments)

hi my husband was a heroin addict many years ago and had been clean had a job we was doing really well,but although I knew he was using something again and iv talked screamed cried he was in otal denial.
Then just oer a week ago I kicked himout I just couldn't cope with it anymore,he has finally come clean and told me he is very heavily using crack cocaine.
He has asked to come back home and my he… read the full post

My mind is losing control

Posted by Jade unknown on 7 June 2015 (2 comments)

Hello. Im 20 neaely 21 im an only child that live with my mum and dad. I found out from a very young age say 7/8 that my dad is a heroin adict, i used to find needles i used to find bloody tissue laying around i used to find him slouching everywhere it was horrible. My mum was the only one who knew how i felt she used to say she hasted it aswell she was really there for me. Untill abouy 3 years ag… read the full post

Depressed parent

Posted by Claire1 on 4 June 2015 (2 comments)

Hi, I am the mother of a 19 year old son who is addicted to cannabis and also takes cocaine. He has been using drugs since he was 17. I am so depressed and desperate. My emotions range from total despair to anger at why he is putting us through this. He works but struggles to do a whole week and when he gets paid on Fri has spent it all by mon. I guess my main problem is trying to understand why h… read the full post

Koch

Posted by Koch on 3 June 2015 (3 comments)

Hi,I have been with my partner for 6yrs.who is an alcoholic.i have a 11yr old son,I have got to the point that I no longer love my partner,he has put us through so much with he's drinking.that I resent him now and no longer want to be with him but he won't accept this and gets angry so I have to tell him what he wants to hear,I love him,I will never leave him.the truth I wish I could get him out o… read the full post

Eilleen

Posted by Eilleen on 3 June 2015 (1 comments)

Today I am going to see my daughter. I have a feeling of dread. Although I am not a doctor I know her mental health is at Rock bottom. She is addicted to weed. For the last 15 years her life has been chaotic. She knows it's bad for her but cannot break the habit. I have tried everything I can think of to try to help her. I am worn out with it. Drug services, having her stay with me, she has been s… read the full post

pregnant and alone

Posted by laura89 on 2 June 2015 (2 comments)

im new to all this and need someone to talk to. Im 25 years old and pregnant with my first baby. My mother has drank since I can remember and is what ive found is called a "maintenance drinker". Im not even sure what kind of help im after as im just so angry at her. I spend my day crying which I know isnt good for my baby and all I want is my mam back. I feel so scared and alone all of t… read the full post

To...sad and tired, frantic mum and fifi 65

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 1 June 2015 (5 comments)

Hey ladies...just checking in to see how things are?ive been thinking of you all and hoping life is a little easier. Would love to hear from you all ...hugs xxxx susie xxx… read the full post

lost

Posted by benji123 on 28 May 2015 (5 comments)

Im worried and i dont no what to do . I have neen with my partner for 18 year and 6 months ago i caught him doing herion that was it my life was destroyed i was devostated i felt like my whole world had come crashing down .tHe thing i need advice about is how am i ever goig to trust him again i really don't no if i can and i do love him and i won't us to be like we used to but its so hard its all… read the full post

little Al

Posted by little Al on 24 May 2015 (5 comments)

I have beeno with my partner for  9 years and we have 3 kids. My partner is a long term heroin user. We live in a small town which can be hard because  although not everybody knows; those that do judge me for it . We own our own home and for the last 7 years I have kept all our finances going.. my partner has just started work and I worry his drug use will increase. .and he will end up worse ..He… read the full post

Does it ever get better ?

Posted by Mitch on 24 May 2015 (3 comments)

Trust - this have been at times over the past few years destroyed in front of my eyes by my husband who was an alcoholic

He went into detox and has had 2 relapses over the past 4 years. Over the past couple of weeks we has ordered a beer while out eating and lied about going out after work where he had a  drink. 

So not sure where i stand ? Are there people that live like this on a daily basis,… read the full post

lost

Posted by LOVENLIGHT on 22 May 2015 (1 comments)

Hi I have battled with drugs and alcohol for 40 years but kept it to myself,until I met my now ex.He used my weekness for his controlwas a very violent man,the weaker I got the stronger he got.He took my addiction to make money and bought large quantie off my addiction and then phoned the police,i was arrested and I now could go to jail.Ihad 3 years off hell with this man.Iam for first time gettin… read the full post

Fiancé in residential alcohol detoxification

Posted by Hana on 18 May 2015 (3 comments)

Hi everyone, I wondered if anyone out there has had or has a partner in a residential detox facility and can provide some support and advice.
My fiancé has been in detox for 2 weeks and is likely to be there for 12 weeks. We are allowed a phone call every other day but I'm not allowed to see him for 4 weeks. I have contacted the head office of the facility in regards to why I cannot visit... I am… read the full post

What rights do I have to get my husband out?

Posted by Jbdj on 17 May 2015 (1 comments)

Hi
If I have severe and strong suspicions my husband is using drugs, how can I get him away from me and my son.
I'm also pregnant and due in 7 weeks.

He used to be addicted to weed and crack cocain… read the full post

Back yet again

Posted by maddie on 17 May 2015 (7 comments)

I have wrote here twice before about my son and his drug addiction and how it as destroyed not only his life but his family. I have got him off the steets 3 times managed to get him a flat have decorated it furnished it only to treat it like a slum and sell everything in it just for drug money. I stopped having contact in oct last year but he rang me and said if I didn't speak to him he would kill… read the full post

My Dad is going to lose everything if he can't stay sober.

Posted by Rhona on 15 May 2015 (7 comments)

My Dad is an alcoholic.  I am 33, not sure when this started it sometime seems like it's been this way for a long long time but it hasn't, probably about 10 years,few more maybe..
He is the best Dad in the world.  Except for he can't stop drinking when he starts.  He is not violent or nasty or a horrible drinker at all - most people who aren't close to him don't even know about his problem.  He is… read the full post

At a loss for words

Posted by Concerned Mom on 14 May 2015 (5 comments)

My youngest child who was 14 at the time decided 3 years ago that he was going to live with his father, as there were certain things like drinking and taking drugs were not something that I allowed. His father did not see it as being a problem as it was in the home!!!
To cut a long story short and trust me it would probably take about a month to write everything that has happened. 
Many things hav… read the full post

My adult son of 42

Posted by optimist on 11 May 2015 (2 comments)

My story is too long to tell, but at 17 my son started taking drugs. For 8 years it was hell, then he stopped, became a vegetarian non smoker and became mentally ill after a breakdown. He was in an acute ward for 3 years and eventually was forced to take anti psychotic drugs. He was like a zombie for years then started again taking drugs and drinking. He had liver damage, fell and broke his ankle… read the full post

The inevitable bad news!!

Posted by Daughter of alcoholic on 8 May 2015 (3 comments)

I haven't been on here in a while and that's due to the fact I thought things were going to get better. For those who haven't read my previous posts, I'm 22 years old and WAS the daughter of an alcoholic; my past posts tell of my struggle in trying to get my Dad off alcohol and to get him better. Unfortunately my Dad couldn't get better and sadly passed away on the 15th April 2015. 
I'm sharing my… read the full post

My story of pain.

Posted by Kaleidoscope on 8 May 2015 (2 comments)

I don't know exactly when my beautiful 23 year old daughter started to use drugs. Maybe in high school? That is when I started noticing a change in her behaviour....She dated an older man who got her pregnant in Grade 12. I got her to have an abortion. All my family were devastated! I got divorced when my two kids were still in primary school. Was this the reason? I have so many questions and no a… read the full post

My mum is an alcoholic and has cirrhosis

Posted by daughter on 6 May 2015 (1 comments)

I'm 37 year old female who lives alone. My mum is an alcoholic and has cirrhosis of the liver. I moved over 300 miles away but missed her and kept in touch and visited her for her birthday and she came to visit me. The thing is, my aunty drinks too and my mum likes to make out she's a victim in everything. I've recently had some stress in my life and my mum kept on texting and calling everyday say… read the full post

My Son lost his life

Posted by My son on 6 May 2015 (1 comments)

Drug addiction is a disease.
Those experiencing it should have treatment.
Despite my son having for 23 years overcoming an addiction in youth.When he became ill through arthritis he began again to use drugs to be as he said to be normal. The county we live in was inadequate-Evan though countless times help was sought the eventual happened and he died. 
 As a mother in grief I have to say after six… read the full post

My husband use alchol and smokes "dagga"

Posted by fighter on 5 May 2015 (1 comments)

My husband and me are married for 3 years nw.Last year i found out he smokes ''dagga buttons'' and he cames home drunk every night and smokes i dont knw what to do any more he's getting worse every day im just tired of pretending that my marrige is so good… read the full post

My Husband - The Drug Addict

Posted by Thursday30 on 3 May 2015 (2 comments)

My husband and I have been together for about 14 years. He is 60 and I am 50, He told me quite soon after we met, that he smoked Cannabis and had used it since he was a teenager. At first this was a novelty and a secret we hid from others and our children: now more people know. He is a professional and works full time, it does not affect his work.
Over the years he has been smoking it more and mor… read the full post

The fear never goes away

Posted by bevyus on 30 April 2015 (2 comments)

My daughter was a Heroin addict, I say was, she has been clean for 7 years. Today I realized I hadn't got over it everyday I wake up wondering if something will happen to make her use again, some upset, stress or just because she wants to.

For 8 years it was constant recovery, relapses, court, drug programs, we lived in the USA after her being deported back to England for a unrelated offense we a… read the full post

Please help, Partner with Weed Addiction

Posted by VJJ24 on 28 April 2015 (2 comments)

I meet this incredible guy 5 years ago, we instantly clicked. I knew from the beginning that he smoked weed. I guess I was naïve to his habit as I looked at it as smoking cigarettes. We moved in very quickly & had a very good relationship for 2 years. Although we rarely went out & if we did it would be with his friends. I just thought it was him and the way he was- he didn't like to socia… read the full post

Here again

Posted by justme1 on 25 April 2015 (4 comments)

Posted by justme on 10 February 2014.

Hi i hope someone can help. My husband has been using heroin and crack heavily over last few years. I only found out in march last year and its been horrendous. We have 2 children, he doesnt work and doesnt do anything to help. All he does is sleep all day then goes off all night. I stupidly started texting a couple of male friends mainly because of neglect… read the full post

Daughter of an alcoholic

Posted by Lui on 22 April 2015 (2 comments)

I have grown up throughout my life with a father who's an alcoholic. My father has drank since I can remember and although has never been violent towards me, he never bothered with me and missed out on a lot in my life. My mum stuck by him through thick and thin, cleaning up the mess after him, urinated clothes and furniture. My father eventually had a stroke, hospitalising him, which gave him the… read the full post

I think my daughter is on self-destruct mode

Posted by Shiobhan on 22 April 2015 (2 comments)

My daughter 24yrs old has been using heroin (As they say 'chasing the dragon') for about 10yrs she also uses a pipe so unsure whether thats crack or ice she is also an anorexic i am convinced she is on the 'game' my other daughter is convinced that her sisters dealer is pimping her out ....I saw my daughter bout 3wks ago n she looked a mess n she was telling me that the police want her to tell the… read the full post

not sure what to do

Posted by unhappy on 22 April 2015 (5 comments)

I've been with my partner for over 10 year's. We have 2 children together and two from my first marriage ages 6,7,14,15 . My partner has been suspended from work and arrested due to court in may. The chases of losing his job are quiet high as works in health sector. He's moods are increasingly volitale. I constantly get verbally abused. I work and come home and he's drunk. He says such inappropria… read the full post

i think its over

Posted by so sad:( on 19 April 2015 (6 comments)

Hi any advice would be greatfull. .. i have been with my partner for 4 years and married for only 7 months we have a lot in common and get on great been on loads of family holidays and hes always showered us with love and attention i have a 5 year old for a previous realionship.. but he calls him dad as he knows no different.. any way i have always known he like to do coke with his mates on a nigh… read the full post

suicide watch

Posted by worriedsickwife on 18 April 2015 (7 comments)

I've made the hardest decision ever and left my husband and the father of my child. after 8 long years together I can no longer stay. my little boy is seeing the effect alcohol is having on his dad, the arguments, the emotional abuse, the accusations, the loss of bowel control as well as the need/want to spend as little time with the kids and me as possible and as much as possible in the pub or pa… read the full post

jmum

Posted by jmum on 12 April 2015 (4 comments)

my son has been smoking weed for at least 5 years, he dropped out of school, despite being really bright.  I am worried he has mental health problems.  He has a criminal record relating to his drug use, has stolen off us and his brother, lies, is manipulative, is currently in breach of his bail, he doesn't work, he left home at 16 but had left emotionally way before then, he used to stay out overn… read the full post

I had the phone call that I have been waiting for today.....

Posted by Franticmum on 11 April 2015 (3 comments)

Hi not been on here for a while but today ive had the call that I have feared for over a year, my son who had been a recovering addict up to a couple of years ago is in intensive care fighting for his life again, how do I feel? Numb, angry, sad, scared, all of these emotions and more, It hurts so bad that my son has chosen this path and theres not a thing I can do to stop or help him. 
I thought h… read the full post

My husband has an alcohol and cocaine addiction

Posted by Brenda on 10 April 2015 (7 comments)

Hi I am a 39 yr old mum of 4 teenage children and have been married to my husband for 29 years. His addiction has been on off over the years from binge drinking followed with cocaine using not coming home all night. Not stable in jobs. I am a self employed business woman who have been keeping all the finances above board for years until the last few months when we bought another property and I nee… read the full post

Lost my mum to alcohol

Posted by Surviving Chardy on 1 April 2015 (3 comments)

I'm 27 & my mum just died. She suffered from alcohol abuse for over 20 years, as long as I can remember really. She was so clever, the smartest person I know so it's difficult to understand how it all happened. Why she drank. But I know it's a disease, that she didn't want to feel that way & do all of the bad things she did. Her behaviours led to her being outcast from our family. But I al… read the full post

Donna

Posted by Donna on 24 March 2015 (12 comments)

Hi, my husband is 47 and we have been married 15 years. Throughout our marriage he has gone on drink and cocaine binges. I have two young children and this has been very very hard. He will just 'disappear'. He wont come home, doesn't answer his phone and never explains where he has been. He generally returns 2/3 days later, smelling and ill. To live with him is hell, he is unpredictable, untrustwo… read the full post

HELP! My mum died and then I found out my dad isn't my real dad? What do I do??

Posted by CharlotteRigby23 on 22 March 2015 (2 comments)

When I was 14 I lost my mum. She was only 37 and there was nothing wrong with her, It's just that her heart had stopped beating. And she wasn't strong enough to pull through the life machine. 
My mum and dad split up when I was about 9. So me and my brother and sister went to live with my mum and her new boyfriend. My mum and her boyfriend Lee had a baby together and Lee already had 2 of his own k… read the full post

what do you think?

Posted by exhausted on 14 March 2015 (2 comments)

My husband was drinking alot and is now down to 6 bottles of beer sat and sunday and unfortunately one beer each morning(no he does not drive).  The doctor advised me he is only just over the recommended but obviously the morning would be good to stop.
Last weekend after he made a couple of trips to the garage i found 3 cans in there.  he was remorseful as normal said that was the first time (but… read the full post

i cant see an end to this

Posted by lyn on 12 March 2015 (5 comments)

my son dont work dont sign on he sleeps all day and goes out at night  and smokes week we dont give him money he gets it from his friends he told me he has anxiety problems and also he pulled out of uni and broke up with the love of his life i know he feels useless, but he wont help himself and gets angry when i confront him my husband gets angry with him and we all start arguing and saying awful… read the full post

I had it all !! Marriage , business , holidays I was happy .

Posted by Shamrock73 on 11 March 2015 (4 comments)

I've been married for 18 years I'm now 42 . We worked hard and established a good business , my 2 youngest went to private school we had luxury holidays I thought we had made it then in the last 3 years alcohol became more and more apparent ? Florid he wanted to sit I the local bar I wanted to hit the rides with the kids ! Local business meetings , Xmas parties I started to see he couldn't control… read the full post

dont knw where to turn

Posted by babydollmumma86 on 11 March 2015 (3 comments)

Hi I'm new at this so forgive me my husband has a drink problem and I've tried helping him I even arranged for him to goto an aa meeting he said he went the once but not mentioned or been since when he drinks he gets so angry and just argues and makes me out to be the enemy he's so horrible but sober he's da best thing ever I've begged and pleaded and even tried to help but now he trays drinking h… read the full post

Recovery is heart breaking

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 10 March 2015 (2 comments)

My son has fought to stay sober for 9. Months....for those that know me, it's been highs and lows....3 weeks ago the lows reached rock bottom....my son had a mental break down.....life got in the way,you see....worrying about cuts at work, would he still have a job, worrying about is nan who is very ill, low self esteem.....things that you and me can cope with....for him ,this was too much....over… read the full post

just tired of it all

Posted by exhausted on 4 March 2015 (1 comments)

Nearly a year ago i found 60 cans of beer in the recycling.  for years my husband has drunk more than what i would have liked, but this was the catalyst.  The next 3 months were hell with him lying to me about whether he had brought drink. He would not see anyone so i told him if he did not reduce the alcohol he had to leave.  By the August things were so much better.  he would have 6 bottles (can… read the full post

married to some one with a drink problem

Posted by moredownthanup on 2 March 2015 (4 comments)

I have been married for 5 years, my other half drinks every day, and has had health problems which alcohol worsens.
We went away for a night at the weekend, the night out (areunion) was lovely, but my husband was totally mullered and couldnt walk straight when it was time to leave.  On the journey home the next day he drank all day day and when we arrived back in our home town turned into Mr Hyde,… read the full post

Losing hope..

Posted by Lauren on 28 February 2015 (3 comments)

This is the first time I've tried to seek support..I've no idea where to start/look, but maybe this is good to just tell someone who won't judge me. My Dad is/has been an alcoholic for 20+ years. He's lost everything, his house, his family (except me..), his license, everything. I put him into rehab in May last year, he did well while he was in there..I really thought it was what he needed, to rea… read the full post

New to this

Posted by colly on 28 February 2015 (5 comments)

First time I've been on this. It has been a real God send to find this site. I have 2 family members who are drug addicts and the past 10 years or so have a been a living hell. My son has been a drug user for over 10 years and I have recently found out my partner of 3 years is also abusing drugs, even though I'd suspected for a while. I'm devastated and feel quite isolated.… read the full post

my dad is a drug addict what can i do

Posted by hanna on 26 February 2015 (2 comments)

my name is hanna and my dad has a realy bad drug problem it all started when i was younger about 8/9 i realised my dad took drugs i was brought up in a lovley family home with both parents and my brothers and sisters i am now 18 and dont live at home i left when i was 15 becuse my dads drug problem got realy bad and i couldnt deal with it as when he didnt get his fix he would lash out and i would… read the full post

vagabond, sedated, troubled.

Posted by hope76 on 23 February 2015 (2 comments)

I'm 18 years old, i'll be turning 19 in august.
I am a drug addict. I've been doing crystal meth for a few years now and i'm scared that i won't be able to stay clean for good. I always say i'm going to stop and i do for a few days but thats only becuase i end up broke. But once i get enough money to buy more i relapse. Anything to just be sedated. My family has caught me a few times and if i get… read the full post

Help me please...

Posted by Jess King on 22 February 2015 (2 comments)

Okay! So I'm 16 years old. When I was just 14 years old my mum passed away suddenly. She was only 31 and it was a shock to us all. Her heart just stopped. My mum also has 3 other children 2 to a man named Danny a little boy to a man called carl and she had me her first born child with a man called Neil. When I was born my dad Neil. When I was born my mum had already split up with Neil and she was… read the full post

my girlfriend is cheating on me

Posted by donna x on 18 February 2015 (2 comments)

I have  been in a relationship for 3 years i've been with this girl she has a mental problem she hides man in the flat i know it sounds funny shipleys me and please me when i confronted her about this problem she tries to put the problem on me it all in my mind she says i need help go to the doctors She says she support me i have recordings of her  as i  sleep  a sexual acts with other men she has… read the full post

Very Dysfunctional

Posted by Marie on 13 February 2015 (4 comments)

There is to much to tell my story I could go on forever. I am stuck in situation that's lead me to anti depressants my mother was& is alcoholic drug user my dad enabler. They split my mom got a boyfriend got worse I saw things that as a child u would see in very bad movie. Grew up bailed mom out jail help her so many ways & time dad too. I have so many issues as adult don't want to deal wi… read the full post

Wishing for a family bond.

Posted by G.O.S on 12 February 2015 (4 comments)

I have known my mom to be a drug addict for years she has 3 kids all together my oldest sister Tasha , my second oldest Tameka, I'n then there's me the baby, both of my oldest sisters are in their mid 30's almost 40's and I'm 20 years old . I'm unsure of the type of relationship my sisters had with my mom or how they felt when she did drugs , I don't know what they had to go through I just know no… read the full post

I've lost my mum and I'm slowly loosing my dad

Posted by Chloe_324 on 12 February 2015 (2 comments)

When I was just 14 years old my mum passed away. It was a shock to us all and it upset me more because we never knew why she died... Her heart just stopped beating:( Life was tough for me after this. I went through a really tough time at school, I couldn't concentrate, work , listen everything was hard work for me. 
When my mum passed away me and my brother and sister had to move in with our dad.… read the full post

Sinking further into the world of Alcoholism

Posted by MonicaJ on 12 February 2015 (4 comments)

She is beautiful, she is intelligent and my best friend. But she is also broken, she is hurting and she is falling in alcoholism, drug abuse and self harm. Alcohol has become her way with dealing with the madness that seems to be going on in her mind. It's not a joke, but she still laughs. It's not funny when I'm the one picking up the pieces every single time. I will always be there for her not m… read the full post

Heroin Addict Brother

Posted by Inthemiddle on 11 February 2015 (5 comments)

My little brother was going through a tough time our father passed away, his wife kicked him out of their house, and he lost his job all in the same week. I took him under my wing brought him into my home, that I share with my wife and our 3 children, to live and got him a job with the company I work for.  A couple months in I started hearing rumors at work about my brother and his odd behavior, m… read the full post

All alone

Posted by Lostlady on 11 February 2015 (4 comments)

I am so alone and do not know what to do.
My partner of 9 years has always smoked weed, on and off, more on that  off!  I have asked him to stop. It causes so many problems. I blame it for everything. Him not doing things around the house. Him snapping and not being able to deal with things as a normal level headed man would. It is the butt of all my arguments. He works nights and today he has com… read the full post

My siblings are addicted to drugs

Posted by JH12 on 10 February 2015 (2 comments)

I have one brother and one sister that are both older than me. I am the youngest in our family and everyone of my family members are addicted to either drugs or alcohol. I am the only one that maintains a clean and sober life for the sake of my kids, fiance, and myself. I have always been the caregiver in the family and  I love my family especially my sister and brother too much to walk away. My b… read the full post

My Son thinks he is control of his new found best friend.

Posted by oscar on 9 February 2015 (3 comments)

A few weeks ago I found out that my son of 20 has taken drugs. It started with smoking weed and it has not escalated to taking MDMA or "E". He has admitted that he is taking E and he uses it as a party drug. He has also convinced him self that he does not have a problem and that he is in control of his habit. He can flick the switch on and off when he needs to. I have given him material… read the full post

son's increasing drug use

Posted by debz2 on 8 February 2015 (4 comments)

my son has had drug use issues for some time ( aprox 4 years). He has also suffered from depression and anxiety issues. My first husband committed suicide when my son was only 7 years old.
Recently my son had an episode of aggression and violence following frequent heroin use followed by a benzodiazepine binge ( I think he took this to help him with withdrawal). We tried to cope with him, but afte… read the full post

any help or advice?

Posted by ellier24 on 7 February 2015 (1 comments)

So my brother has been a drug addict and stole to feed his habit for many years and last year went to rehab and went through it all and into recovery. He was clean for 15 months and then relapsed after Christmas and has relapsed a few times since. He has been involved with drugs of some kind for 10 years or so so it has had a big part of my life. I have a 2 year old who I stopped from seeing just… read the full post

my son

Posted by chris on 4 February 2015 (1 comments)

i have a 12 year old son who is very good and writes a diary in whic he writes what he wants to do and what he imagine i once read that diary he writes that he wants to have an serious accident then he stay in coma and have leg cast and hand cast and other things and sometimes he tried to have accident what should i do i dont know what to do plz ghelp me… read the full post

10 yrs of hell

Posted by Giving up on 3 February 2015 (6 comments)

My Stepson has been using Cocaine for 10 yrs, he has lost 10 yrs of his life & has the mindset of a 17 yr old. In 11 yrs he has been sacked from 12 jobs for not turning up, due to drug benders. We have tried the hard, soft, understanding, supportive approaches but seem to get nowhere. We have now discovered that he doesn't actually want to stop doing drugs and have decided that he's made his c… read the full post

my grandson

Posted by concernd on 3 February 2015 (1 comments)

my wee grandson i only 7yrs old my son is addicted to weed an diazapam he never comes to see his so.n it breaks my heart because my grandson doesnt no y his dad wont visit iv tried with my son but he just lets him down i no addicts are selfish but it doesnt stop the hurt… read the full post

IN THE DARK GIRLFRIEND

Posted by lj1973 on 1 February 2015 (1 comments)

hi,im the girlfriend of a guy withdrawing from cannabis and nicotine.i don't understand any of this.as ive never smoked myself.ive witnessed the mood swings,the sweats,the anger,the not sleeping.we had a silly fall out over money I needed to give him.but I didn't have any change.also for something he had bought.whilst I went to get the change.he packed up majority of hes belongings from my flat.as… read the full post

desperately trying to learn my next move.

Posted by confused mother of 2 on 31 January 2015 (2 comments)

Hi, okay so I am new to this site and I know that everyone here prob feels in someway like their life is spiralling downwards trying to understand it. I do everyday. This is the only place I can actually explain my pain and hope someone understands and doesnt just judge my mistakes. well hopefully Someone has some insight that isn't just that im stupid.  Thats all I get from  family. 

so I meant… read the full post

Broken

Posted by MT on 30 January 2015 (3 comments)

I am at my wits end not knowing what to do,I have two sons both of which are heroine addicts, and have been for several years,one is trying to get sorted having almost lost his daughter, the other is just on self destruct, I lost my husband 10 months ago, and really don't know how to carry on,… read the full post

sad sister

Posted by little sister on 30 January 2015 (1 comments)

My brother is a heroin addict. I'd heard about it through people but never believed them because for a couple of years my brother lived in different places. Sadly I finally got to see first hand that it was true. About ten months ago my brother started coming around and eventually moved back with my parents. At first we didn't see anything out of the ordinary and he seemed fine to us until he star… read the full post

no more forgiveness

Posted by tired and weary on 30 January 2015 (8 comments)

This feels like  a betrayal to my daughter but there really is nowhere else to go. My beautiful, sweet, blue eyed baby girl turned into a deceitful, lying, thief around 8 years ago, when she was 18. We did not realize that she was addicted to heroin although we knew that her partner was. The pieces of burnt foil, the stench, the pens all over the place, gave the game away, but she always denied it… read the full post

how and what to change in my life....

Posted by Lanny on 29 January 2015 (2 comments)

I am mom for my 2 wanderful kids, and waif for man who smoke weed and think is something good in his life... how he start smoke he start talkto me any how, he tottaly dont spend time with kids, every day off he chill with same friends smokers or just go chill and drink with friends, he dont take me to nowhere, any time i talk to him he stay agressive shout on me, for last year he start beat me, th… read the full post

Living with a alcoholic husband

Posted by dd on 26 January 2015 (3 comments)

I have lived with my husband for nearly 14 years, I have 4 children. one of them has severe learning difficulties and autism. one has learning difficulties. I have put up with his drinking, as it was manageable, but 7 years ago his drinking was getting worse. then my husband stopped working and became carer for my eldest son. at the beginning of last year he started drinking from morning until he… read the full post

heroin and crack addict boyfriend

Posted by zeus on 25 January 2015 (2 comments)

Ihave been with my boyfriend for 4yrs but met him 15yrs ago,we got together after he came out of jail,he has spent most of his adult life in prison,his brother warned me ,he was a heroin addict,but i didnt listen.At first all was well,my partner was loving ,very close to me,but after a few months he started going off on his own to neighbours etc,and was drinking,some nights he wouldnt come home,he… read the full post

help painkiller addiction x

Posted by take that, doctor who, mcbusted rule on 25 January 2015 (1 comments)

Hi my name is Kayleigh I have a painkiller addiction and I don't know what 2 do and what help I need x… read the full post

Is there hope.... Or I'm I just wanting to believe it

Posted by Kf on 22 January 2015 (5 comments)

I'll start at the beginning and try to keep this brief. My ex partner has a heroin and Valium habit and is addicted to methadone. We split in August when enough was enough for me and his chaotic drug use was becoming a huge issue and he very nearly OD. I had to leave to protect our son as my ex was becoming abusive aswell with the drug use. I packed a bag for me and my son and left suddenly, polic… read the full post

help me

Posted by poppybabe on 18 January 2015 (3 comments)

I live with an alcoholic and ex drug addict. He was often violent when he couldn't get drugs and my life has often been hell. He is now a dying alcoholic with liver failure and copd to add to his problems. I still love him and am his carer but am findind it very hard to cope with the emotional turmoil of it all. I don't really know where to turn to or who to ask for help from as I have lived with… read the full post

it's destroying my life

Posted by Rosalie on 17 January 2015 (7 comments)

Im 32, mother of 3 boys, married my high school sweetheart 12 yrs ago. Rough start, no doubt. Infidelity on his part caused a 2 yr separation and threw me into depression. At that time our first 2 were toddler. After months of counseling we decided to try again. Few yrs later i felt on top of the world again. I had a good job and so did my husband. Our kids were in a charter school, had good grade… read the full post

living with an alcoholic

Posted by shell66 on 16 January 2015 (4 comments)

Im married to an alcoholic who denys he hasa problem. Im up to my eyes in debt, work my arse off even tho he sits there everyday doing nothing but drink an watch tv!. Im ill myself have back problems an a prolapse womb, christmas an new year were a nightmare, i think i would be so much happier if he moved out, i cant bear talking to him anymore, sick of empty promises to change, my kids are sick t… read the full post

Should i stay OR should I go?

Posted by Kimi on 15 January 2015 (3 comments)

I have known my husband since we were kids (we both had feeling for each other),  but never really expressed our feelings for each other until later on in life. We married in March 2012. We met 2005 for the first time abroad....this will be revealed later on in the story.

Ash (not his real name) married at 21 to another girl. I married at 28 to another chap. He blamed his addiction on his first m… read the full post

Help and advice

Posted by groundhogdayagain on 14 January 2015 (2 comments)

I have been with my partner for two years he is a warm loving funny intelligent man. Most of the time. When we got together it was on the understanding that he gave up heroin pills and alcohol. He tried hard but ended up using drugs less and alcohol more. He overdosed and it has been very traumatic. Violence, loneliness, fear then it looked like I was going to die his organs were giving up and his… read the full post

title What can I do?

Posted by maryjoan on 14 January 2015 (2 comments)

My partner is an alcoholic. He denies it, commonly enough. He has been a heavy drinker for about 50 years - he is now 68. We have been together 4 years, and live together. I love him dearly, and felt I had met 'the one' after an awful previous marriage.
His health is now suffering, I know  and he has lots of hospital appts, but does not admit how much he drinks. I have written to his doctor and to… read the full post

Worried about my kin

Posted by Aqqs2613 on 13 January 2015 (1 comments)

My younger bro was very bright & intelligent, he was not into any sort of addiction, nowadays he met some new friends & started doing meth,few days ago he came to me & told me about his addiction & also told me that he himself is fed up & I should help him to come out of it,he doesn't want to go to the psychiatrist, so what should I do, plz help me.… read the full post

Where do I turn?

Posted by Victoria4 on 12 January 2015 (1 comments)

My brother is an alcoholic. He has admitted, on occasion, he has a problem. But never takes any steps to help himself. Up until recently  he lived with my Mum. I had to move out because I couldn't handle the atmosphere in the house and I would constantly argue with him. I'm at a crucial stage in my career and couldn't handle being in the same environment as him. I feel unbelievably guilty for leav… read the full post

my partner

Posted by relationship on 12 January 2015 (2 comments)

Hi all i new so not sure how to do this. I just need some help my partner who i love the most just hurts me constantly hes on meth and goes straight for porn leaves in bed next to him im so hurt to see him do this to me wen im rite now. He looks at other girls in front of me. I dont feel loved anymore that im a waste of space.i just want things to work out better. Idk wat else or even this is the… read the full post

so home again

Posted by newdidit on 12 January 2015 (1 comments)

Hi, I have searched and searched for help and came across this site so i hope you can show me where i go wrong but more importantly how i can help to get it right. in saying that i have just heard this saying and think it speaks volumes ' i have to learn to stop being a parent and parenting and just let life go on' i think i may have lost the correct ending but i will carry on.
my son is 25; i hav… read the full post

The dreaded phone Call........ :(

Posted by Louise30 on 9 January 2015 (4 comments)

" Mummy you and Daddy built me, why can't we build him again"
That's our 4yr old Daughter, it's been 15weeks today I got that dreaded phone call to say he was found dead, no point sugar coating things as the reality of Drug addiction is heartbreaking, soul destroying , devastating and my god a lonely place. He was 34 and always up for a party but for some reason the party never seemed to… read the full post

dont know where to go

Posted by TEDDY on 8 January 2015 (1 comments)

Im a 32 year old women with 3 children that I love with all my heart iv been useing alcohol and drugs since I was 12 years old due to circumstances in my life, as I got older I was with drawn and shy I felt that I wasnt good enough for people to like me and felt suicidal on times so I used more alcohol and drugs to give me the  confidence I needed to have friend ,but of course the friends I have h… read the full post

Addiction sucks

Posted by Annon on 8 January 2015 (3 comments)

I'm 17... Ever since I was 13 my brother has been addicted to heroin there's been times with overdoses near death that if I didn't find him on the bathroom floor he'd be dead, I hate how I had to grow up like this. My dad had to stay home just so he could watch my brother and make sure he wouldn't steal anything for drug money my dad became an alcoholic and has gotten really bad over the pasts wee… read the full post

my life with Crystal Meth

Posted by 21female on 8 January 2015 (1 comments)

since I was 13 years old I've always told myself I would never get addicted to any drug I would use off and on till I was 20 yrs old but never needed it everyday. My bf is in prison and got into some trouble so wasn't able to make phone calls for 6 months. My depression lead to my everyday smoking. I only weighed 85 pounds I lost friends had no where to sleep at night some days. I would cry beg fo… read the full post

question....

Posted by JP on 4 January 2015 (5 comments)

My finace and i are newly engaged he has been using meth for a while now and i new about it the whole time and we have not lived together yet until the end of this month we will be. he lives in another state and will be moving here to be with me and my son, now my mom found out about his addiction and swears up and down if he moves here he is not allowed around my son and she will take my son away… read the full post

I give up

Posted by Floo64 on 4 January 2015 (4 comments)

I cant do this on my own, i really have no idea where to even go or what to do anymore..
ive been smoking weed and cigs hardcore sine 2009, i have been actively trying to quit for a year now. I cant even go a day without smoking, its all i think about, it consumes my life now. it never used to be this way. i have an addictive personality it sends me into panic mode thinking of not smoking ever aga… read the full post

Terrified of losing you to crystal death

Posted by Ruth95 on 3 January 2015 (3 comments)

My boyfriend has been in recovery for 2 months now after heavily using crystal meth for a year. He destroyed his life and lost everything (job, home and his parents) in the space of 4 weeks. He broke my heart over and over again watching the states he used to get himself into. I watched him lose his mind. some times he got violent and aggressive so unlike the intelligent funny and caring law gradu… read the full post

My son of 22

Posted by Mumoffour on 3 January 2015 (9 comments)

Hi, please excuse myself I am new to this site. My son is now 22, he has always been a difficult child, did not like rules etc, he would be the class clown and always getting called into school for disrupting the class. I found out he was smoking cannabis a few years ago and we put ground rules down but when he was 16 he left our home and lived with his girlfriend for over 3 years. He has since sp… read the full post

Can I get through this? Feel so alone

Posted by Ally on 2 January 2015 (3 comments)

I'm so glad I've found this site, I'm feeling so alone, my husband has been using heroin on and off the last year, he works full time and pays for the mortgage and bills, I have a 1 year old baby who I look after in the home, he has used in the home a few months ago and I left for a week, he ended up overdosing and hospitalised, after he agreed to get help via the drugs service and psychologist I… read the full post

no real change

Posted by mrs blue on 2 January 2015 (1 comments)

My son is nearly 33 years old. He has had a drug habit for around 17 years. He has been in and out of jail for years. His offences were all connected to his drug habit. He has burgled his sisters house, stealing her handbag, laptop and electronic gadgets from her children. He was out of jail on a drug rehab order (what a bloody joke) within 6 weeks and landed at my with a bin bag over his shoulder… read the full post

Son on Drugs

Posted by welshspark on 2 January 2015 (10 comments)

My wife and I are at our wit’s end due to our son’s constant ongoing battle with drugs, he is now 29 but from the age of 14, he has been uncontrollable. Maybe that is the wrong word because we have three sons and he is the youngest, but he seems to go out of his way to cause problems when he is on a downer.
In truth at times, he can be the best loving son in the world and we are so proud of hi… read the full post

Family

Posted by meow meow on 1 January 2015 (0 comments)

Hello,For the past 6 days now i have not been able to sleep because my sister's boyfriend has been staying round and she has kicked me out of the room as we share a room and she is the oldest she apprentley is in charge of the rules,There is no other place for me to stay as my brother and his girl friend stay in the living room on a air bed and they don't want me to sleep in the same room as them!… read the full post

Should ex see our son?

Posted by Shaz on 30 December 2014 (3 comments)

I met my ex partner 3 years ago, I knew he used drugs recreationally but didn't realise he was dependant on cannabis until I was already pregnant. To cut a long story short I left him when our son was 9 months old and my ex visits every two weeks, we live 90 miles apart. I think our son who is now 2 picks up that something isn't quite right with his father as he used to cry when he saw him and nev… read the full post

sad

Posted by carolep on 29 December 2014 (1 comments)

Hi , I have been living with my partner for four years, ,,,stupidly I knew he smoked 'a bit' of weed.....it took me a long time to realise he is so dependent on it and the last year especially it has caused so many arguments. He works as a taxi driver and the last year as soon as he is home (or on the way home) he has to have a drink and then later a joint....I have told him that one day I will ha… read the full post

cookie

Posted by cookie on 26 December 2014 (2 comments)

My child recently left home because she didn't want to be in our home town anymore. Relatives in another town were meant to be looking after her but one of them has somehow got her involved with crack. I am desperate and don't know what to do. I have tried to get her to understand that she is so loved and valued and that all i want is for her to take proper care of herself. The moment she got her… read the full post

Another horrible Christmas looms

Posted by OliveOil on 24 December 2014 (2 comments)

My partner has been a heroin addict for10 years. This year he finally got clean and has been like the person I met again, a lovely caring man who I want to spend time with. Or he was until yesterday, when he went on a bender and got completely off his head. He's now sleeping it off and I'm left dreading another Christmas, trying to deal with his mood swings, lying to family about what's going on a… read the full post

Back Again

Posted by concerned mum on 24 December 2014 (4 comments)

Hi all who remember me....Its been a while since I have posted not because things have changed much just thought I was learning to deal with things better.   But no i have fell to earth with a mighty thud again..I have a nineteen year old son drug,alcohol and gambling dependant...I have been on anti depressants and receiving councilling until recently....Things were going ok he got a job and start… read the full post

Alcoholic father

Posted by Little lady on 24 December 2014 (4 comments)

I don't really know where to start. I'm writing this and sharing to see if this helps. They say talking about problems really makes a difference so here it goes. 
Ever since I was really young and I mean my  first memories, my dad has drank heavily. When i say heavily I mean either 8 cans of carling special brew , a litre of vodka or whiskey a day. 
Ever since my mother divorced my dad thugs has s… read the full post

Solvents ??

Posted by big brother on 23 December 2014 (4 comments)

IV just overheard my 13 year old chatting on FaceTime to a boy in school about how she's been sniffing nail varnish remover then I heard her say she will show him again at that point I walked in on her I stopped it this time but how can I end it she is so beautiful is is a high atchevier in every subject she can play many musical instruments and her singing is amazing why would she do it ?? I am b… read the full post

Brother with depression taking drugs

Posted by Lisa Jane x on 22 December 2014 (2 comments)

I'm 15 years old and my brother suffers with depression. It's been on going for around 3 years and in all honesty it's made my life very difficult. He has attempted suicide twice before. Over the past few months he has decided to start taking cannabis, and smoke cigarettes on a regular basis. I worry a lot about the drugs being kept in the house and I worry about this turning his depression even w… read the full post

PLEASE. I need some help, my dad is on drugs.

Posted by Positivity #1 on 21 December 2014 (3 comments)

I am 21 years old and my dad is on drugs. He is an EXTREMELY intelligent man but for the last 2-3 years or so he has turned to cocaine, meth, and god knows what else. This is due to , at least what I think, his mid life crisis and business struggles. He recently sent an email to our whole family admitting that he does. What makes me sad is that he blames ME especially as well as my mom for his add… read the full post

my sister is pregnant and doing downers....

Posted by Marley on 17 December 2014 (1 comments)

Ok my sister is 21years old and about 4 months pregnant. Me and her used to be very close but her boyfriend kinds ruined that... but know she lives out at her boyfriend's house which is his parents house. Which their 21 year old daughter with 2 kids lives there,that is an alcoholic, and now there thirty something daughter has moved back in who shoots up herion.... they don't have to pay or do anyt… read the full post

my son

Posted by mother of an addict on 17 December 2014 (4 comments)

I would like to begin by saying I LOVE MY SON however there are times when He has hurt me so much I don't want to live. He is not my only child, he is not my only child to try drugs. I have reached a point where I know that to put him out of the family home is what I should do to protect my daughter who is only 17yrs old. I know he would not survive and I can't do it!!! I am a health care professi… read the full post

i worry im not doing the right thing

Posted by dove on 16 December 2014 (4 comments)

My son is 26 since he was 13. He haas been drinking and taking drugs drugs his addictions are extrem.   When he drank it would be all day until he passed out   he told me he was addicted to arosoles and would be sniffing them consantly, he even had them delieved to the house.  After his dad comitted sucide two yeats ago after suffering from addiction and related depression i had my son then 25 rem… read the full post

I feel so helpless!

Posted by jesssam1 on 12 December 2014 (2 comments)

My partner has been battling with cocaine for some time now and his habit doesn't just effect him it effects all those around him, myself included. I have tried to be supportive, I have tried the soft approach, the aggressive, the crying, I have tried everything that I possibly can. I love this man so very much and it breaks my heart to think that what he is doing could possibly kill him. I worry… read the full post

I just found out something about my sister and I need advice

Posted by Papew on 11 December 2014 (1 comments)

My sister has been on bad drugs for over 8 years. She is 28 years old. She started using heroin when she was pregnant with my niece.That was over 5 years ago. My sister has been in 4 different rehabs and did everything she was suppose to do to get clean.She got off probation and did the time for all of her charges that was brought against her. She has full custody of her daughter now. A little ove… read the full post

My meth addict son!!!

Posted by LLW on 11 December 2014 (1 comments)

I have a 22 year old son that will steal any thing he can get his hands on he will even steal from family!! He is a meth addict. He has already gotten charges of possesion and charges for drug paraphanelia. A while back he stole 6000 dollars worth of tools from my boyfriend and my boyfriend hates him. The kid needs help to get on the right track. My boyfriend always makes me kick him out on the st… read the full post

My Dads a drug addict and alcoholic. Help!

Posted by Chloe.x on 10 December 2014 (1 comments)

My Dad was diagnosed with cancer in Jan 2013. During this time, he was prescribed Morphine by his doctor to help with the pain from his cancer treatment. Not only did this drug take the physical pain away, it also helped him mentally and took all depression away. Fortunately in October 2013, he was given the ‘all clear’ however the Morphine addiction and depression still remained. During the l… read the full post

Help me to help him

Posted by Button12 on 10 December 2014 (2 comments)

My boyfriend opened up to me and admited that he has a cocaine addiction and wants to get clean.

Ive know something has been up for the last few months. He goes out most saturdays with his mates, for as long as i can rember ive alwaysed picked him up on a night out, but the last few months hes always got really funny about it and when i get him hes always really shady. but finally last night afte… read the full post

Advice please

Posted by Jimbob on 10 December 2014 (5 comments)

Our son who we think the world of is bleeding us dry, we give him money the week before he gets  paid to  help him out and yet when he does get paid he never has enough to pay us bat. He work full time and he is always skint.  I am on disability  and  my husband is nearly 70, he is bleeding us dry and I really like doing myself in.  I  love our son but I think cocaine has taken too much of a grip… read the full post

Advice please

Posted by NJ on 8 December 2014 (2 comments)

Hi, I have only shared a handful of times about my difficult situation with my husband who  has problems with drink and drugs, and I have 2 small children. As you can imagine I have been through some horrible times in this situation. I generally got some lovely kind words from people who understood how I felt. I recently revisited the website and saw 2 people had sent responses mentioning online d… read the full post

i lost my 3 boys

Posted by jema on 7 December 2014 (2 comments)

I've been on heroin since i was 15 fell in with the wrong crowd i was on an off gear till i was 19. Went to prison for shop lifting then came out on a methadone script got together with an old mate i got pregnant had a little boy then 10 months later had another little boy. The boys dad started doing gear again we split up i moved back with my mum. Then we got back together and he asked me if i wa… read the full post

A long year later .....

Posted by Franticmum on 3 December 2014 (7 comments)

Hi its been a while now since I wrote on here, its twelve months since we were sat in the hospital after my son had overdosed, thankfully he survived and agreed to go into rehab to try to get a grip on his addiction, sadly it all soon went wrong and after heartbreaking months of trying to support him it all came to the point where he had to choose a life of drugs or have the support of all of his… read the full post

Crystal Meth Robbed My Brother

Posted by HelplessSis on 2 December 2014 (8 comments)

I feel so alone and scared. I have tried numerous ways of trying to get help and support after my brother fell victim to addiction. But every time I reach out, we are just turned away. It saddens me so much to see that very little help and support is available for Crystal Meth addicts and their families in the UK.
My brother is my rock. He was the male father figure i never had. He was bright, in… read the full post

confused and heart broken

Posted by vejar on 1 December 2014 (2 comments)

Hi,I am 36 yrs old I am a mother of three . My oldest is 20 yrs old  and I have been married for 13 yrs .  He is not my oldest father . my sons father died when he was 8 yrs old of cancer.My husband had a cocaine addiction he would do it almost every Friday after a few beers . he was always very calm and didn't bother us at all ,so I learned to live with it. In 2009 I finally got tired of it. didn… read the full post

Do I have to live like this

Posted by LucyS on 1 December 2014 (2 comments)

Heres my story.. 
I'm 18, the youngest of 3 children.  My mother has been an addict since she was roughly 16.  She would take me round to numerous different houses, crack dens or a dealers houses sometimes we would be away for up to 2 weeks at a time, i would sleep on the couch or a floor or wherever she told me to go while she hit up. It has been 8 years this coming january since I last seen her.… read the full post

It has to be the end

Posted by vince on 1 December 2014 (4 comments)

Just another sad story, after 12 months of trying to help a 25 year old mother of 3 to get off crack and heroin, i have now come to the end.
She has been in hospital twice this year, first time i dragged her from a crack house 1 month after asking her to leave my house because of the lies.
She was clean for 4 months while with me. One day back in coventry and she was hooked again i blamed myself s… read the full post

i just dont know what to do any more

Posted by jq on 28 November 2014 (4 comments)

Im 21 years old. Both my parents have been addicted to drugs most their lifes. Since i was born my dad has been in and out of prison for drug dealing. He was addicted to herion before he got sent down. Then my mum started taking herion aswel to try and feel happy. I remeber going to some strangers house when i was little with my mum. She left me to play in the play ground while she was in the hous… read the full post

husband just got recalled

Posted by jojowin on 26 November 2014 (0 comments)

He has Just gone back to prison. I knew nothing about addiction  but its clear he is an alcohólic i have a 6 month daughter, he calledme a dog, cunt, fat, ugly, slag, slut etc , then apologised next Morning ,… read the full post

Advice

Posted by Advice on 26 November 2014 (1 comments)

I was in a car with 3 other people, the police searched the car and found drugs and things to smoke them, I wasnt aware of the drugs until a 4th person entered the car, i have to go to the police and give my side of the story but im scared incase they don't believe me and im scared if i tell what happend and it goes to court the people i tell on might get me attacked or get me in trouble im innoce… read the full post

Can feel myself getting sucked back in

Posted by Kf on 25 November 2014 (4 comments)

I was with my ex 8 years he is a heroin addict, I left him back in August when his drug use spiralled out of control as I didn't want my son being around this. Since then it has been an emotional roller coaster with court cases etc. My ex stopped my son and myself from going on holiday and he has been nothing but a pain in the ass with the sale of the house so much so I am going to have to force t… read the full post

HELP !!

Posted by An on 25 November 2014 (2 comments)

Hi  I am a single mother of a 19 year addict son.  He has used for the past three years.  His drug of choice is meth.  He has been clean for 2 months.  He did it himself and I am very proud of him for that.  I kicked him out of my house September 1, 2014.  I lived for three years of what I considered close to hell.  I love my son so very much but I couldn't take it any longer.  He has been "c… read the full post

Secret functional addict?

Posted by Sebiana on 25 November 2014 (3 comments)

i have been with my husband for 5 years, married for 3. I have 2 children to a previous partner aged 7 & 15yrs, and a 1 year old together, my husband has been caught out a few times taking cocaine over the years but convinced me it was a one off, as in oh we where at a night club or stag do.

Recently he had a visit from an old friend and they went out drinking he never came home, I was annoye… read the full post

My husband<3

Posted by jb4pp4ever on 24 November 2014 (3 comments)

I was waiting for a bus home one night when a scruffy guy stopped and asked me if I had a spare 32p. I gave him 32p and we got chatting, he was living on the streets , a heroin addict and alcoholic and from that night we were together forever. 
 He moved in with me and we married a year later. He had already told me he had Hep C from sharing a needle but he couldn't have treatment until he was off… read the full post

my husband a drug addict

Posted by emziemelv on 23 November 2014 (5 comments)

hi im new here but really just want to be able to talk to someone who maybe in the same boat as me. my husband has been a heroin addict for 20years, i got with him 10years ago, he was clean and seemed to do well, he has had a few relapses but his worst was 2years ago, and it is still going on. i love him so much but i have to concentrate on my 3 young girls. im not sure i can cope with this any lo… read the full post

Pretty girl hides an ugly demon

Posted by estrella8952 on 20 November 2014 (2 comments)

I'm 25 years old, coming from another country,  I have a horrible cocaine,  alcohol and any kind of pill addiction,  nobody knows it but my dad. I can't stop I have a double live, great bf, and family I have two carriers and this morning all that I wanna do is to die and kill myself,  I'm so depressed I don't know what I'm doing with my life, help please… read the full post

Difficult !!

Posted by Debs on 19 November 2014 (17 comments)

I was in a terrible 5 year relationship , he was on heroin b4 he met me I sorta had an idea kept askin him he kept sayin he wasn't . Then one night he offered it me !!?? That began my 4 years of hell !!! Soooooooo stupid all it took was one "yes" from me ,thought it wouldn't get me but heroin doesn't care who it takes . I'm from a normal workin class family no problems always worked. By… read the full post

was i falling for a drug addict the whole time?

Posted by gill33 on 18 November 2014 (4 comments)

i need some advice on what to say and do. I met this boy through work started talking to him he told me he was a recovering addict. I accepted it and liked him for who he was now. meanwhile I hate drugs I never did them I'm totally against them. were still together he was doing IOP programs and staying clean. he then tells me he has to be honest and told me he was going to jail for 30days bc of an… read the full post

Never give up on a recovering addict

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 17 November 2014 (11 comments)

To all who are and have been effected by addiction never give up. I really thought there was no way out. My son was in the depths of addiction for over 4 years....since the end of June my son has been trying to fight against his addiction. It isn't easy, but his determination knows no bounds. 3 seperate relapses, and 3 times being disappointed with himself. But.........the real issue is learning h… read the full post

when does the pain end??

Posted by gg202 on 12 November 2014 (4 comments)

My partner has a history of cocain and speed using.ive been off and on with him since i was 18 im now 27.we got back together when he was 3 years clean!!life was good!!we fell in love all over again!!we set up home together.planned to get married and have another child.another 3 happy 3 years passed.we had just moved into a bigger house one mornin when he brought me coffee in bed.i drank it got up… read the full post

8 years of coke

Posted by charlieboy1 on 12 November 2014 (7 comments)

Hi, im 24 years old and have been using cocaine since I was 16, it star out just small doses but has increased over the years. I now consume anywhere from 3 grams to 8 grams a week. Its mostly on weekends but occasionally during the week, I only ever take it when im drinking alcohol, I feel like I have some control over it because sometimes it doesn't enter my head until I have a drink and I dont… read the full post

20yrs of living with a heroin addict

Posted by cinderella666 on 10 November 2014 (7 comments)

I was 20 when we met young free and single . He was already smoking heroin but kept it from me at first .I had no idea of how serious this was or how it would affect me . I had no intention of a relationship but he kind of moved himself in .  Anyway fforward 20yrs and im still on this horrible roller coaster of live he uses I catch him we argue we sometimes split .we have 3 children 18,8and 6 . An… read the full post

broken and don't know what to do

Posted by Sammy on 7 November 2014 (3 comments)

I met my boyfriend 2 years ago. We had an amazing relationship. We waited a year and moved in together, blending our families together. He would always look at me with such love. A few months into our relationship I found out he smoked marijuana. I don't do drugs, but weed isn't as bad at cocaine...right? Well a few months after that, I did indeed find out he was snorting and selling cocaine. I wa… read the full post

Fed up of it all now

Posted by Wife1975 on 7 November 2014 (2 comments)

Ok so I know the problems are nowhere near as bad as other people's but my husband definitely has a bit of an issue with drinking and I am so concerned for his health and that my kids will miss out on a dad.  He doesn't get drunk and smash the house up but he still drinks around ten beers every single day. Even if it is 7 at night and he has run out he will go buy more for the two hours he will be… read the full post

Help me be strong..........

Posted by scanners on 7 November 2014 (1 comments)

Hello my lovelys, its been a tough few months but I can honestly say things are looking up! I will start off with me for a change, I did not think a few months ago that I would ever get out of that hole I was stuck in due to my son's behaviour and how it affected me, but with help from family, friends and a doctor who was the spitting image of Colin Firth which helped tremendously I must say!! I a… read the full post

I'm now scared of taking drugs.

Posted by Danni x on 6 November 2014 (2 comments)

Hello, I'm 19 years old, and never really taken drugs before until I tried It with my friend. We took mdma a few months ago! And it was a really good night, which made us begin to take the drug every weekend for the past 3 weeks. I had no problem and was absolutely fine! We would laugh about the night before ect. However the well after me and my friend were really drunk and decided to take a pill.… read the full post

I did it I'm free.......!!!!!!

Posted by nitty on 4 November 2014 (1 comments)

Well I have finally finished it for good no more boyfriend dragging me down making me feel scared lonely and isolated, I can't tell you how much better I feel and how free I feel from the whole mess, I did love him but his addictions ruined our relationship my life and my home life, now I am taking steps to rebuild my life and my relationships with people I lost over the years..... so if u find th… read the full post

Should I give up?

Posted by Poppy36 on 2 November 2014 (1 comments)

I met my man, 2 years ago. He was funny, exciting and so loving. He smoked a bit of weed but it seemed like a fairly recreational thing. Anyway, over the next few months, I discovered he had an addiction to amphetamines and cannabis. A huge addiction and one that was 20 years strong. He is a functioning addict, if you like. It's a constant cycle- he takes the speed to work and the weed to sleep. I… read the full post

hopeless addict

Posted by anarette on 2 November 2014 (3 comments)

Hi,Im new here.My story is that I am married to a heroin addict for 9 years.When we met he had 5 years clean and was a religious man. He relapsed 2 years into our marriage and since then its been relapse after relapse. Over the years he's changed so much.Of course like many I paid thousands for rehab, looked after him ,supported him but eventually he would go back to drugs.Because he used to live… read the full post

my son

Posted by tinanortheast on 1 November 2014 (1 comments)

I have struggled hard to keep my son alive.
I have taken on Atos,the jobcentre,the Dr. The hospitals.
receptionists..It's a long journey.. You would be supprised how every one forgets to get prescriptions right. or passes the buck....I have had to approach .Tenders..the D.a.a.t......And we are still on our own....
Tinanortheast.....… read the full post

Still being taken for a mug!!

Posted by desperado! on 30 October 2014 (3 comments)

I last posted on here Aug 21st when I told my story about how my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years had admitted smoking heroin and said he had stopped and I had a feeling he was still using.

Well the update on the whole situation is he was still smoking heroin and " kept it from me to protect me!!" Since then I have had a tough time....constantly assuring me he had given up...accessing help and… read the full post

BIG LET DOWNS SO MUCH FOR HELP OUT THERE

Posted by danros on 30 October 2014 (3 comments)

my son is an addict and did all the right things to get funding for long term rehab went to a crisis centre every morning for 3weeks then got a bed he had to get his meth down from 100 m to 80 m before he could get into the long term clinic he did not know what medication he was given but was doing great looked great after his three weeks they told him that they did not think it was safe for to cu… read the full post

An entire family of addicts

Posted by Beth on 29 October 2014 (5 comments)

I am desperate! My entire birth family is full of hard core drug addicts. I am the only one out of my family who has never used. I have tried to help my immediate family; my father and my bothers for starters. To no end, I have failed. My drawing line was a few months ago when my 60+ yr old father o.d. on heroin...again. Meanwhile while at the hospital, my closest brother found his fix in THE E.R.… read the full post

Need help making a decission

Posted by Brother on 25 October 2014 (2 comments)

My big brother has been using crack cocaine for almost five yrs he has been very violent toward us recently he is a taxi driver for over seven yrs and ended up with the wrong company he has been transporting for them and have endangered our lives my parent his wife and myself  he has gotten to the point of drug use that he got into an accident with the car my parents gave him to work with  and wen… read the full post

Trying to stay clean.......

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 23 October 2014 (4 comments)

My son rang me today....his head was a mess, a small argument with his girlfriend which to him was the worst thing ever.....what should I do, I can't think straight, he told me......so I told him, don't think! Let the feeling wash over you (something he has never had to, whilst in the thows of addiction)....I told him it was ok to feel sad, angry, upset.....then we talked about coping strategies..… read the full post

I wish I had answers.

Posted by fbc83 on 21 October 2014 (4 comments)

He is a functioning heroin addict, thats my problem. He works, he pays bills, he picks the children up from school. How can I split up with him? Hes a sneaky lying heroin addict he keeps things from because he doesn't want to "hurt my feelings". My head is screaming at me to get rid. Why do i feel like my heart is punishing me & saying "well he is a good person". I wear the… read the full post

Don't Let Yourself Become Naive

Posted by Meg on 21 October 2014 (6 comments)

When someone you love is becoming addicted to drugs it's hard to take everything in. For the purpose of this I'm going to make up fictional names but the characters are all true.

When I first met Chris I fell head over heels, he was mysterious and a bit of a bad boy but he completely stole my heart. 

I knew that Chris had had a past battle with depression (something I now know he was still strug… read the full post

Love hurts

Posted by Nees on 21 October 2014 (2 comments)

I constantly feel like a nag when my fiancé 
Slips into his addiction again spending what
We don't have leaving me alone and lying for 
Him I keep saying I want a normal life I can't 
Handle much more but each day it happens… read the full post

pinkpink

Posted by pinkpink on 21 October 2014 (6 comments)

I have had two years of shock/ disbelief my eldest son now twenty five is taking cocaine .never thought it would happen to me. this is the hardest thing I have ever thought could happen to me and my family.my son is in denile and will go to great length to say he is not on drugs.i thought a mother love and I could sort him out how wrong and exhausted trying I was I feel the emotional impact drugs… read the full post

In memory of my darling twin brother Andy x

Posted by CazAndyx on 20 October 2014 (10 comments)

Words could never express the agonising journey I have been on since my brother passed away in February 2014, 4 weeks before our Birthday.
14 years ago he gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, he rang me crying with joy, he said he wants to give her the childhood we were stripped off.  He said she was his miracle and he couldn't wait for me to see her. 
As she grew and his love grew he started havi… read the full post

so confused

Posted by pavnicky on 17 October 2014 (23 comments)

I found out 4 weeks that my husband of 16 years has a coccaine addiction, which subsequently cost him his job and a possible criminal record. Since then i have felt so isolated and alone.  I had supected in the past but he always shot me down and made me feel like it was me that had the problem.  We have two daughters and i feel like i have failed in my role as protector.  Now i dont know how to b… read the full post

Help me be strong...........

Posted by scanners on 17 October 2014 (12 comments)

Good evening friends and for the lovely "cant take no more" "swifty" and  lolipop, thank you for thinking of me, I have not been too well,, I have alot of doctors to see but im getting some help at last. My son was in court also on monday and will be sentenced on 3rd nov, he pleaded guilty to breaking the non molestation order, harrassing and demanding money from me for his dru… read the full post

Support

Posted by Stacey82 on 14 October 2014 (2 comments)

2 years ago our baby sadly passed away. Since then my partner has come a completely different person to the one I fell in love with. We argue non stop and now I find out he owes thousands of pounds to drug dealers who now keep knocking on the door wanting their money. He has been so verbally abusive and so nasty and blaming me for everything. I feel drained. During an argument I finished it with h… read the full post

Tramadol dependency

Posted by Mavis on 13 October 2014 (2 comments)

I'm at the start of a process I never in my life thought I would experience, having finally met and married my special person they have turned into someone I don't really recognise any more, due to a Tramadol dependency. He has suffered from bi-polar all his adult life, he is now 41, I thought I could cope with that but I have recently discovered that when times are bad for him he seeks solace in… read the full post

Support

Posted by Rosie82 on 12 October 2014 (14 comments)

I have never written on a blog before but I don't know anyone who has been through a situation like mine. I'm 32 and I thought I had met the man of my dreams, I found out into the relationship that he was a previous herion addict but had been clean for 7 years. Maybe I was very nieave  to think that he would never touch that shit ever again, I haven't really been involved in drugs and just thought… read the full post

Alone

Posted by NJ on 11 October 2014 (4 comments)

Hi, never done this before, am 8months pregnant, he's been clean for 2 weeks this time, which I'm glad about but he can't support me in any way, financially, emotionally or any way, it's such a scarey time to feel so alone for me, it's like he's void and his lack of care at this time is hard to take. I'm trying to stay quiete and just be supportive with his issues, but it's been like that for ages… read the full post

Help me be strong

Posted by scanners on 6 October 2014 (8 comments)

Im not in a very good place at the moment, im very low, not strong for all this shit, my son is on unconditional bail for another 2 weeks, but I cant face another day of this, Every day is the same........drugs money, drugs money..........its a vicious circle and im at fault because I give in.i hate him for what he does to me, I just want to go back to a normal life!!! Infact I dont remember any d… read the full post

I love my mum but I dont know what I can do anymore!

Posted by Rachie on 5 October 2014 (2 comments)

My mum has had a drink problem since I was a baby and has tried for years to stop, Iv always been supporting her from a young age. I seen her through the years and been practically a carer, financially and emotionally. Clearing up her mess from the night before and seeing to her cuts if she broke a glass. I couldn't sleep until I knew she was,she would fall asleep with cigarettes in her hand.She's… read the full post

Mental Health Nurse

Posted by Swifty on 2 October 2014 (5 comments)

I have been a Mental Health Nurse , for over 25 years, so know the best thing to do when one is confronted with an addict, is to cross the road, but why is it so hard when it is a relative or close friend and why does common sense go out of the window. My youngest son, was an amazing boy, clever, handsome, intelligent and popular, but more important kind and caring, I was a permissive, understandi… read the full post

I lost the love of my life last year through alcohol

Posted by Nathan Parkinson on 29 September 2014 (3 comments)

I posted this on my facebook feed last week. I thought I would share.

Time for honesty. 

The grief over losing my dear partner after several years together is like I'm going mad...  He was my soul mate and my world, I wouldn't wish it on my enemy. For those who knew him you can only agree he was so unique and special. He made me laugh and smile more than anyone on this planet could. 2013 was so… read the full post

Enough is Enough

Posted by Kms2014 on 28 September 2014 (6 comments)

Hi, just joined this forum today. Here is my story-
I have been with my partner for 16 years, married for 9 years. When i met him i know he used cocaine occasionally when out socially but he agreed to stop and I had no reason to suspect otherwise.
He built up a successful business and i also have a good job so we literally had more money than we knew what to do with. He gave his parents and siblin… read the full post

help me be strong for my son xxx

Posted by scanners on 28 September 2014 (8 comments)

He is on bail for breaking his conditions not to harrass me for money for his drugs, he constantly demands money, tonight he kicked off again by coming to my house when he is not allowed, the police were called and he ran, I had to give a statement, im exhausted by it all, the demands, the abuse, the shouting, im skint potless broke, my money is his money, not sure where it come from but tonight I… read the full post

my partner of 15 years a drug addict

Posted by jojo19854 on 25 September 2014 (2 comments)

Myself and my partner have been together for 15 years and have 4 beautiful children he started using when my daughter was born in 2003 it was only social then and didn't bother me all too much but over the years it has regulated and much of the blame is all my fault he is now totally addicted to speed he takes it all the time and gets no sleep and does not eat which obviously has put a massive str… read the full post

Help my son is an addict

Posted by Gill on 25 September 2014 (11 comments)

Hi,im a single parent of 4 children aged 18 months to 19 years old, my 18 month old is disabled so its tough for me but its now even tougher as my 19 year old that lives with me is doing cocaine, legal highs and weed, he as hit me, smashed my house and car up, and just today he terrorised and robbed money from his girlfriend. He denies doing drugs and doing anything wrong. He as stolen from me and… read the full post

My Dad is at it again!

Posted by Daughter of alcoholic on 23 September 2014 (3 comments)

The first time I commented on here was way back in April, at that time my Dad was living with me and I was trying my very hardest to help my Dad. He had an appointment with addaction the day after I posted and they said that he needed to attend regular meetings, then maybe attend a few group meetings before they could fully assess him and consider rehab/wethouse. My dad suffers heavily from anxiet… read the full post

Here We Go Again!

Posted by Susan on 23 September 2014 (1 comments)

So as I am trying to stop the codependent and enabling behaviour patterns in my relationships (especially with my son) I get a phone call 3:20 Thursday afternoon. It is of course was my son, no one else calls me except bill collectors! My son had a small accident and was phoning me from the office of his supported housing complex. I need to take him to the doctor, now. Well my son often loses trac… read the full post

Moving Forward

Posted by Want My Husband Back on 23 September 2014 (5 comments)

I feel helpless and very stupid. My husband has had a drug problem using cannabis for 15 years now.  I've let him convince me to compromise on when and where he can smoke and now I see that I have been an enabler to his smoking.  He promises he can stop but he has proven time after time that he can't.

I don't want him to be a drug addict and I want to believe that he can stop.  But all his action… read the full post

so lost

Posted by Lucy on 19 September 2014 (2 comments)

My partner losing his fight with addiction and passing away 5 months ago has completely broken me i am better than i was but having an overwhelming moment ryt now...so hard to accept so hard to explain or share these feelings ov grief and so angry at this disease for robbing me n my children ov an amazing soul… read the full post

Frantic mum and fifi.....

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 17 September 2014 (4 comments)

Miss you both, and hope life is treating you as well as can be.....please let me know your both ok...luv and hugs always xxxxx… read the full post

Keep on fighting !

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 17 September 2014 (0 comments)

Hi all, especially those I've conversed with...as you know my son has battled with addiction for a number if years....we enabled him for a very long time before the light bulb went on and we withdrew everything..including support...it was his choice- work with us to get clean and have us in his life cheering him on to success, or not! Eventually he made the decision to change how he was "surv… read the full post

ENABLING VS HELPING

Posted by Susan on 17 September 2014 (2 comments)

This is something I have had to struggle with for years before I realised that I was not helping my son at all, and in some ways, I was actually enabling him. I wrote this last year and I hope it will help some you out there! I am stronger now and stopped enabling my son, who know lives in supported housing and no longer at home.

"It has been a word on my mind for a while...ENABLING. I am no… read the full post

DRUGS ON THE BRAIN

Posted by Susan on 14 September 2014 (4 comments)

We all know that addiction to drugs and/or alcohol can have detrimental affects on the addict's mental and physical health. Long term abuse can lead to a damaged brain and liver as well as a damaged life. This is particularly true in brain development if the addiction started in adolescents. Recently I have been reading some articles that say the adolescent's emotional development stops at the tim… read the full post

Hate being lied to.

Posted by fbc83 on 14 September 2014 (12 comments)

Ive been with my partner 15yrs & have 2 boys. We briefly split for afew months 8 years ago because I was fed up holding the baby so to speak. When we got back together I didn't realise that in that time hed become a heroin (smoking it) addict. It took me a year to notice even though when I look back everything was obvious, him disappearing, foil going down quick etc. He has a younger sister al… read the full post

Prescription drug habit

Posted by Linz4785 on 13 September 2014 (5 comments)

My son was a normal lad, working as an apprentice welder at 17 . Then he started at a gym and some bloke told him the easiest way to get a good shape and not be skinny any more by using steroids. Well after that (did not know this info at the time) he dabbled in a few things. Tried to keep a relationship going with one son. In between leaving them through his behaviour and spells of prison. Now my… read the full post

FAMILY IN RECOVERY

Posted by Susan on 13 September 2014 (4 comments)

An addict is afflicted with a disease called addiction. A disease that there is no medication for and comes in many different forms. There are various theories as to what causes the disease and the cause maybe different for different individuals.

The reality is that it is a disease that affects those around as well. It is not a contagious disease like some but it is unique that it will affect tho… read the full post

Relationship breakdown through drugs

Posted by Kf on 7 September 2014 (3 comments)

Heroin has taken over my life for the last 8 years and I am not the user. It has taken away the only man I ve ever loved and turned him into an unrecognisable person that just makes up lies after lies. I ended our 8 year relationship on the 2nd of August when I fled for myself and my sons safety after he domestically assaulted me after I found drugs in our home. Since then he has assaulted me for… read the full post

17 year old son taking drugs

Posted by MaisyR on 7 September 2014 (7 comments)

My nearly 18 year old son has a real problem with drugs. Since he was 12 he has been smoking weed nearly every day. He's always been in trouble and caused trouble and was thrown out a few schools.his father is an absolute waste of time, we separated when my son was 4, and he is in and out of his life. He makes false promises to him and let's him down constantly. I feel the drug use is to block out… read the full post

Tiny steps..moving forward

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 2 September 2014 (2 comments)

Hi all, especially those I have conversed with over the last few months...just wanted to share my sons progression at fighting his addictions...after his relapse 2weeks ago, he got straight back on his road to recovery...forward fast to yesterday..he used all his birthday money to get his son and step kids school shoes, and coats....then went for a job interview...and my god did he look smart, and… read the full post

21 and frightened

Posted by Amy on 28 August 2014 (15 comments)

Last December I met my current boyfriend and due to his circumstances at the time I allowed him to move in with me straight away. I genuinely do not believe he had a drug addiction when I first met him although only a couple of months into our relationship I began to notice things were a little odd but never once believed what I was witnessing were infact signs of heroin addiction. In hindsight th… read the full post

sadness

Posted by JB1958 on 27 August 2014 (6 comments)

My son, my beautiful son, steals, lies, not just from me but from friends and family, nothing is sacred. He cannot seem to settle or hold down a job. I know he smokes skank but wonder if there is something else but of course he denies it. He has so much debt it is frightening. I want to help him but don't know how or even if I have the emotional or physical energy to do so. I feel so broken inside… read the full post

2 sons addicted to crack

Posted by dee on 25 August 2014 (6 comments)

I have 2 sons addicted to crack and possibly other drugs, one son is 37 the other 34. on top of this my oldest is very ill, he was born with a kidney disease and over the last 4 years he had both kidneys removed, last year he bowel perforated, he almost died, he now has a colostomy bag, and he has dialysis 4 times a week, 2 weeks ago we was told he has renal bone disease, he has suffered drug addi… read the full post

Drug addiction has affected my life for so long

Posted by JANE2504 on 24 August 2014 (9 comments)

I'm 50 years old.  I've never taken drugs and I've never drank to excess yet drug addiction has affected my whole life.  I met my husband when I was 15 and he was nearly 10 years older.  I had 4 children with him and divorced him 17 years ago now.  Hindsight is a wonderful thing and when I look back I can see all the signs of his addiction and self destruct course clearly.  In reality it was years… read the full post

Relapsed but he will get there

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 23 August 2014 (3 comments)

Hi all , many of you will know my sons story....he has been an addict of alcohol, cocaine, m cat, legal highs.......it seems he changes one addiction for another, but one thing is prevelant and that is alcohol....and I've heard every sick lie going....4 years on around 6 months ago, I made a decision to stop enabling him, and discussed the situation with the rest of the family.....he had been doin… read the full post

Coping with stopping enabling my son

Posted by cmd on 23 August 2014 (3 comments)

My son is 31 and after many years of 'helping ' him through problems and crises, including major depression, suicide attempts and debts of all kinds I have had to admit he has serious addiction problems. After a very bad year last year I agreed that he stay with me until he got back on his feet on the condition that there could be no drugs here. For many years I was unaware of his drug use but bec… read the full post

Hi

Posted by Laah on 23 August 2014 (5 comments)

Help please… read the full post

Help

Posted by Laah on 23 August 2014 (2 comments)

I love my hubby sooo much, but I think he abuses my work, I make very good money and he doesn't work any more ...I started drinking a lot, consequently got a DUI...then I started doing cocaine ...he catch me today, now I feel worst than ever...I'm a good hearted person...he's the only one that doesn't agree...I'm lost, sad..and thinking the worst...sorry...… read the full post

so tried, so scared need this to end

Posted by nitty on 23 August 2014 (6 comments)

I'm sitting on the couch watching the telly scared listening to every noise is that him coming down the stairs my heart is racing feeling so lonely plotting how to stop this how do I get away, every time he starts drinking and the coke my heart sinks I know what's coming I seriously can't take anymore, If u knew and saw me I'm a kind gentle genuine person doesn't smoke drinks or take drugs I have… read the full post

is he taking me for a mug??

Posted by desperado! on 21 August 2014 (4 comments)

Hi...never had to post on any site before but this is starting to eat me up! 

I met my partner 4 years ago and knew from the start he was 10 years clean from using drugs...mainly injecting heroin. Everything was brilliant to begin with...we had so much fun and then I got caught pregnant. I already have 2 children from a previous relationship so having another was great and it was his first. Every… read the full post

stupid stupid stupid

Posted by nitty on 20 August 2014 (7 comments)

How could I be so stupid I took him back after a massive row over what he does and how it makes me feel cause he promised to stop, 8 days later he is back on it, back to his horrible self paranoid about everything making me feel shitty and down I hate myself for believing him I feel sick why did I do this… read the full post

time to say no

Posted by maddie on 20 August 2014 (4 comments)

my first time writing here.cannabis has wrecked my sons life and his family.for the last 8 years we have paid of drug dealers loan sharks etc he has had 3 flats which we have helped furnish only for him to sell all his belongings. he lies cheats and cons money when ever he can.we have spent hundreds helping him but now enough is enough.its never enough he always wears you down esp me his mum.the f… read the full post

FIFI, franticmum, and regulars

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 19 August 2014 (3 comments)

Hi to my friends.....hope thing are manageable for you all...Thinking about you ...take care all xxxxxxxx… read the full post

no justifying & rationalizing

Posted by Mr. good reasons on 18 August 2014 (1 comments)

My story "seems" to be a little different. All I truly know is thruout my 40 year (I am 51) history of legal and illegal stimulants I have basically operated on the idea that as long as the benefits outweigh the consequences of "using" Methamphetamine currently and Ritalin as a child then it, for me, only makes sense rationally to continue the behavior. I am not trying to hurt… read the full post

drugs, money, drugs, money..............

Posted by scanners on 18 August 2014 (10 comments)

Tonight I came on here for 1st time and im not alone after all, reading all your stories, some are the double of my life at this present time.where to start? Its been going on for 10years! I have spent thousands! Getting him out of debt with drug dealers, I work full time but my wage packet has his name on it! He kicks off, bullies me, blackmails me, he plays mind games with me, harrasses me const… read the full post

Just found out my daughter does Ketamine

Posted by HrHDave on 13 August 2014 (1 comments)

Tonight, whilst making dinner, my daughters phone bleeps in the kitchen. I don't know why I read her text, as it's always bleeping, but I just did. The message was from her recently ex boyfriend saying that if she still needed K for Reading Festival he can get her a gram & sort it out with him later.  
My daughter is 16yrs old, she has cystic fibrosis & has just had a two week stay in hosp… read the full post

My alcoholic mother

Posted by Natty on 13 August 2014 (1 comments)

This is my first time talking about this on this kind of thing . The story is about 6 years ago my father committed suicide . It left my mum me 18 at the time and my younger sister 17 in a state of shock . My mum took to drink and will not accept help . She has moved away from me and cut off contact . I recently had a miscarriage at 19 weeks and tried to carry on getting in contact left messages e… read the full post

3am and so sad about my daughter's relapse

Posted by Clare b on 13 August 2014 (5 comments)

My lovely daughter had ADHD as a child  at the age of 14 she started using cannabis and pills. By 16 she was addicted to heroin and had several suicide attempts. she would steal and lie.  We tried everything. She had runaway from home several times. I found her one night almost comatose.  She refused to come home but sat in my car trying to get me to give her money. Eventually she fell asleep so I… read the full post

The pain of watching my son deteriorate is crippling.

Posted by Roddersb on 11 August 2014 (1 comments)

My 17 year old son started taking cannabis at 13 and since then has developed a 2gm a day habit topped up with MCat and cocaine.  He did have a job for a while but has lost that through not being able to function on a daily basis.  He sofa surfs and does not stay with me anymore because he can be violent and I have younger children.  We have had drugs workers, mental health professionals and other… read the full post

tragically sad

Posted by kelly6714 on 11 August 2014 (127 comments)

This is my first time posting here but i have no one to talk to who understands and need to vent. The tears fall as i write this. I met my boyfriend 11 years ago at the time i had no idea he was addicted to heroin. We fell in love he was my solemate. A year after we were together i came down on christmas morning to find we had been burgled. My boyfriend sat with me as i reported it to the police.… read the full post

Total loss

Posted by Elliemay on 10 August 2014 (1 comments)

Hi my son is 15 ( 16 next month). Since he was 13 he has smoked cannibis. At first we weren't aware but then money went missing and life deteriorated into a constant stressful existance. He was diagnosed adhd when younger but didn't respond to medication. He has been expelled from one school for dealing on the premises, and is currently attending a short stay school on medical grounds ( depression… read the full post

Is it that bad?

Posted by MB on 8 August 2014 (3 comments)

My 19 year old started smoking cannabis about 3 to 4 years ago. All his friends did it but he got caught by the police and was on a final warning for having class A drugs on his persons. He reluctantly attended a course through the YOT but found the whole experience laughable at 16 and did not learn from it. He managed to scrap through college and got some qualifications in computer studies but ha… read the full post

Im praying that someone somewhere can just stop listen and help x

Posted by bluexxx on 7 August 2014 (2 comments)

I am not sure where to start,
its been an emotional rollercoaster the past couple of months. I guess i can say its always been this way, i should be used to it, My brothers addiction to alcohol is a never ending nightmare and its come to the point where i dont want to live anymore.

I have wrote a few posts on here, but havent had much of a response, i am not complaining im grateful to have a plac… read the full post

My story

Posted by Rehabitymole on 6 August 2014 (0 comments)

I gave been in a relationship for a number of yrs and have 3 children. I have never been that interested in drugs and just concentrated on being a parent. When I met my partner he did coke and I trie it. We have had I life of drugs now 7 yrs on. Smoked crack and now do meth. Will thigs always be this way… read the full post

TIME!!!!!

Posted by fifi65 on 5 August 2014 (1 comments)

My Son was sentenced today, 10 yrs to reflect on the error on his way's.   
I feel numb at the moment, in a daze like, suppose it will sink in as the Birthday's and Christmases go by. I can't even  think he will be safe in there, he went in a young boy of 20 yrs and came out a heroin addict ,, that was him on and off for the next ten year's ...12 mad drug fuelled hour's has now rob him of a lot of… read the full post

Is it something I said?

Posted by Feeling Lost on 4 August 2014 (0 comments)

Where to start? Not sure what came first! Mums alcoholism probably. No doubt aggravated by the birth & subsequent adoption of my son when I was just 16. Quickly followed by my marriage & 2 beautiful children. Divorce. The start of those beautiful children smoking weed. Another marriage & 2 more beautiful children. Divorce number 2. Older children moved onto Ketamine Cocaine Speed.....y… read the full post

Back again

Posted by Kf on 2 August 2014 (2 comments)

So I'm back again... Since my last post I ve had a really shit time, had several involvements with the police as my partners behaviour was concerning and I suspected he was using Again. He planted drugs in my drawer and told the police they were mine and then went onto tell the police a pack of lies that he was being domestically abused. So I was taken away by the police and detained and questione… read the full post

It goes on and on

Posted by lmacd on 29 July 2014 (7 comments)

Not sure where to start, the nightmare has been going on for so long. My beautiful son was born 28years ago. He being the 3rd son and much wanted. His father and I had so much hope for their future. By the time my son was 3 yrs old, I was alone bringing them up. In a refuge wondering how we would cope. I understood that they would all be affected by the chaos they had experienced during the period… read the full post

time for change

Posted by sk on 29 July 2014 (1 comments)

Hi all just joined not quite sure where to start.

My partner of 18yrs has been battling drugs for a long time (herion to be precise for a good 15yrs). I have given him everything I can including two children one 7yrs and the other 8 months. Today he has just come out of two weeks rehab and I am petrified that he wil relapse already. I have been looking after our two children which has been diffic… read the full post

Lost & Alone

Posted by MissLCM on 26 July 2014 (2 comments)

My son is 20 and still at home with me, just been the 2 of us since his father left 11 years ago. We have such a close bond and get on so well which makes it so hard to watch him destroy himself by taking drugs. He has been smoking cannabis for years now, when I 1st found out I went crazy, stopped him having any cash and checking his every move but all to no avail as he continued on the sly. About… read the full post

Lost and confused

Posted by SatansAngel on 17 July 2014 (0 comments)

I'm not sure if I'm in the right place.. 

I live in Canada Ontario, I'm 16 and female. My boyfriend is 15 and addicted to coke, heroine and meth, he was clean for 10 months thanks to rehab, NA meetings and my self/family. 

Due to some family issues, money issues and home issues he has now started again. Be has not told me how long ago he started but non the less told me thankfully, he is checkin… read the full post

My Boy

Posted by Sosad on 16 July 2014 (11 comments)

My son battled his demons for many years. He couldn't take it any more and decided to be free from his demons on 15th May this year, just 2 months ago. He was 31 yrs of age. He came from a lovely background. His parents worked, owned their own home. He went to Grammer school., and was loved so so much. Drugs became his life. He stole, lied went to prison and his parents stood by him all the time.… read the full post

Torn

Posted by TribalPrincess on 16 July 2014 (0 comments)

Have grown up with a functioning alcoholic mum that is so emotionally detached at times i feel like i dont have a mum. Step dad is even worse and can be ver abusive towards me and my husband, always blaming us for the problems in his marriage. My mum always cries to me about him but then chooses to remain in this, I think they are codependant. My kids are getting older and im pregnant but finding… read the full post

14th July 2014

Posted by Milan Heavy on 16 July 2014 (0 comments)

I will keep this quick, i would like to support all of you and share your support to me if you can. 26 year old step son sleeps in his car last night and tonight, thrown out of our houses having stolen money €250 Euro  and phones, iPads etc in 2 weeks to feed his heroin addition. in fact anything that could be sold for drugs.  6 months on he is sleeping in his mum's car outside here abandoned ho… read the full post

My nightmare

Posted by SuzieQ on 15 July 2014 (3 comments)

I never thought that i would have to go through this, my boyfriend is doing cocaine and has been probably most of the way through our relationship. He lied to me about it for ages and even when i asked questions to do with it he would always deny it. Now i feel like i'm stuck somewhere that i cant get out of. I can't sleep, i can't eat, i'm stressed and i've been signed off work by the doctor for… read the full post

is this the ending of my story?

Posted by Franticmum on 15 July 2014 (5 comments)

hi all especially Fiona and Susie 
well its been a sad old couple of weeks was on holiday when we got a call from my son he was distraught not making any sense, it turned out that a friend of his for many years had collapsed while with my son, an ambulance was called and he was rushed into hospital, sadly he had a massive heart attack which led to a coma the result being his life support was turne… read the full post

:(

Posted by Trapped on 15 July 2014 (7 comments)

Trapped in a well where I can't reach or help my son... and trapped because I can't walk away :(

My son is 17, Ive been a single parent since his birth.  His father had minimal contact (1hr a week) which came to an end when my son was 5yrs old.  There was no contact at all for the next 11 years.  On starting high school in a new area my son struggled to make friends and was the victim of bullying… read the full post

My daughter's boyfriend is an addict

Posted by lee on 14 July 2014 (2 comments)

She met him 33 days before leaving for Thailand to teach ESL. He's the one she told her father and I.  He tried talking her out of going to Thailand.  We found out about the addiction right away.   
She said he's clean not her problem.  I knew right away he was not clean.
He has only spent 16 days in a drug rehabilitation facility.  He said he was s role model.
He's 26 college graduate ~ no job. M… read the full post

So Heartbroken

Posted by bluexxx on 14 July 2014 (0 comments)

My dear uncle passed away on Sunday he suffered terribly. 
My uncle was a alcoholic and drank extreme amounts each and every day, the hospital told him 6 years ago to quit drinking otherwise he would die but it ended up killing him and I'm totally destroyed. He suffered liver failure and all of his organs closed down and he passed away. He was only 56 years old. 
He stopped drinking 3 weeks prior… read the full post

Siblings

Posted by Kayc on 11 July 2014 (2 comments)

Never thought I'd be posting how I feel about my siblings on a website but I have a feeling people around me are getting sick of me complaining about how I miss them. I'm the oldest child my mom has but my dad has 5 other older children (3 girls 2 boys) and I grew up close with all of them when I was a baby and kid but they are all about 5 years older then me atleast. Anyways now I'm 17 and all my… read the full post

R.I.P. Emma xxx

Posted by fifi65 on 11 July 2014 (2 comments)

Just found out my son's friend ( fellow drug user) has died..
Found dead on her couch, heroin overdose.. 30 yrs old and gone!!! 
I hope you're in a better place now Emma xxx… read the full post

Alcoholic Father

Posted by KW1 on 10 July 2014 (1 comments)

I'm 18 and for as long as I can remember my dad has been an alcoholic. I remember when I was young, he used to just drink at the weekends then that increased to drinking everyday, morning and night. He stopped drinking for a while and recently has began drinking again. He stops now and then for a couple of days then drinks constantly for a few weeks. My dad has had problems with his stomach which… read the full post

HOPE

Posted by mother on 7 July 2014 (0 comments)

I as a mother of my son who relapsed after 26 yrs of sobriety and  with legal chemicals basically because he had pain issues with arthritis and gave in to despair almost lost his life! How little I was helped and what hopelessness to face someone who has chemicaly changed their brains:
BUT and its a big "BUT" I hung in I didnt throw him out and he has been dry and clean for 3 weeks now a… read the full post

need help for my mom

Posted by harriet on 7 July 2014 (1 comments)

My dad died 6 years ago and ever since my mom has been an alcoholic, I have tried to get her to accept the problem and get help many times but she won't. Last night I came home to find her lying on the sofa with sick all over herself, I thought she had died and it was a real turning point for me, I can't keep going on like this but I don't know how I can help her now… read the full post

MORE TO COME

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 6 July 2014 (8 comments)

My son got out of prison a couple of days ago..He seems very positive and is ready to get himself back at the counsellors....He now has another court appearance in 2 weeks for assault.....so Im in under no illusions that another stint in prison is on the cards...Its never ending, but I am proud how my son reacted to this all..He wants to get all this out the way, and get on with his life...he has… read the full post

i have the same problem

Posted by grannie on 5 July 2014 (5 comments)

My son is now 38 he started on drugs at 15 years old we have been through everything the mental torture the begging phone calls etc this was mostly in his early twenties , we still get them but not as much he lives on his own and the flat is a tip he looks like a tramp and was never ever an untidy child I have been heartbroken so many times i cannot begin to tell you , I think now I have just beco… read the full post

Advice please- how to help my parents

Posted by DKWTD on 1 July 2014 (3 comments)

Hi all, my brother is an addict (though doesn't think he is) he is in his 40's and has moved back home with my parents. They know he has been using crystal meth but I don't think they can see how devastating the effect is on him and the knock on effect to their lives. He can be violent and recently attacked my Dad. My mum appears to be very depressed about the whole situation but will not accept o… read the full post

The nightmare begins again

Posted by AmandaA on 30 June 2014 (16 comments)

Hello
My son is a drug addict, full on heroin and is on methadone.  He also has mental health issues and Aspergers. I have stepped in and out of his life and went to drugfam meetings for about 6 months or so and they really helped.  I never really believed in tough love but went with it as thats what the professionals said i should do.  Then I got dragged back in.  I have tried to help him.  Liste… read the full post

Icarus

Posted by Icarus on 29 June 2014 (2 comments)

If you are struggling with a family addiction-related crisis, then Icarus may be able to help you. Icarus is a free, non-profit service to help people find support for their particular problem. We have trained Family Friends with access to extensive resource who can LISTEN, REASSURE and SIGNPOST for you. Family Friends remain in place in case you want to come back to us for more help. You have to… read the full post

PLEASE HELP. All time low....

Posted by JMH on 28 June 2014 (8 comments)

After 12 long months of putting up withy sons drug abuse, I had to come to the hardest decision of my life today, to chuck him out!! I'm so sad and heartbroken. He was killing me in the emotional sense, I was enableing him, lovely home ,bedroom ,food. He lost his highly paid job, lost his car, got tagged, ..I have been dragged down with him... I don't know what to do now. I am wanting him to be at… read the full post

feeling shared

Posted by sad and tired on 27 June 2014 (8 comments)

Well I am trying tough love on my son. He doesn't live with me now. He has lost his job, soon to lose his car, doesn't seem to care!! I feel very sad and worried, his sister tried to call him, I have tried and he doesn't answer his phone. He was staying with someone who has now kicked him out so I am not even sure where he is.......I don't know where all this will end, he is not my son anymore, he… read the full post

RECURRENT DRUG USE-HEALTH ISSUES

Posted by desperatemum on 27 June 2014 (0 comments)

The problem is when ones son returns to drugs after 26 yrs of sobriety.Having health issues and returning to mum and drug use too  who really to turn to. The people who were recommended by the gp were not reliaable. Now my son has hepatitis C as well as a heart defect. thankfully he has returned to some sanity after 6 month of so called legal designer drugs to help him with a painful arthritic con… read the full post

please help my son's taking cocaine

Posted by cadge on 26 June 2014 (3 comments)

Can anyone help me, l have just found out my son is taking cocaine at weekends, l am so worried and upset, l have talked to him, he told me its nothing to worry about and he's not addict, he is 22 and left home l never dreamed one of my children would do drugs, l dont no what to do lm out of my mind with worry l can't sleep at night thinking about it, l feel like l just want to grab him bring him… read the full post

feel so alone tonight ....

Posted by Franticmum on 26 June 2014 (7 comments)

Its 2:30 am and Im laid in bed struggling to sleep, cant switch my mind off tonight, not heard even a whisper from my son, I usually say ... no news is good news .... but not in this case  I feel in a no win situation, he chose drugs over family and we have all said we want no part in his world of lying stealing etc, but im finding it so so hard this is the longest he has been out of touch for ove… read the full post

admin please delete spam

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 25 June 2014 (2 comments)

sick of seeing these posts..I understand its difficult to keep ontop of things, but they are really annoying… read the full post

There's nothing left of me

Posted by Jue on 23 June 2014 (13 comments)

14 years I have been with my husband he was a kind strong and loving man, worshipped the ground I walked on. So in love, so happy. About 3 months after our son was born he turned to me in bed and told me he had tried heroin, did I want to try it!! NO I screamed, I have very strong views on that poison. He said he would never do it again, I believed him.
The lies came, the sneakiness, the verbal ab… read the full post

For my friends...

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 20 June 2014 (2 comments)

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=591296797655913&set=a.473484406103820.1073741825.259018614217068&type=1… read the full post

HELP!!!! PLEASE SOMEONE

Posted by ms emily on 19 June 2014 (13 comments)

My husband just informed me he has been using heroin periodically for 8 years now. I have a family history of drugs and alcohol so I automatically fell as if he's addicted, even though he claims not yo be. He said he only use heroin maybe 2 to 3 times a month. I asked him to stopand asked him for how many day now has he been using recently? he responded that he has been using heroin for 2 days. My… read the full post

is I just didn't know good enough?

Posted by carina on 18 June 2014 (5 comments)

I have just found out my 26 year old son is taking drugs I don't know what he won't say and doesn't want any help because we've never helped him before! he says I should have seen the signs before and done something then. When I have asked him in the past if he did anything like drugs he said he wasn't that stupid. How do I help him?… read the full post

feels like I'm running into a brick wall .. help needed

Posted by colcon on 17 June 2014 (10 comments)

Hello, I'm new to this completely. I have never looked for help online nor in person as I ashamed or I get too upset to talk about it. 
I'm a sibling of four children. I'm 20 and have siblings aged 19, 16 and 11. 
My father is an alcoholic and has been for over 30 years, he also takes drugs on occasions. Due to the alcohol and of course his personal behaviour we have seen extreme situations of dom… read the full post

help

Posted by don't know what to do on 17 June 2014 (10 comments)

I met my partner 6 years ago. The first 6 months of our relationship were perfect. Then I found out he was a heroine user. The next 4 years were hell. I'm currently in debt due to his addiction and as my family don't know I was completely alone in dealing with it. A year ago he went into a detox and rehab program for 3 months after a 20 year addiction and came back a different person. He was clean… read the full post

Neec advice

Posted by Teri on 17 June 2014 (7 comments)

Im 23 my boyfriend of just over a year is 22 iv recently gound out hes been taken coke n smoking weed, it was a shock o had no idea. I found out threw friends and questiond him about the rumors his kicked off n seen hos bum about me asking n left to his mum then short while after he text me n addmitted to taken it. He says he wants to stop and can but i dont no he says hes not addicted to it but h… read the full post

Why are we not enough!!!!!!

Posted by Mitch on 16 June 2014 (5 comments)

Hi

I posted  in March when i found out my husband relapsed with alcohol. Again i found myself finding help and humilating myself in front of counsellors with the i didn` t know speech  and again thinking he was on the right path. The odd social drink has occurred and because he has told me that`s alright!!!! Bearing in mind i wasn`t aware of this till recently.
Tonight i am confronted with my hus… read the full post

is my dad back on herion? what shall I do?

Posted by krissykris on 16 June 2014 (4 comments)

hey, I'd really like to talk to someone I can relate to, or can relate to me, for advice and support, anything would be greatly appreciated. I'm a 21 year old woman and my father is a herion addict, im not sure how it all started as i was too young, im not sure when hes clean or not as I don't see him often enough.  my mum split from my dad when I was 3, and she never let him know where we lived.… read the full post

finally news .........but sadly not good

Posted by Franticmum on 14 June 2014 (11 comments)

an update on a recent post, ive finally had news about my son , he has been seen by a friend of one of my other sons, not good though he was seen going into a cash converters store with a tv which we dont know if it was his, he was very scruffy looking and skinny, seems he was with several other undesirable looking men, it looks like he is back in the grip of the evil drug heroin, Ive suffered 18y… read the full post

ruined relationship

Posted by just me on 13 June 2014 (12 comments)

Hi
I'm new to this so please bare with me. My partner, well ex partner now has never hidden the fact that he used to use cocaine and was an addict. Our relationship was a whirl wind and we were due to get married this November. I have 2 children from a previous relationship who totally adored him. Throughout the relationship most weeks were a roller coaster, he would be on top of the world one min… read the full post

my son has lost everything

Posted by chris51 on 13 June 2014 (14 comments)

my son is an alcoholic who owns his own business loves fast cars likes good quality  clothes watches shoes etc he is now reduced to a mess living with me not washing and calling for wine at every oportunity i am at the end of my tether do i give him wine do i deprive him is there any one who can give me advice… read the full post

to my cyber friends Fiona and Susie and anyone else that has read my story

Posted by Franticmum on 10 June 2014 (12 comments)

Its been over 2 months now since I had any contact with my son, I dont know where he is or what he's up to, I thought it would be easier than the nightmare time before,  but I still struggle to sleep and when I do, have nightmares about him.  Im sat here now at nearly 4 am wondering what will happen next, I get so worried about what if he has succeeded in ending his life, Im scared if theres a kno… read the full post

SO SCARED FOR MY BOY

Posted by Loulou on 9 June 2014 (3 comments)

My son is 15. We live in a lovely rural village, and I STUPIDLY was naive enough to think my boys were all safe! How wrong was I. I've had money going missing, he,s been rude and aggressive one minute, then his usual lovely affectionate self next minute. He,s started hanging around with boys I don't know who are older than him. Last night I did a drugs test on him. It came back positive for weed a… read the full post

im so tired of talking this dont have to be !!!!!!!!

Posted by me and only me on 8 June 2014 (8 comments)

I have a 25 yr old son who choose to live in a tent with his friend. Cause. I wont let him stay in my house and they come to my house everyday wanting to eat take a shower get on the game or computer. And I tell my son he choose to live in a tent or be homeless or whatever it maybe ..he has a kind heart I try to get him to see his friend choose to live like that your taking your friend problem. An… read the full post

Loosing my husband

Posted by Kat79 on 5 June 2014 (9 comments)

Hi 
I am desperately looking for advise of where to find support for myself. My husband for many years has since a young age been addicted to cannabis. He then moved onto Illegal highs. This has been a living hell for both of us. He has become a totally changed man, now very aggressive verbally and mentally a lot of the time. Like a time bomb waiting to go off. I've totally isolated myself and our… read the full post

What do I do

Posted by Hadenough! on 1 June 2014 (11 comments)

My son is 21 and been a canabis user since the age of 12. Now he says hes a crack user I've had heartbreak after heartbreak smashed up house time and time again police called windows smashed. 5 years ago I met my husband things calmed for a year or so but he was still using then we moved home my son started smoking more dope all day every day in the house we asked begged him to stop and in the end… read the full post

My beautiful boy

Posted by max on 30 May 2014 (37 comments)

I am hopeful and hope what I'm about to say can give some of you hope too .  My boy has been using drugs & alcohol as a way of life for two years , causing heartbreak to all who love him , ( I don't need to elaborate on this because if you're reading this , then you know the pain I mean ) He has been clean for one month today . He is living with his sister & working in their family busines… read the full post

don't known what to do

Posted by swara on 28 May 2014 (6 comments)

My husband and brother in low is alcoholic.my brother in low is divorced and stay with us.i all so have 3 year son who loves his uncle very much.it is very painful to watch my son with drunken man.my son get miserable while his uncle ia with him.what should i do how i make my son understand that his uncal is not good for him… read the full post

Chink of light

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 28 May 2014 (2 comments)

Spoke to my lad today..Its been a week since he was sent to prison, and in that time I hadn't heard anything...so you can imagine what was running through my head....He says he is keeping his head down, going to drug / alcohol awareness inside and already has his release date.... Missed his voice, and I know its sad but felt very grateful to hear him today.....To all you parents out there, hang in… read the full post

Don't know what to think anymore...

Posted by DKWTD on 27 May 2014 (0 comments)

My brother has had issues on and off for years with crystal meth, he thinks he doesn't have a problem as according to him he only does it once a month and blames all his problems on my parents, me anybody really but himself. In the past he's had good and bad patches and Ive always believed that he will stop using/get over it and that deep down he will be ok as ive always believed he's a good perso… read the full post

alone, trapped and scared.....!!!

Posted by nitty on 26 May 2014 (6 comments)

Well 4 months on since my last blog I'm still in the same position, my boyfriend has cocaine 6 nights a week drinks, Smokes and gambles he wastes £500 a week never pays me any attention love or acknowledges I exist, I have to put up the mood swings constant blame and paranoia, I don't move out my door other than going to work I never have money too but oh no I'm sleeping around chatting online bl… read the full post

Concerned mum

Posted by Mollie on 25 May 2014 (1 comments)

I have never posted on a site before.My story is my son is an addict who has been using drugs for the last 9 years the last 5years was crack and heroin anything he could get his hands on.He also has a mental illness which just adds to his problems as when he is unwell he will use dugs .The last 3 years he has been in rehab in and out.We have been to hell and back his drugs use  took over my life a… read the full post

what to do......

Posted by sad and tired on 24 May 2014 (3 comments)

After getting sacked for not bothering to go to work.  My son says he starts a new job Monday, trouble is as usual he has not paid his car finance, insurance and road tax is due.  Usually I bail him out cos he spends ALL his money on his nights out and there is nothing left for bills.  Now I have thrown him out, he has asked me to take out a loan to pay his debts and his court fines, I have said n… read the full post

Posts

Posted by Adfam Administrator on 23 May 2014 (0 comments)

Apologies for the posts that appeared on the blog yesterday.  As you can see they have been removed and the person who posted them has been blocked from participating in the blog.

Thank you.… read the full post

Heartbroken mum :(

Posted by Andys mum on 22 May 2014 (3 comments)

My son who's 17 has relapsed once again :( I paid for him to go to wales for a 'fresh start' drugs mainly cannabis have been a issues for he past two years he's a pathological liar. I myself paid dealers off so he could have a clean slate after him stealing anything that had any value mobiles off his younger siblings camera's laptops stole every bit money out my bank account anything he could get… read the full post

adfam administrators

Posted by Franticmum on 22 May 2014 (0 comments)

please please adfam sort these stupid people out, what it meant to be a haven for families is turning into a circus I realise it must be hard to oversee  but we are real people with very real problems and dont need this… read the full post

still battling on

Posted by Franticmum on 21 May 2014 (7 comments)

hi all, especially Fiona and Susie, still not seen my son not sure where he is at the moment, no one has seen or heard from him for many weeks now, he still has his flat, well at Least all his belongings are there but neighbours havent seen him recently, I called our local police but they were not much help, seems because hes 34 they are not interested.  I feel like im going mad my mind is going r… read the full post

My heart has broken.......

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 21 May 2014 (5 comments)

Just found out that my son got a 4 months prison sentence.....I think we knew it would happen, but still, I hope he can hang on in there, and then resume the counselling after he gets out......his ex went with him and is heart broken......Im praying that my son will keep his head down, and do his time and THINK long and hard about the road he is on.....praying for him and all the other s who need… read the full post

My story- partner is addicted to heroin

Posted by Kf on 21 May 2014 (11 comments)

First time posting on here so this is going to be a long post. My partner and I have been together 8 years. He has been using drugs for 12 years. I was 16 and he was 23 when we started seeing each other. I fell madly in love with him, he was funny, good looking, smart, successful job, intelligent everything I wanted in a boyfriend. I walked around for days with a huge smile bursting with happiness… read the full post

Confused wife

Posted by Rebecca on 21 May 2014 (9 comments)

My husband has used cocaine for 20years, I only 
Became aware 9years ago. Since then I've forgiven
Him over and over again. I've found round the house in the car, it's been happening at my works Xmas do I caught him. He's promised to stop
But I always catch him out then he has to admit it.
He believes it's ok and everyone does it. We split just over a year ago 
Got back together he went to docs wa… read the full post

Destruction

Posted by john doe on 20 May 2014 (9 comments)

Hello everyone. I will try and make this very short and sweet. I am a 19 year old drug addict who has put my parents through so much the last couple years. I would just like to say thank you to you all who's own children don't. As many of you, my parents have caught me quite a few time either being drunk or high on marijuana. But there was thousands of times they did not catch me. In my case, my d… read the full post

Missing my boy but not missing what comes with him

Posted by concerned mum on 19 May 2014 (4 comments)

Hey everyone that has supported me in recent times...have read through some of your posts and seems like some of you are having highs and some of you lows still....

I havent seen my son for a while now....he movedinto another flat I dropped some of his personal stuff down there and it was really strained.   I told him i was awaiting an apology for how he had treated me....I did nt get one.

He di… read the full post

Alcoholism and the international business traveller

Posted by Dubai chick on 19 May 2014 (2 comments)

This is my storey, my journey following the loss of my dear husband.

We were married for 21 glorious years and have two beautiful daughters. When our second daughter was 7 months old we moved to the Middle East with my husbands job. He was an engineer, working in the oil and gas industry. We had a wonderful life, enjoying the sun and both our girls attended school. David was in sales so spent a l… read the full post

My Boyfriend Is Addicted To Mkat :(

Posted by staceyleigh on 19 May 2014 (19 comments)

hello im looking for some advice from someone that has maybe been through the same thing im going through now, when i met my partner he had been on mkat for nearly 3 years and he was taking it everyday and didnt see a future without the drug in his life, anyway has our relationship continued he tried not to take it infront of me because he knew i was against it, i got caught on with twins really e… read the full post

UPDATE for all those with addicted children....

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 19 May 2014 (5 comments)

Well my son has had one hell of a week...... Went to get antibuse for my son and he was told as he doesnt drink or do drugs every day, this may not be what he needs (after speaking at length to another counsellor whoa greed prior to this) ANGRY is undermining how my son felt....BUT, WE ALL TRIED TO REMAIN POSITIVE... Wednesday court adjourned again......as its been 3 times now his solicitor is pus… read the full post

Mad Chemical Helpers

Posted by MCH on 15 May 2014 (0 comments)

Past three months he has been taken LSD, ecstasy, Coccain, cannabis, alcohol ...like a month ago he stopped most of them and continued cannabis only. Now he has been having mood swings, paranoia and mind unstable. What can we do to help him?  It's been  5 days now he has been like that...… read the full post

Smoking cannibis and taking tablets and alcholol

Posted by Basher on 14 May 2014 (5 comments)

My son is 15 and we are convinced he is taking drugs and drinking, he goes to one of his school friends house when he doesn't see his girlfriend and the difference in him is terrible his eyes are glazed and he is slurring , he has stolen off us numerous but we mostly we find it, can some advice me what to do I'm at my whits end with him he does have attachment disorder and we adopted him when he w… read the full post

Feel like I'm on a TV Drama show

Posted by Unknown Mike on 11 May 2014 (3 comments)

My dad does coccaine or at least I think he does, he's referred to it a few times yelling about my mom smoking all his crack but I don't think she does it anymore once she got tested positive for coccaine but that's not even the worst part they argue 24/7, my dad thinks my mom Is a whore with these black guys that he's never found he thinks my mom is hiding black guys and fucking them in the house… read the full post

Understand but frustrated

Posted by Duncan on 9 May 2014 (1 comments)

I gave up trying to help my abusive alcoholic mother when I was seventeen, at least that's what I told myself. I kept her at arm's length while I dealt with the scars left behind from a very tumultuous childhood. Scars remain, but at twenty-four I am strong-minded, willed and healthy. 
My mother is still precontemplation, her condition is severely worsened since I left home at seventeen; once an i… read the full post

Heartbroken,defeated, life sucked out of me

Posted by Enabler on 9 May 2014 (4 comments)

Tears roll down my face, my head pounds, dreaded phone calls, suicide threats, feeling guilty,  that's how I feel every single day. I am 34 my only brother is 40 and since he has been 13 I have been surround by addiction. Countless failed treatment attempts,several prision stunts, multiple severe suicide attemps ranging from hanging hinself with a bedsheet in orision, slicing his neck while incarc… read the full post

POSITIVE LOVE TO SUE, FIFI AND LUCY & ALL YOU PARENTS

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 6 May 2014 (19 comments)

Im sending out positive love to you all today....We have had a terrible weekend with our son..His court case was adjourned again, and it was like a green light for him....He ended up getting arrested for criminal damage, whilst drinking...The police man who rang us, was amazing (unusual I know)..He recognised immediately that our son was at the end of the line. He spoke at length, and put his arms… read the full post

ticking time bomb

Posted by bluexxx on 5 May 2014 (1 comments)

I'm walking on eggshells too scared to step on the cracks, 
I'm constantly on edge always watching my back, 
Surrounded by fears of another drunken attack 
I wonder I seek to find some peace 
But nothing gets better the pain never cease… read the full post

Need Advice

Posted by CareBear on 5 May 2014 (2 comments)

Ive been put ina situation Where id prayed and hoped id never be, my boyfriend of 13 years has been the jiy in my life. Recently i found text messages that alerted my concern then i found him at home one day Notting and completely out of it. His eyes were dark black and the worst of it he had markings on his arms. After he said he never touched it. But i have doubts the other night i found a needl… read the full post

My beautiful man is now at peace

Posted by Lucy on 4 May 2014 (4 comments)

Can barely write this and feel sick at expressing my worst nytmare that my beautiful bestfriend died today. My partner was found passed away from a suspected heroin overdose and my world has just fell apart. I hope as i write this you are around me, watching over me.. i hope you are finally at peace and i hope you knew how much i adored you im truly lost without you I love you my darling Forever y… read the full post

lipgloss demons

Posted by bluexxx on 3 May 2014 (3 comments)

Hello everyone my name is blue, Im not sure where to start, or even how to even begin to to express how I truly feel, words just do not cut that constant ache inside.  This is hard I haven't told anyone I know about what has been happening at home let alone strangers. I have kept silent throughout my ordeal but I can no longer keep all of this inside,  its eating away at the very last piece of hop… read the full post

down in the dumps

Posted by concerned mum on 3 May 2014 (2 comments)

Feel proper crappy (excuse the expression) have nt spoke properly to my son for over a week now...I know he has recently just moved into another new flat and feeling really bad for not helping him,  even though everyone around me is saying leave him to it....hes been abusive and real hard work through a drug problem and i came to the end of my tether....My consciious is really nagging me...has he… read the full post

New this would happen eventually

Posted by Lucy on 1 May 2014 (11 comments)

So my partner is not living here and ive felt like the hurt etc over the years has took its toll on my love patience etc and i still love n care for him n i still get the mixture of emotions i was really upset first couple of days and i rarely get truly upset these days just a sadness deep inside and that feeling that we r getting closer to ending our relationship for good bcoz obviously one perso… read the full post

others with experience of post-withdrawal (alcohol)??

Posted by in spain on 1 May 2014 (1 comments)

My husband is 3 weeks into unplanned withdrawal from alcohol following a minor illness when he stopped drinking. Poor professional support although I first mentioned Wernicke's 2 weeks ago, only now we are waiting for a neurology appt to confirm polyneuropathy or warnicke's. he started thiamine yesterday.  I feel he is going backwards in terms of weakness, insomnia, mood swings etc and I'd like to… read the full post

This week my son went on a bender

Posted by scarlat on 30 April 2014 (0 comments)

My son is 32 has a partner and two young boys, he works hard and can go for quite a few weeks without a crisis, but when things seem to be going okay he seems to be determined to blow it. 
He has a history of drug and alcohol abuse for the past 15 years.
I think he had not been taking anything or drinking for a few months but of course I can not be sure as he is dishonest about what he does. Last… read the full post

To "SAD AND TIRED"& "CANT TAKE NO MORE "

Posted by concerned mum on 30 April 2014 (2 comments)

Thinking of you both today and hoping you are both coping ok...I Know from your posts and kind responses to mine that u too are both going through a hellish time ..Thinking of you both xxx… read the full post

Downhearted

Posted by MaryM on 30 April 2014 (2 comments)

My husband has a drugs past (injecting amphetamine), has tried most drugs, takes Ecstasy now and then but smokes weed every day.  Throughout our marriage i have come to realise that the weed smoking is more of a problem than i thought.  Although we both work, we are constantly skint.  We have two children and i really resent the fact that sometimes i cant afford to buy them what they need ie schoo… read the full post

Feeling abit lost..

Posted by Lucy on 30 April 2014 (6 comments)

My partner is not here as i said in a recent post i told him to go and thoughts of how i will cope in time are starting..ive been here many times i no i can do it and i no its also quite easy in the early days ive decided to see about a support group..dont know how i feel about this..abit stupid,abit of a hoax bcoz ive been brought up n have learnt to just deal with life by myself but if im seriou… read the full post

Not sure what to do anymore?

Posted by Not sure what to do anymore on 29 April 2014 (13 comments)

Hey everyone, my boyfriend is a big user of cocaine. He has been using for years and we have been together for 6 months. I have 2 small children from my previous relationship. I live with my boyfriend and I love him dearly. The last month or so he has been trying to pay off his years of debt with a lot of my help. It has now become a problem because he is taking money from my account and making me… read the full post

Struggling

Posted by Daughter of alcoholic on 29 April 2014 (2 comments)

I'm really struggling here! My Dad has been an alcoholic the whole of my life and I'm 21, in fact he's been addicted to alcohol for most of his life too. He started when he was 12, drinking his Dad's home brew and it progressed from there. He's 41 years old and has known he's had a problem since he was about 30 but refused any form of help. The last 3 years have been horrendous as he's been admire… read the full post

enough is enough

Posted by sad and tired on 28 April 2014 (3 comments)

Well the day has come as I knew it would my son has lost his job due to being out all night and not getting up to go to work yet again.  I have asked him to come and talk he would rather stay with his mates so I have told him that I love him, but I have had enough and not to come back until he is ready to do something about getting himself straight, I am sad and worried as I don't know where he wi… read the full post

Not putting up with this anymore

Posted by concerned mum on 28 April 2014 (2 comments)

I have really had to put my foot down with my son, although he no longer lives with us he has been totally consuming our finances and lives..He drinks excessively, smokes cannabis, uses Mcat and has took other stuff as well on a regular basis.  I have tried ecerything to support him brought him food when he has wasted his benefits, took time from work to clean his flat when it was trashed by deale… read the full post

titlei need answer s

Posted by dee0739 on 28 April 2014 (1 comments)

My boyfriend of 8 years is smoking crack in a cigarette.he works for my dad and we live in my dad rent house next door.he get paid every week between 2 or 4 a week.he only gives me @ the most 50 bucks .I have a daughter we never have food he expect for us to eat at my parents.I run out of gas during the week because I don't have money to get back and forth from work.he is broke the same day he get… read the full post

It's got to be the end now

Posted by Weary on 26 April 2014 (1 comments)

My daughter, now 35, has been abusing drugs for many years. In all that time she has managed to hold down a job but never has any money, it all goes on the drugs. 

Time and time again I have baled her out. When she was pregnant she promised things would change and I took out a loan to cover her debts. 

Of course, nothing did change and she carried on. I feel such a fool that it took me so much t… read the full post

How is everyone????????????

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 25 April 2014 (6 comments)

Just been catching up, and thinking of you all.....Stay strong !!!! sending cyber hugs to you all xxx… read the full post

Feelin alone, guilty and fearfull

Posted by Lucy on 24 April 2014 (2 comments)

My partner has smoked heroin on n off for 15years ive been with him 6years n asked him to leave again tonyt n altho im pretty much numb to him relapsing or his lies etc after years together it has got me tonyt n im feelin so low i feel guilt that i no he will not eat properly for another week i feel fearful of letting go and how bad he myt get after noin how bad he  can get n fearful for me of bei… read the full post

here we go again

Posted by sad and tired on 23 April 2014 (4 comments)

I know its stupid, I have bailed my son out yet again, put my self over my own overdraft to pay his debts so he can keep his car and job, he gave me his card so I could take my money back when he got paid.  Of course when he got paid he was down as he had taken so much unpaid leave, but still I rang companies asking them to waive charges etc, didn't take my money back that he owed me and felt so p… read the full post

Thinking of you all xx

Posted by fifi65 on 22 April 2014 (2 comments)

Hi my cyber friend's esp Sue & Susie hope you're all ok.. sat here many a time but not finding the right words at the mo love fiona xx… read the full post

losing hope

Posted by Just_another_story on 21 April 2014 (2 comments)

When i was just a little girl just entering the fourth grade my mother got addicted to pills. I remember getting called down to the office just to get told they were taking my mom away again because she was "sick." I knew what it really meant i was young but not dumb i had to grow up pretty fast there was four other siblings in the house. So i played mommy to all of them for a good four… read the full post

Help

Posted by Chrissylip on 21 April 2014 (7 comments)

Do people reply regularly on this site? Or know of a site that does? I need some guidance :(… read the full post

I cant stop caring

Posted by grandmaj on 21 April 2014 (1 comments)

I… read the full post

Not sure what to do

Posted by Chrissylip on 21 April 2014 (0 comments)

I've been with my partner for 14 years and we have 3 children together. I found out 6 years ago that he has a crack addiction, I feel ashamed by this and keep it secret from all our friends and family as they believe his a fantastic dad and partner and I don't want them to hate him and be disappointed in me for staying with him. He goes months (most recently 5 months) without smoking crack but alw… read the full post

just found out my husband has been smokeing crack

Posted by aimeec on 20 April 2014 (1 comments)

my husband has been diagnosed with achalacia a disease in his asauaphgus. well he says every time we go to the hospital he has pain well the give him dialotid.. he is admitted for the past 6 months every week... well recently for about 3 weeks i have been noticing him leave then ask for a cigarette then go in the bath room.. the other day i found a sponge called a choe under the sink in the bathro… read the full post

Don't know what to do...

Posted by Lauren09 on 19 April 2014 (9 comments)

Hi, this is my first time posting as I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I found out last year that my partner of 9 years was addicted to cocaine. Our relationship had been up & down for a while & I was struggling to understand what was going on with him. He would stay up all night, sleep most of the day. He had horrific mood swings. Things would go from being great to awful. I thou… read the full post

dont no which way to turn

Posted by janeyj47 on 16 April 2014 (4 comments)

I posted earlier today regarding my 29 year old drug addict son and I feel as though things have come to the end of the line. I cannot keep going through this with him anymore. I am working full time as I have to pay the rent to keep a roof over our heads. I go into work and my head is all over the place. Nobody knows my problem with my son as I only moved to this area 5 years ago and although I h… read the full post

soul destroyed.angry and really hurting

Posted by concerned mum on 15 April 2014 (2 comments)

Last night my son ended up sleeping in the stair well of some flats....he is eighteen yeears of age doing Mkat daily and has an alcohol and a gambling problem also...He has been squatting at the flat that he was evicted from and now they have boarded up the windows and doors making him homeless.   

Today he has been to see his probation officer and spun them an elaborate story about his step fath… read the full post

lost everyone to drugs

Posted by joles on 14 April 2014 (9 comments)

i lost my marriage of 20 yrs to cocaine and ecstasy, husband chose that stuff over his 3 children and myself. drugs and trying to be a dj was his true love of his life. been divorced now 10 yrs , he is still at it, now hes out of prison , drug dealing is what he done time for, hes back in his kids lives, they think hes god because they are all doing mkat and addicted to it. ive tried to help them… read the full post

when will this nightmare end?

Posted by Franticmum on 13 April 2014 (17 comments)

Here we go again, after agreeing to a detox programme my son decided he doesn't need professional help, and  left hospital again, he says he was bored in there, he went back to his flat that somehow he is managing to keep by the skin of his teeth, then yesterday turned up at my mum's house at tea time, (we visit my mum every Saturday )  he was in a very strange mood not his usual aggressive self.… read the full post

Living on my nerves and ready to explode

Posted by concerned mum on 13 April 2014 (4 comments)

Oh my god now I really dont know what to do....Today I took my toddler shopping with me in our local town on leaving a particular shop I spotted my son heading into the local bookies so i called him, asked him if hed eaten today he pulled twenty pound out of his pocket and said not yet....I told him not to blow it in bookies he swore he would nt.

I left him carried on with my shopping and ten min… read the full post

Having a really tough time

Posted by concerned mum on 12 April 2014 (12 comments)

Im back again for another rant....Its been a difficult day...the dreaded weekend again...My son has text me today to ask me to lend him sixty quid till thursday...I have been feeding him all week as he has had no money or food and dont get paid till thursday...

Today as expected saturday and he wants to get smashed ...he is saying he owes money and needs food...I ve told him I havent got it and a… read the full post

Trying to regain a relationship with my daughter, after my many years of drug addiction.

Posted by Tibbie on 12 April 2014 (2 comments)

When I had my first daughter, I was a social user.
But with any addiction it esculated. I'm concerned that the way my mother dealt with it, affected my relationship with my daughter forever. Maybe not forever, but she won't let me explain things, and has no respect for me. My daughter thinks, and has thought for years, that I'm trying to blame her grandmother when I try to get certain points acros… read the full post

My Story of Drugs, Depression and Victory

Posted by To help and support on 9 April 2014 (3 comments)

Since the beginning of my teenage years I’ve developed an awful longing for something or someone- someone to whom I can look up for advice and guidance. Someone with whom I could discuss my problems.
Because I had this need in my life at the age of fourteen, I started smoking as I was following  the example of an older friend, Juan Smith. I told him about my depression- the deep dark jungle in w… read the full post

TAKING THE BULL BY THE HORNS

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 9 April 2014 (5 comments)

This morning I took a stand......I went to all my son's selective  mates and told them not to contact him at all... The weekend we had was one of the worst....I showed them all a  video clip of him (which I had done on my phone) of him being incoherant, and yelling and screaming at us.....they were shocked!!! I told them if they had any decency they wouldstay away and , not give him anything.. I a… read the full post

advice please

Posted by sad and tired on 9 April 2014 (12 comments)

well after everything I have said, I have done it again.  He was a day away from losing his car insurance and his job, he begged me to help him with bills. promised he would stay in at night, leave his account alone, go and get help for his problem.  So I helped him and at midnight last nigh he went out, to mcdonalds he says....... I am so angry with myself I must be the worlds biggest mug.......I… read the full post

scared

Posted by concerned mum on 8 April 2014 (10 comments)

My son is the middle child of three and I had to have him removed from our home environment due to alchol and drug abuse as i have a toddler in the home....He is drinking excessively taking drugs and constantly in trouble with the police he has had three short spells in prison.

I am at my wits end with him..have tried everything possible to support him in and away fro family home.

he is now home… read the full post

Am I over-reacting?

Posted by tw64 on 8 April 2014 (3 comments)

After 14 months together, am I over-reacting to my girlfriend's apparently casual use of cannabis? If I happen to be around when she lights up (usually with girlfriends but sometimes just us and usually when drinking) she usually quickly ends up passed out and lately has become verbally abusive directed at me. We are both late 40s. I'm quite ignorant of any drug use and made my concerns known. I l… read the full post

Todays another day!!!

Posted by fifi65 on 7 April 2014 (11 comments)

Sending out love, light, positivity and most of all peace for us all today xxx… read the full post

Spam postings

Posted by Adfam on 7 April 2014 (6 comments)

Dear all,

We are aware of an ongoing problem with spam posts on this blog page and are working to address it. 

At the minute we do not moderate or check posts before they are listed, to ensure that families can see their stories and comments on the website straight away. However, this means that sometimes spam will be visible for a short time before we have a chance to remove it, especially… read the full post

my misery

Posted by taiven on 5 April 2014 (24 comments)

Hello im in a relationship with my partner of 4 years. We have two children aged 2 and 1 and one due in July. He has been on heroin for 10 years injecting etc. All his veins has collapsed so he uses his groin.  His now back in prison.  Im going through hell. I dont even smoke or anything. Police have told me we are such an unusual couple.  He is a
 Skilled roofer and was really successful when I m… read the full post

My Boy xxx

Posted by fifi65 on 3 April 2014 (6 comments)

Ive seen my son..
I love my son no matter what xxx… read the full post

COUNTDOWN.....

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 1 April 2014 (21 comments)

I have knots in my stomach as I know tomorrow is D Day...My son will he going to court for breach of tag......half of me is hoping they will see he isnt a bad lad, and the other half is hoping he gets sentenced, so has time to look at what his life has become.... Im not delusional, and I know he could get out and go back, but for the time being I have to remain positive. I will not be going to cou… read the full post

HE HAS DONE IT NOW !!!!!

Posted by fifi65 on 31 March 2014 (16 comments)

My son is now on remand in prison, looking at a very long time, he is being accused of 4 armed robberies in one day.. my house was raided twice within 3hrs ( armed police) never been so scared in all my life they was very nasty to me.. I thought he was doing so well, when really the urge for drugs was raging in side him.. The things they told me he has done, is not my son, It was a drug crazed lun… read the full post

is my daughter still useing heroin or crack?

Posted by louisa on 31 March 2014 (9 comments)

My daughter is 26,she is a heroin/crack addict,i found out in november 2013 that she had been useing for 7 months,injecting heroin and useing crack,i gave her a choice as to cum home live wiv me and get clean,or stay wiv her boyfreind and end up dead,gave her an hour to choose,she came home,she was still makeing excuses to meet up wiv him every night,i didnt like this as i felt she was still usein… read the full post

Broken and lost

Posted by Broken on 28 March 2014 (3 comments)

First time I've been here and I hope I don't upset anyone if I don't understand how I should be looking after my son. He's 17 and 6 months ago found his first real girlfriend. Since the start she was intense, argumentative, demanding and " played with his head" he started taking legal highs as a way of self medicating from the pain if not being experienced in a relationship and knowing h… read the full post

Were I went wrong

Posted by faye on 27 March 2014 (3 comments)

On may 12th 2012 my 22yr old daughter was thrown from her boyfriends truck . Into the path of a car which ran over her. She died later at the er. I thought she had gotten off cocaine. Which she started to use when she was seventeen . I thought she was clean . She had a baby at sixteen . She was five at the time of her death.I have my granddaughter living with me .And her drug use tore our family a… read the full post

my brother is ruining my family

Posted by RudeGirl on 27 March 2014 (7 comments)

My brother has been addicted to methadone for 12yrs. When my parents first found out they moved him home, got him on a reduction program and basically controlled all his movements and finances. It was hard to watch them put their lives on hold for them to be lied to, shouted at, threatened and stolen from, specially my Mum as my Dad let her deal with it as he just couldn't. After 2 long years my b… read the full post

my husband

Posted by my life on 25 March 2014 (2 comments)

Iv been with my husband 6 years but only been married for 2 years when i first met him he told me about hes past with drug but he had sorted himself out and it all had stopped. Three years ago he became friends with someone who got him back on cocaine, at first i thought it was nothing but it got so bad .. To me its bad. I walked out the other week and he come and got me and promised me he would s… read the full post

Heroin and lies

Posted by Caz on 24 March 2014 (7 comments)

I have been married for almost 24yrs to a heroin addict. He cam,e off it when we first met and we were blessed with 2 amazing children. However, heroin became available to him again in 1997 and I have spent the last 17yrs bringing up the children who are now 23 and 21. He contacted neca and I thought all our troubles were over. Not the case as in these yrs our house has been raided by police on nu… read the full post

My son

Posted by Brian on 24 March 2014 (11 comments)

Since the age of 16, unbeknown to us, my son started smoking weed. then at 18 he started cocaine. He is a self harmer with suicidal thoughts. We are getting help from professionals but it is destroying our family. he has a 15 year old brother who hates what he is doing to himself and us. We have identified his dealers, found weed in his bedroom and shopped him to the police. We are now finding emp… read the full post

My limit

Posted by Joan on 21 March 2014 (1 comments)

My son has severe schizophrenia, diagnosed at 16, and has been an addict for ten years (he's now 28).  Throughout his life, I have tried many many things to help him, but seemingly to no avail.  He's addicted to crack cocaine, meth, grass, and alcohol, etc.  He had a shocking experience last year, when a homeless person who he let stay at his Section apartment almost died of an overdose.  He found… read the full post

Advice please!

Posted by ella on 18 March 2014 (5 comments)

This is my 1st time here so please bear with me, my 23 year old son has smoked weed since he was about 16. At first I hoped it was a phase and he'd get bored eventually. He was diagnosed with ADHD at 7 and took ritalin until he discovered weed. In the past he has tried most drugs but thankfully not continued using them. He left home several years ago and has been 'asked to leave' several flats, ho… read the full post

reaching out

Posted by chelli on 18 March 2014 (16 comments)

I have an 18yr old son who smokes weed. Well try to give you all the info in short. He started smoking it about the years ago, without my knowledge. It's been a complete nightmare resulting in him being kicked out of school then college, having no grades selling everything he owned begging and badgering me for money constantly I have struggled on my own with him as didn't really have anyone around… read the full post

HELP

Posted by emmum on 15 March 2014 (10 comments)

My 15 year old son has been smoking Weed and has reciently has gone on to M Cat so i have found out from a mother of one of his 'old ' friends.
We've grounded him after an incident,were we and a friend said they were staying at each others house, and we found him the next evening 'not himself' shall we say!!
He's been better at school and home so we've let him out, and found out hes been back smok… read the full post

Is it just me??

Posted by fifi65 on 14 March 2014 (4 comments)

I have just noticed I havent seen any dad's on here, so many heartbroken mam's sisters etc.. My son's father is a waste of space, I blame him for introducing my son to drugs, I got rid of him when my son was 6yrs as I didnt want a junkie for his father.. they met up when my son was 18yrs ( its been drugs ever since) I didnt hate he's father, I pitied him!! but boy do I hate him now, Its ironic bec… read the full post

happy birthday ??? not really

Posted by Franticmum on 13 March 2014 (5 comments)

hi again, its my birthday today I have had some lovely presents cards and flowers, I have been out for a meal with my youngest son and his family, my oldest son and his wife have visited, it has been so lovely but all I can do now is cry, the one card I hoped and prayed would come is sadly missing yet again, I know I should count my blessings and be thankful for the lovely family I have, but where… read the full post

lost and alone because of heroin

Posted by my boys on 13 March 2014 (5 comments)

am i selfish to want to remove myself and my to children from a man that i don't no anymore, a man who for the last five years almost every single day takes drugs, heroin, weed and proberly many more that i don't no about, i tried in the early stages to help i new it was going to be hard, he would try for a couple of days then do whatever he could to get it,  if i refused to give him money i would… read the full post

Mums !!!

Posted by fifi65 on 12 March 2014 (2 comments)

Sue, Carole, sad & tired and Patricia, your all in my thoughts, big hugs from Fiona xx… read the full post

I AM BEGGING YOU GOD!!!!

Posted by fifi65 on 12 March 2014 (5 comments)

My son has been home 4 days doing a cold turkey, coming off heroin and crack cocaine. He smiled today ; ) he is really struggling folks, I am not really religious but please pray for him, if there is a god he may be listening!! I've got everything crossed I hope it works this time. please please please get him through it!!! xx… read the full post

I don't know what to do. I can't just do nothing

Posted by Mysie on 12 March 2014 (6 comments)

Hi. My ex whom I love very much has an addiction to snorting percs. He got into them a while back but had stopped as far as I know for the most part. Then this guy started working with him who was right into them so of course he got into them too only much worse. I suffer from depression and Narcolepsy. He didn't know how to handle it or help me so he started hanging out at this guys place all the… read the full post

please help

Posted by lily1 on 11 March 2014 (8 comments)

I'm not sure where to turn anymore, my thirty year old daughter came back to live with me three years ago as she was pregnant and a heavy drug user, I wanted to give her and the baby a chance of a good life, but it had all backfired on me as she still uses , she lies and is very good at manipulating any situation, my husband and I have had enough, we just want our lives back, but I'm torn as I lov… read the full post

So tired of trying

Posted by Pinwin on 10 March 2014 (1 comments)

My now ex is drink dependant , after going through 18 months of hell with his drinking for him to leave last may , saying I want to enjoy life, you don't ( I lost any social life I had as I had too parent alone whilst he drank) . He then spiralled out of control.  Lost his two main income jobs( self employed) stole money to fund his drinking.  New girlfriend, she was his drinking buddy ..and basic… read the full post

Where to go from here ?

Posted by Mitch on 9 March 2014 (2 comments)

My life changed significantly 2 and a half years ago when I found my husband on the floor fitting. I was given the news that he had a major problem with alcohol, my first thought is "Where have I been? Why did not see or know about it?" so after this my husband went to rRehab and got sober and I made a promise to myself that if he was to do this again I would have to leave.
Last night I… read the full post

when to walk away?

Posted by Summer26 on 5 March 2014 (6 comments)

i have been with my partner 5 years and love him dearly, he has been battling with heroin addiction and really has tried hard... i have done my best to support him and educating myself about addiction. I have bee there for him when he has been into rehab twice and has just gone back in. i know he wants to get well and does this for a period of time but then relapses.... i like to think im strong b… read the full post

desperate to help my son.

Posted by serafina on 5 March 2014 (1 comments)

He's 40 now, after using most substances decided to get help, he was doing well, reducing methadone etc, but now he's gone into his shell again.  I told his nurse that I'm worried she thinks he needs to see psychiatrist again. He won't let any of family visit his home. I'm so sad I can't do anything to help him. We were all so pleased that he was recovering. Don't know what's caused this lapse.… read the full post

such an evil monster

Posted by Alize on 5 March 2014 (2 comments)

My husband started doing meth again after being clean for six years right after his father passed away. I knew he was doing it but he always lied and said he wasn't. I began to watch as things started to just grow legs and walk away from in our home, he would leave on what normally would be a ten minute trip and be gone two or more hours, he wouldn't look at me, kiss me, nothing. I decided that if… read the full post

IM DROWNING!!

Posted by CANT TAKE NO MORE on 1 March 2014 (15 comments)

My son is a liar a thief and totally unwilling to accept he has a problem. This has been escalating for nearly 4 years and I have had enough! I hate what he is doing to himself, and how it effects the rest of us...Ive tried everything, talking, supporting , being there 24/7, but im tired...I could cry quite easily at a drop of a hat, feel at  total failure as a mother, feel angry that he puts alco… read the full post

devastated broken

Posted by Sdiggle on 28 February 2014 (1 comments)

I thought he had stopped I thought he wanted to be a family , no no I was wrong he could bare to admuy it to my face because he is a coward so he calls me to say yes I did use heroin last night he injected it into his neck. Im devastated I feel sick every time I close my eyesi have the image of him doing it , what the hell do I do now I love him so much but I cant forgive him again I cant take any… read the full post

cant sleep

Posted by Franticmum on 28 February 2014 (2 comments)

im really struggling at the moment, I cant see an end to this terrible time, this has got to be the worse of all the times in the past, just when things were starting to get better and i really thought the future was looking cautiously brighter it all came crashing down, all due to that evil drug heroin, my son has reverted back big time, all his savings have gone, he has lost his flat and most of… read the full post

I can t cope any more with my son!

Posted by jake11 on 27 February 2014 (5 comments)

I m not sure where to start really but i have just had to get my 23 yo son removed from house as i can no longer cope with him, it s been going on for 9 years! i ve been there all the time for him with LOT S of love, care emotional/financial support etc. but i just lost it the other day. now I feel so guilty and sick as i m not sure where he is. I ve been told over the years that he needs tough lo… read the full post

i think im losing my brother

Posted by ashley on 25 February 2014 (0 comments)

Well my brother graduated out of high school.nows he's 24 and ever since he graduated he has been acting different i know its because of drugs but he wont admit it he turned dum like if u ask him a question he'll go hu? Or what? Or he'll answer a complete different answer and once he cut my dad and we had to call the cops on him i dont know what happened  that caused him to be that way i know its… read the full post

Am I losing my son?

Posted by patricia on 24 February 2014 (11 comments)

My son is 30 and this whole mess has been going on since his late teens. At first I very stupidly thought if I support him both emotionally and financially I would 'make it all better'!! How stupid have I been! My son smoked heroin and while doing that experienced many other hits and highs using other substances. I have always been there for him, or so I thought, in fact.....I now know he was mere… read the full post

Tears and guilt

Posted by tired lady on 23 February 2014 (0 comments)

Sorry new to all this but need a avenue to get it all out. My partner is a heavy drinker-he can go extended periods with out drinking then just binges. When this happens he changes into someone most people cant sit in a room with and if they do are risking life limb and property as he can't control his temper. 10years I have lived with the impact of his drinking on our family. We have a young daug… read the full post

It's only me again :(

Posted by fifi65 on 20 February 2014 (3 comments)

So angry this evening folk's, feeling really bitter toward's my son.. If i've ever needed him most it's now, caring for my elderly mam, dad in care home given 24 hrs to live last night ( pulled through thank god) and he is nowhere to be seen!!! He promised me last week he would call and let me help him, telephoned all the drug places for him, after much grovelling got someone who was willing to se… read the full post

My middle age sister is an alcoholic

Posted by DaveM on 20 February 2014 (0 comments)

My sister is an alchoholic, having had a problem with drink for many years.  As well as me, her eldest sibling, she has another brother and sister.  She also has 4 lovely children of her own and many grand children.  We all love her.  She has a very caring nature and needs to be needed. She's a qualified nurse and has been in the caring profession for many years. 
Unfortunately she is a drinker an… read the full post

How didn't I realise sooner my 18 year old son had a drug problem?

Posted by Meg11 on 17 February 2014 (3 comments)

In the last few years I saw my sons personality change. I thought it was because he was struggling growing up. He always found school difficult and never learnt to read or write properly due to being dyslexic. He's had to go through life with people making fun of him and telling he was stupid, so I always tried to make allowances for his behaviour. But today something clicked with me and I realise… read the full post

How can I protect my 6 year old granddaughter

Posted by Neelie on 16 February 2014 (2 comments)

My daughter-in-law and son are seperated. My granddaughter lives with her mother and maternal grandparents in another state. Her mother is actively using heroin.  My granddaughter found an eye-glass case in the home containing syringes. My daughter-in-law and her mother have had verbal and physical fights in the presence of my granddaughter. A couple of days ago my daughter-in-law borrowed my son'… read the full post

accepting my son has a problem

Posted by sad and tired on 15 February 2014 (9 comments)

Hi my son is 22 years old, he works but lost his last job due to time off and not turning up.  I have only recently had to accept he has a drug problem.  I have bailed him out of pay day loans, which he has never attempted to repay.  Sorted out his bills, and got him straight maybe three times now.  He is verbally abusive and I have to admit I am starting to be wary of him.  I have seen messages i… read the full post

Jess's story

Posted by Jess on 14 February 2014 (0 comments)

Feeling so confused, angry, sad, frustrated. My sister has been a drug user for many, years (she's now 50). The life of her son has been severely affected though he still shows overwhelming loyalty (which knocks me out). However, she constantly pressurises our parents for money which they hand out all the time. After years of these demand it is now seriously impacting on their life, they have noth… read the full post

whats next !!

Posted by Franticmum on 13 February 2014 (2 comments)

been to my sons flat today, words cannot describe what its like, but i suppose at least its his home until he loses that too, tried to talk to him but as usual its all my fault, hes says there is no point in being clean as no one trusts him, and he has nobody who cares for him, i really dont know where we go from here, part of me wants to turn my back and leave him to it but if i do im scared of w… read the full post

A concerned Daughter

Posted by dan674 on 13 February 2014 (2 comments)

Hi, I am 19 and ever since i was 12 my mum has been using heroin on and off. She is running my family to the ground had has racked up a lot of debt which we cannot afford to pay. I am currently at university and I have leant my mum money constantly, one week I even went without food to lend her money. At first I did not know she was back on drugs until I came home and her behaviour and appearance… read the full post

at my wits end!

Posted by jade92 on 11 February 2014 (2 comments)

Hi , im 21 year old and a mum of two and im at breaking point my partner was clean until i thought he just had one slip up but the other night my nightmare came true my partner admitted to me he has been taking mcat since i moved to my new place and worst thing is he's in a drug debt of £210  and the drug dealer is my next door god dam neighbour!. Since he's admitted that to me my mental health h… read the full post

Worn out!

Posted by Worn down mum on 11 February 2014 (2 comments)

Hi all I joined this site a few months ago on a night when I felt things couldnt get much worse. How wrong was I??? By reading some of the stories I can see it definitely can. I hate really hate this whole subject of addiction and feel so gutted for anyone involved with it. I think the thing that saddens me most is when you see so few replies because at the end of the day no-one can really help. T… read the full post

urgent advice

Posted by justme on 10 February 2014 (1 comments)

Hi i hope someone can help. My husband has been using heroin and crack heavily over last few years. I only found out in march last year and its been horrendous. We have 2 children, he doesnt work and doesnt do anything to help. All he does is sleep all day then goes off all night. I stupidly started texting a couple of male friends mainly because of neglect, lack of affection and the fact i was wo… read the full post

cant take much more!!

Posted by Franticmum on 9 February 2014 (2 comments)

Hi again, im not sure how much more i can take. the last 17 yrs have been a nightmare, just when i really let my guard down and started to trust my son a little he has totally floored me this time, he was just seeming to get his life back on track, and its all happening again, he was discharged from hospital after having a near fatal blood clot, and is on a path to self destruction, he is on anti… read the full post

Aliyah

Posted by Aliyah on 9 February 2014 (0 comments)

Im 46 with a heroin addict partner.He smokes it but not in the house. Im so alone I cant talk to anyone. I cry all the time. I have no job and cant afford to live alone. Im very scared to be alone. But he gets on to treatment and slips up after a few months. Ive got three grown up kids from my previous marriage. I know this man will never change. After ten years hes made me see things I thought id… read the full post

Kat

Posted by Kat on 8 February 2014 (2 comments)

I'm at my wits end with two sons on smack and anything els they can get there hands on !! I have suffered the loss of a son 3 years ago to drug intoxication! They are both 31 and 33 I can't. Live with this an longer Help !,,… read the full post

Help

Posted by Twinkle on 5 February 2014 (0 comments)

Hi, been married for 24 years, for the first 15 years my husband was an addict of everything, smack, speed, you name it, somehow I got through it, he stabilised on a maintenance methadone script and for years apart from one or two one night relapses was okay, suddenly after weeks of extreme outside stress for him he has gone on a crack and smack bender, I can't reach him, I can't cope, my world fe… read the full post

I want to leave him

Posted by louisekatie on 3 February 2014 (1 comments)

i have been with my partner nearly 6 years, he has started using heroin again, we have 2 beautiful sons and for there sake i need 2 leave him i just don't know were to start. he dose not have any family he dose not have any were else to go i am at the end now sick of him denying it then making it out to be my fault, i don't trust him any more. non of my family know and i have kept to myself for ye… read the full post

trapped

Posted by gmoney on 3 February 2014 (0 comments)

i am 45 and live with my father and 2 older brothers the age 46 and 48. My 2 brothers and I have been useing meth since i got divorsed in the year 2000. my 2 older brohers bully me and make my lufe misserable if i dont get meth for them so i do. my oldest brother recently wooped me with a huge belt that looked like a whip. i havent left because my father says he needs me . he is a single man. i ba… read the full post

What shall I do?

Posted by Lily on 2 February 2014 (1 comments)

Hi all my son is 27 and has smoked weed since he started college at 15! Although this is probably the root of the problem this is the least of my worries at the moment! He has come to me today saying he needs £700 quick as he is short to pay his dealer and it's not weed dealer it's coke! Or he will be getting a beating....He has been buying and selling it and got in a complete mess with it! I kno… read the full post

Self destruction!!!

Posted by Rachel on 1 February 2014 (2 comments)

My twin brother has always had problems with drugs since the age of  15, he's now 28, but the past 3 years have been nothing short of hell for myself and my mum! His constant use of plant and anything else he can get his hands on means that he has lost all his friends and now uses drugs and drinks alone in his flat. In the last yr alone he has been in intensive care for 3 months for jumping out in… read the full post

Need some opinions please...

Posted by Hope333 on 1 February 2014 (1 comments)

My heart is broken.  2 weeks ago my boyfriend was supposed to move back home from where he had worked for 4 weeks.  The drive would have been 7 hours.  He never showed and now his phone is not in service.  This happened before in September when he finished another job.  After 11 days though I heard from him.  He had been using heroin again.  This time it has been 14 days and I haven't heard from h… read the full post

so sad

Posted by Franticmum on 29 January 2014 (5 comments)

it makes me so sad to read so many stories that mirror my life, but at the same time i think it helps a little to know that there are others in the same situation and it is not just me that things have gone wrong for, i wrote my story on christmas eve when i was so low and needed an outlet for my hurt, in short my son has been a heroin addict for more than 17 years now, he hit rock bottom living o… read the full post

What to do next.....?

Posted by Lucinda on 28 January 2014 (1 comments)

Hi, I have just joined the site and read some of your stories, I knew they're were other people with family members with alcohol/drug issues, but the similarities are bizarre! :)). My brother is 36 yrs old, he has been in and out of trouble since he was 6yrs old, finally being diag with ADHD at 23, by which time he had been in prison for minor crimes 5/6 times.  I have always been very close to hi… read the full post

How do we ever cope

Posted by Worn out on 27 January 2014 (2 comments)

My story is pretty much the same as many but perhaps writing it down may help me, but to be honest I don't know where to start!
Perhaps by telling you that I have three adult sons, the eldest a heroine addict who has struggled with life for the past 7 years or so, we have tried rehab, implants and now he has a script from the doctors, it is so heartbreaking to see him. A lovely intelligent lad wit… read the full post

Son

Posted by HEARTBROKEN MUM on 27 January 2014 (1 comments)

My son IS 23 years old, and smokes weed I am not sure if he uses anything else, I have a daughter of 21 and a son of 18 also. He has been in a relationship for 8 years with the same girl who is lovely . He was in trouble at school quite alot , at the time we used to fall out as I would be telling him to behave etc etc, I have been married to his Dad for 25 years , who in the past has been a bit of… read the full post

cocaine destroyed my relationship

Posted by nitty on 24 January 2014 (4 comments)

It all started 3 1/2 years ago when I met my fiance an I fell in love, all was going well then I discovered he was on cocaine he was only taking it once a week an that was fine with me as each to there own as long as it didnt involve me as I dont touch it,  as time has gone on he lost his job at network rail cause he was always off to tired to go in or on a bender so he couldnt go in, when he lost… read the full post

Hubby

Posted by Survivorofaddiction on 22 January 2014 (3 comments)

My story relates to my partner, who has battled addiction for half of his life.  Gambling, weed, alcohol, heroin, crack and more.  He has spent many years in prison and when he was out he was thieving, burgling, borrowing and robbing just to feed his habit.  But the habit always got out of control and so he continued in his cycle.  Since we have been together I have seen him go back to his old hab… read the full post

I cant forget the past

Posted by Sdiggle on 22 January 2014 (4 comments)

How can I ever forget the things my partner the heroin addict has done to me and how the hell can he act like he has the right to tell me to get over it and stop nagging him ! I mean for god sake he choose smack over his own children hr made me think I was going mad I found needles and yet he still tried to tell me they were not his , he really must think I was stupid or is he just that screwed up… read the full post

my son

Posted by pipferret on 21 January 2014 (1 comments)

Hi I have a 3 children aged 17 . 20 .22  my 17 year old son has been diagnosed with aspergers and ADHD about 5 years ago and was on medication for his ADHD ,but about 3 years ago I found out he had started smoking weed and after an appointment with the doctor he was told it was very dangerous to smoke weed and take his medication so he stopped taking his medication and carried on smoking the weed… read the full post

My boy

Posted by max on 20 January 2014 (7 comments)

I have a beautiful 20 yr old son who has two lovely older sisters. He wasn't an easy child to raise but he could be so caring and helpful to others, in particular the elderly.  At fourteen he began to change, his temper was quick to fire off, when challenged he would punch walls, be verbally aggressive to me  & my husband.  I was constantly called into his school. His headmaster asked if I tho… read the full post

feeling alone

Posted by Sout42 on 19 January 2014 (1 comments)

I've been with my husband for 7 years, he's an alcoholic and hasn't had a drink for 8 years. A couple of times he's said he's taken cocaine but always said he wouldn't do it again. Sometimes it's resulted in us being in debt because he was spending beyond his means. A couple of days ago he joined NA saying it was because his head wasn't right and he wanted to sort things before it got to that poin… read the full post

Partner back on heroin

Posted by cazzy on 17 January 2014 (2 comments)

I find myself sitting here wondering how I've put myself in this situation yet again. I must be stupid cause I've left my partner before but he told me he was clean and I believed him and we got back together, but I'm sure he's using again, all the signs are there, not coming home from work for at least 2 hours after he's finished, never got any money, mobile phone numbers on bill that are rung ma… read the full post

Brother an Addict!!!!!

Posted by browithdrugaddiction on 14 January 2014 (6 comments)

I am 31 live with my hubby and two young children, I have two brothers one 28 and then my younger brother 23 who is a drug addict. My brother lives with my mum and since the age of about 14 has smoked cannabis then in the last three to four years has been addicted to cocaine. He has been in prison 3 times already and looks like he is on his way back!!! Throughout the years he has stolen significan… read the full post

My sons cannabis addiction is similar to a heroin addict

Posted by emmaj112000 on 12 January 2014 (5 comments)

I am feeling quite desperate, I have come from a good working background and worked in mental health, so when I knew my son taking cannabis at 16 I knew all the right approaches.  I asked him if anything had happened, was he unhappy, experimenting, I would get him help etc, then I thought it was a phase so backed off a little.  That phase has not ended and I have been everything from supportive an… read the full post

My son !!!

Posted by fifi65 on 11 January 2014 (5 comments)

Seen my boy twice now since last time i wrote on here, He is as thin as a stick, but a live :) He is still not ready to try and get clean, Ive told him I love him ( dearly) and when he is ready, to contact me and I will go with him to try and get help again.. scared to do this but he has got no one else.. Hope I don't have to wait to long xx… read the full post

There is no 2nd Chance

Posted by Jenn on 11 January 2014 (0 comments)

Going on 7 years of Hell...5 rehabs, 2 suicide attempts and 5 overdoses and the last OD half dead 10 minutes in Cardiac Arrest. Induced into a coma so they could drop his temp and reboot a brain that had no waves. It worked and he made it and yet he still continues to do the very drug that almost killed him. WET/ Dust/ mint leaves dipped in embalming fluid. A 19 yr old boy given a second chance an… read the full post

My story

Posted by Jazz on 10 January 2014 (1 comments)

When I met my partner over 3 years ago, I was a foster carer...
I didn't know at first, but he is an addict, cocaine was the drug of choice.
We were seeing each other for around 2 months when he confessed to me his situation.
Initially I was shocked, but because I loved him, supported him as best I could.
He has Hep C and had severe damage to his liver...
I went to all his hospital appointments an… read the full post

Beverley saved my life

Posted by Tattersley79 on 9 January 2014 (4 comments)

Im 34 years old and been with my partner 10 years, our relationship has been turbulent but I love her and likewise, A few years ago I started using heroin and kept it to myself for as long as possible then the inevitable happened and my girl found out. She was upset and i thought i would lose her but she did stand by me. it has been rocky and iv lied and stole from her iv put her thru hell but sti… read the full post

Why

Posted by Sammi on 9 January 2014 (1 comments)

I don't understand why any person takes drugs everyday. I use to love him and want him so much but now it's 3 years later and he is still using coke I don't know how to help him… read the full post

Don't want to lose him.

Posted by Tan on 8 January 2014 (1 comments)

I have been with my boyfriend just under a year. He adores me and he would never intentionally hurt me. He has a big disposable income as he owns a successful business. A few months ago I started noticing he was doing a lot of cocaine with his friends then doing it with my friends but always keeping me in the dark about it. He had also told me that 5 years ago he had a cocaine addiction. Since the… read the full post

finding out

Posted by dinnowitch on 5 January 2014 (0 comments)

I went away for Christmas Day and Boxing Day, just to our local seaside, just for a break in our very small caravan and so we could bring the 'van back home. It was nothing special. My 28 year old son said he was happy to stay behind and look after the remaining dogs (7 had gone with us). I knew he was a binge drinker but never expected what I came back home to. He had been on what he termed a 'be… read the full post

still mad

Posted by charli on 3 January 2014 (0 comments)

My sister in law and I use to be really close until I found out about her meth addiction she pretended that she got clean when her daughter was born but she had moved out of state so we just didn't see it anymore she ended up needing a place to stay so we offered our house as long as she was clean cuz we had a new baby to she promised she was here a month before we moved a huge change in her attit… read the full post

Looks like I'm not alone then.

Posted by GillyB on 29 December 2013 (3 comments)

Life is beginning to un-ravel, but just reading last few posts tells me it's going to get worse, before better.  Just off loading this tale is going to make me feel better though so thanks.  
 Back in October 2013, my 14yr old son was identified as having been 'dealing' cannabis on school promises. Three weeks later he started at an Educational Support Unit, end of year came and despite assessment… read the full post

lost and confused just want to scream

Posted by Sdiggle on 27 December 2013 (3 comments)

How do I know if he is still using , the lies cover lies , I know when my gut is telling me he has used but he would never admit it instead im made to feel like an idiot . Im worn out , everytime he leaves the house my heart is in my throat feeling sick because I think he is going out to score, part of me wants more than anything to just walk away and forget he ever existed but what about my kids… read the full post

Help, your advice warmly welcome

Posted by Kids2014 on 25 December 2013 (1 comments)

Where to start, I'll try keep it short, my son started using cannabis at 15.,we had no idea, I have two younger sons , he's now 19 .His moods were always up and down and fell out several times with his dad, not got the best relationship really, never felt he was a dad, had a recent incident which saw him flip I took him to see someone about his moods and that's when it all came out, he'd been usin… read the full post

Don't know where to start

Posted by Franticmum on 24 December 2013 (3 comments)

My son is now 34' he started smoking cannabis aged about 17 he then became a heroin addict (it's so hard just to write this) for 3 or so years we as a family tried to help him, which included going to support groups with him to locking him in his room ( with no success he just jumped out of the window) he would be clean for a few weeks then start using again, he stole from me my elderly mum and ev… read the full post

HOPE !!!!!!!

Posted by fifi65 on 23 December 2013 (2 comments)

Would just like to say " merry christmas" to all who are suffering from a loved one's addiction. Im hoping my son will turn-up but I doubt it.. May you all find comfort somehow and let's HOPE the new year bring's brighter thing's , godbless xxx… read the full post

Christmas time

Posted by AmandaA on 23 December 2013 (1 comments)

Hi everybody
Christmas is a wonderful time especially like me if you have smaller children.  The magic of it all is clouded by the issues with my son.  You can see the story in an earlier thread.   I am trying really hard to be positive but inside I am screaming.  I feel so heartbreakingly sad for my son who will be on his own at Christmas.  I have sent him some food and reaffirmed that I love him… read the full post

its all my fault

Posted by Sdiggle on 22 December 2013 (2 comments)

I know an addict is the best liar but never did I think they would still continue to use when blessed with two beautiful children I have a little boy of 2 and a beautiful baby girl 5months I would do anything for my children even when though they do sometimes drive me crazy but its hit me today I shout scream and get stressed with my two year old all the time but the truth is im not angry at him i… read the full post

I Don't Know Where To Turn

Posted by tired on 22 December 2013 (0 comments)

My 35 year old son has lived with me on and off since his father died some years ago. he has gone through several failed relationships, One being with the mother of his two young children. He has parental rights and through Court has access which means the children stay here at the family home where my son has the top floor and free access throughout. My son has had a history of theft (from myself… read the full post

My boyfriend a heroin addict

Posted by Sdiggle on 21 December 2013 (2 comments)

My partner and father to my two beautiful children is a junkie a heroin addict has been so for 20years although I was the last to find out to me he was the most amazing person I had ever met. I didn't know about heroin didn't know much about drugs atall until he finally told me two years ago a part of me died that day , never have I hurt like he has hurt me , I know when he has done it I've learnt… read the full post

17 year old stranger in place of my son

Posted by cj2275 on 20 December 2013 (0 comments)

I'm at a loss as to know what to do for the best. My son is 17 & addicted to Ketamine but will take just about anything to get wasted, valium bottles rum and so the list goes on. I have real concerns for his safety. He was arrested a couple of nights ago for criminal damage but doesn't care and has been on a permanent bender fir weeks. Sadly tonight his Dad hit him and cut his lips  as he went… read the full post

My 17 year old son is taking drugs and I believe selling

Posted by Diana on 20 December 2013 (2 comments)

I just don't know what to do or who to turn to for help and advise. My lovely boy is turning into a stranger. About 18 months ago he started dabbling with weed my husband and I found out, confronted him and he denied it for months but on regular evidence had to eventually admit it but said lots of his friends did it socially and no big deal. We have accepted that we can try and give all the advice… read the full post

Heroin addict boyfriend of ten years has left me for someone else

Posted by help81 on 15 December 2013 (1 comments)

I don't know where to begin but I need some support or advice on my current situation. My partner of ten years has just ended our very turbulent relationship. He has been a heroin user for 8 years, that I know of. He is only 27. I am clean and have never touched heroin.

We did live together for a number of years but last December after he lost his temper and threw a pan of food across the kitche… read the full post

Back again??

Posted by lorraine on 10 December 2013 (0 comments)

My Daughter had very good  exam results from school although she was always in trouble,we had to change her middle school once as she has always been combative.I had always tried to be honest about things with her even about my own brief dalliance with cannabis and to watch out for drugs.This was to go against me as she often says "you did it Mum".Anyways my Daughter became an addict,I h… read the full post

The Downward Spiral - The Chaos Just Got Much Worse.

Posted by mumofjosh on 9 December 2013 (1 comments)

I have a son aged 21 and we have a pretty poor relationship mainly due to his drug abuse. I wonder if anyone else has been or is in a similar situation and can offer me advice and more importantly some hope. 

I love that boy (man?) to distraction but he disrespects me in every way and now things have just got a whole lot worse. A brief overview follows:

His father left when he was 3. He kept in… read the full post

Is it possible?

Posted by Jeniffer on 5 December 2013 (1 comments)

I have my cousin named scott, he is of 34 years.His whole family ruined due to this drug addiction. His mother has been died a two years ago. They tried to get him married , he also have one child but when his condition gets worse he divorced his wife. Now he extremely want to get rid of the drug but it never happens. We all tried to hospitalized him and went through different treatments that  ult… read the full post

Alcoholic parents

Posted by ciah on 2 December 2013 (0 comments)

I am a 22 year old whose mother was an alcoholic since i was about 8. Before that there was substance misuse. I am pained to say that my mother has passed away at the age of 36. She passed away over 2yrs ago now but im only just getting to grips with dealing with it & i really want to help other people going through it. I had an awful childhood, it was filled with disappointment and bad memori… read the full post

my boyfriend just got out of rehab..

Posted by Heather on 2 December 2013 (1 comments)

its hard to start this...Because, I don't know where to begin or who would want to read this story..It will feel better to atleast get off my chest. My boyfriend for the past year and 1/2.. Has been addicted to pain killers. It was okay for awhile I will admit we did do some drugs together and drink but mainly just socially.. not all the time, I had no clue he was getting high on painkiller on a d… read the full post

Mothers Pain

Posted by yvonne on 1 December 2013 (1 comments)

Im not sure how I can tell in words the struggle of How for the last 7 years Ive battled with my (now 27yr old),Son who became a stranger to myself after Drug Induced Phsycosis Paranoid state!.On 4 occasions He has been sectioned,!! although All support and advice has now ended and no longer has any mental Health support as He chooses to try,and to certain degree succeeds in living a normal life,H… read the full post

TOUGH LOVE!!!

Posted by fifi65 on 27 November 2013 (3 comments)

It's been a month now, and I'm giving him the tough love treatment, by that I mean I have'nt gone looking for him to feed him or make sure his clothe's are clean.. I think he maybe giving me the tough love treatment as well , he has'nt been near ????
 
Despair!! where's my little boy with the blonde curley hair?
His beautiful eye's are dead in his head
doe's he remember the last time he slept in a… read the full post

Alcoholic parent

Posted by Nicola93 on 27 November 2013 (1 comments)

Throughout my childhood I grew up with an alcoholic mother, at the time everything seemed normal? I though I was part of a normal family, however when I grew older I knew this wasn't the case. My mum drank heavily for years an eventually ended her and my dad relationship, this of course only made her worse, my mum sadly passed away not long after, I now feel I have the strength to help other peopl… read the full post

What should I do?

Posted by Hopeless on 27 November 2013 (1 comments)

Here I am sat crying again because my 36yr old son has verbally abused me an manipulated me again! He has taken drugs and abused alcohol for many years. Got into trouble with the police and ended up in a mental unit where he met is wife. They have been smoking weed to excess and I have been stupid enough to give them money in the hope that they would get help. I know I have to be strong but I don'… read the full post

what should i do

Posted by vonnie54 on 24 November 2013 (3 comments)

my son who is 30yrs old started smoking heroin after the death of his best mate says it takes all his emotions away been using it now for 9months but only just got on to it, I don't know much about drugs but am now trying to educate myself.he started taking things out the house to sell ,money from my bag ,then my bank account that's how I found out he was doing it to feed his habit never felt so a… read the full post

No time to cry

Posted by nene on 21 November 2013 (0 comments)

I was a binge drinker, left my husband when my boys were 7 and 18 months, my daughter was 4.  (She is now a scientist)  As usual, I blame myself...my oldest started using when he was 12, I had bought a condo on the beach thinking the ocean and surfing all day would make up for a single mom with a successful job.  The more money I made the worse he got.  The stories I have about him would curl your… read the full post

help or advice

Posted by nyc on 21 November 2013 (1 comments)

I'd like some help please. My partner is 30 and has relapsed. She uses opiates but has a fascination with needles. She hasn't used in a couple of months but recently got me to obtain a pain med proscriptions. She misused them greatly. Then obtained another and misused those too. We went to get help for her addiction. She has almost taken and tried to take her life with heroin overdoses. I have see… read the full post

My Daughter

Posted by bertie on 20 November 2013 (1 comments)

A very long story my daughter is 35 and is using methodone and diazpan and has uses much worst she won't engage with services but over the last year has been able to keep her self clean more or less but yesterday she ended up in hospital and when I arrived she was stoned again .After lots of test she was discharged after four days.
I went to see this morning and she has broken my heart again to se… read the full post

help

Posted by manj on 17 November 2013 (0 comments)

live I  middlesex...I hve a 18 year old whose been living with his dad for the past year and a half....since thrn hes been mixing with the wrong crowd. ..swears alot at me...disrespectful. ..steals...lies..and a couple of days ago spat at me callex me all sorts of choice words a d his father watched and encouraged it. I called the police and they  will arrest him this week for harassment. ...I get… read the full post

Story

Posted by Nic on 14 November 2013 (0 comments)

Well where do I start, this is all alien to me nod words can't explain how I'm feeling. This should be the happiest time of my life but it's being masked by my drug addict boyfriend.i first met my boyfriend 13 years ago and after a brief encounter we went our separate ways. Then in September 2012 I was standing in my sons school playground, which I never do school runs, and there he was, my heart… read the full post

Help please

Posted by Rosie on 13 November 2013 (2 comments)

I'm going out of my mind, and feel I can't go on anymore... My son is 23, has had everything in life, but these last few years have been hell with him....we lost my dad ( his grandad) a year ago,  since then it's been a roller coaster with him.... Drugs, alcohol sleeping tablets, u name it, he's taken it.... I've had men knocking my door for money, threats made to me on the phone.... I just don't… read the full post

what do i do ,or where can i go ????????????????????????

Posted by mrs arnold on 12 November 2013 (0 comments)

my son was born so healthy,but me and his dad split after he was jailed,my new husband has always been so giving and loving,yet he has stole thousands of pounds of items, we have been to court so many times,i have drug dealers and gangs at my door , yet i have other children and one with a life disability, please some one help me ,as now i am drugs to help me ,yet he is my son !!!! none of my step… read the full post

Advice please!!

Posted by SN on 9 November 2013 (1 comments)

My 17 year old son is using drugs and running up debts into £100's, I have been working overtime shifts to pay off these debts as I'm so worried what will happen if I don't, am I doing the right thing? I'm desperate for advice!… read the full post

Hate is a very strong WORD!!!!!

Posted by fifi65 on 5 November 2013 (2 comments)

I am gulity of saying I hate my son..These word's just burst out of my mouth a few days ago in front of my 84yr mother and Sister ( they insisted I did'nt mean it) I had lost all controll and was crying hysterically in my mother's arm's.. He called to my house at 6am a few day's ago, absolutley off his head on Crack cocaine, methodone, diazapan, oh and his beloved weed!! My mistake was to ask for… read the full post

Sally

Posted by Issues on 5 November 2013 (0 comments)

Needing serious help with our 27 year old son, at this moment he has gone to prison for 6 weeks again as I speak, numb at mo thinking nice breather for myself and husband, probably hit me tomorrow whilst at work, not sure what to do he's smoked cannabis at aged 14 stole lies and yet we still help him out, mad I know, been in abusive relationships and has two children by different women, sounds lik… read the full post

The prodigal son

Posted by Final chance on 1 November 2013 (0 comments)

i got a call last weekend, it was 8am and my brother had turned up on my father's doorstep after 20 odd years. I had seen him in those intervening years, gradually watching his decline and the vicious circle of bedsit to homeless to friends floor,which was his life. Unable to keep a job any money or possessions. I had tried to help, give food rather than money, I knew where the money would go. I w… read the full post

When will the worry ever end?

Posted by Deb on 31 October 2013 (0 comments)

My son is 24 years old and he's always been polite and well mannered. He got a good job in a bank after he left school, passed his driving test, brought a nice little car and met a lovely girl. I thought it was going to end happily ever after....After working in the bank for a few years he started complaining of headaches so he was sent for various tests and scans but nothing conclusive was found.… read the full post

where do i start

Posted by jay on 31 October 2013 (2 comments)

I'm trying to post this for the second time as the website keeps disappearing on me. I'm desperate for some guidance. My 17 year old son is a drug user. He admits freely to cannabis, which he defends vehemently whenever I try to suggest it's harmful. I think he takes other substances - he said he once did "powders" but has given that up. I don't believe him. He lies CONSTANTLY and about… read the full post

my son

Posted by wishing x on 31 October 2013 (0 comments)

my son is 22yrs old and until 10months ago was the most lovely son anyone could ask for.  his behaviour however over the last few months has become erratic,aggressive,hitting his sisters and has paranoid episodes that come from nowhere.   I know he is a heavy Maruahna user which has become increasingly worse, he began a relationship with a girl who messes with emotions and although she isnt to bla… read the full post

Mandy

Posted by Mandy on 29 October 2013 (1 comments)

My brother is 39-lives with my 65 year old mother and has done for most of his adult life except when my parents tried to help him live independently by setting him up in 4 separate flats and houses. He always ended up back at my mums because he never paid a single bill-his money has always been prioritised as - dope first, before food, gas electric etc. He has taken various drugs over the years a… read the full post

ROSELEA

Posted by ROSELEA on 27 October 2013 (1 comments)

Mmy son is on drink and cocain he regularly comes home drunk and dissordally i have done everythink i can to help him last night i called the police my son is 38 he has lived here since hes relation ship broke up 8 years ago wehave my grand sons every 2 weeks 13 and 14 love them to bits i have put him out please tell me if i have done the right thing i have been everywhere to help him but just doe… read the full post

there is hope keep going

Posted by keppster on 22 October 2013 (0 comments)

Life at the beginning was good but confusing as I did not know he had a drink problem. Being married to an alcoholic has been violent, heartbreaking, and most of all lonely.
But after 10 years my husband admitted he had a drink problem and wanted help. The hard task started looking for help as this was 20 year ago.
The GP sent him for treatment at a drink and drugs clinic, the treatment lasted a w… read the full post

who else can I turn to

Posted by where can I turn on 21 October 2013 (0 comments)

Hi, my mum has been drinking for over 20 years now she has been placed in rehab on a number of occasion but she has never been able to stay clean, excuses after excuses and shes always turned back to drink. I know people might think im being horrible about my mum but ive every excuse in the book. She was admitted into hospital last year and was told she only had 6 months to live if she didn't stop… read the full post

What to do

Posted by Exasperated sister on 21 October 2013 (2 comments)

Hi, I have just signed up to this website and am looking some advice, basically my sister is an alcoholic in denial, she has 2 young children aged 9 and 5, she works shifts and stays Sober on her working days, but as soon as she has a day off she will just drink, often my family and her husbands family get a phone call mid morning to see who can pick the kids up from school, it's always to late to… read the full post

my husband love alcool

Posted by nadia on 20 October 2013 (0 comments)

I can not live with my husband no more. Everyday he promis me will not drink but at the end of the day is the same. I will like to move with my 2 children and to let him to live his life like he whant. I have no family and frinds in uk and i have no help. What i have to do. I did everising to help him give up alcoohl but he dont whant help.… read the full post

Death through denial

Posted by Angela on 19 October 2013 (0 comments)

I want to tell the story of my son in the hope that it may help save a life.  I believe he had a loving, accepting childhood and that when he came out as Gay he received understanding and unconditional love.  When he was 22 he fell in love with an American and moved to San Francisco to live with his partner.  Despite the difficulty of not having any legal status he managed to find work where he wa… read the full post

I'm ready to give up

Posted by Mari on 17 October 2013 (2 comments)

My daughter is hooked on marijuana and pills for six yrs now.  I have had to take our her eldest expenses sin 2010,  she just started college.  My daughter has two other children 13 and 8 yrs of age.  These children don't know what it is to live a normal life except for the time they spend with me or their father.  I want to take these kids away from her but feel this will just take her to the str… read the full post

what more can i do?

Posted by worriedmum on 15 October 2013 (3 comments)

My son is 23 and I'm worried sick about him. He has been on a slippery slope since he was about 15. To cut a long story short he is now on cocaine, weed and drink and I don't know what to do. He won't seek help and he lies to me so much I don't know what's truth and what's not. He does not live at home as I can no longer cope with his lies, moods, lifestyle as I have other children to think of. He… read the full post

My son

Posted by AmandaA on 11 October 2013 (16 comments)

Oh where to start.  I have had years and years of hell.  My son is 22 a drug addict and has ASD issues.  He lives on the edge of life with no friends, he is homeless, has no money, no purpose and no soul left.  He has ripped me to pieces through the stress of it all.  He bullies me, controls me and blames me for everything.  There are too many incidents, too many traumas to recall.  He has not liv… read the full post

Ignorance is bliss

Posted by kiti masters on 6 October 2013 (0 comments)

The facebook page has been left open - you are tempted to look but should you? If you go ahead you might, like me, wish you hadn't. The voice created by the words on the page is completely alien- it takes a few minutes to register and interpret the meaning of the words swimming in front of your eyes.

It's the chill of realisation, the physical reaction of cold fear when you now know for sure what… read the full post

His habbit has destroyed me.

Posted by Survivor. on 6 October 2013 (10 comments)

My ex partner has a Drug habbit. He lives in a world of total denial and lies to hide it from everyone. I got out of the house we shared but I still get succered into falling for the sob story time and time again. My life has become a struggle through his habbit and I hate myself for being weak and not being able to cut him off. Today I found this site and called a helpline. Where will I find the… read the full post

hOW CAN I HELP MY DAUGHTER?

Posted by Veronica on 4 October 2013 (0 comments)

My 28 year old daughter has a daily habit with weed (cannabis). Basically she says she needs it to get through the day.  i have tried every help to find for her but she is an adult and only she can want to stop. I had great hopes for her as she went to Univercity and got a degree. SHE CAME HOME FROM uNI AND WAS ALREADY HOOKED ON CANNABIS.
Many people will think this is not a problem compared to so… read the full post

10 years on

Posted by carole on 25 September 2013 (0 comments)

My son has now been an addict for 10 years he is now 30 years old with children. His partner was aware of his problem before we where and already had a child on the way, our 1st grandchild whom adore. He has over the years seeked help and has been on and off 
programmes over the years. I thought when I heard he was using heroin my heart would break
He was brought up in a loving home, good backgrou… read the full post

im lost

Posted by mrs.t on 19 September 2013 (6 comments)

Hi im a 24 year old i have the most beautiful son and a partner who is addicted to heroine, we've been together 8 years now and i was aware at the begining of the relationship he was a user but i fell for him. At the beginning it wasn't too bad but then 2 years in i found out he was injecting and when i found out and because i didn't leave him it was like he thort i was ok with it and he and life… read the full post

Time to get strong

Posted by tasmin on 11 September 2013 (0 comments)

S is 48 years of age we have a 11year old son and a 19 year old daughter
My husband has being doing cocaine on and off for 6 years but i only found out about it about 18months ago when I told him he had to leave  after his errattic behaviour.. 
I could never leave him in house as he be wrecked i thought he was drinking i never thought was drugs ... i would find wraps and he would blame visitors an… read the full post

JUST ANOTHER BOOT! :(

Posted by blondie1 on 11 September 2013 (9 comments)

my partner first tryed heroin when he was 18yrs old (he's now 34) and i didnt know anything about it! we got together in 2002 and i didnt know that he dabbled with it! i first found out he was-in 2005! and he habit has slowly but surely been getting worse since then-we have 3 beautiful children together-and he has been clean for the past 2 weeks!
the most recent heartbreak is that i our 3rd baby i… read the full post

I let her down and I feel so lost without her

Posted by Judyg on 2 September 2013 (0 comments)

Before I married H I knew she liked to drink and also had a voltile temperament (never physically violent).  It was only after we married 3 years ago that I found out H had been abused as a child and we talked abour her getting help.  Unfortunately the time H started counselling also coincided with her starting to feel ill and a visit to a specialist reveaved she had liver damage, but at that poin… read the full post

simbaking

Posted by simbaking on 29 August 2013 (0 comments)

Hello I am 52 and my ex is in addiction of alcohol and cocaine. We met 5years ago he was a nice charming funny man I knew he drank but never knew about the cocaine.
We moved in together 2half years ago he used to like going out on pay day with friends and stayed our late 4am. I couldn't understand how you could stay awake so long whilst drinking.
Anyway during the last year it has become worse and… read the full post

My family, My father

Posted by RYAN on 29 August 2013 (1 comments)

I am currently aged twenty and I live in London.

My father is a multi - poly drug (Ketamine, Crack Cocaine, Heroin and Amphetamine) user; my father returned to drugs when I was seven.
My parents separated when I was six and by the age of seven my father started doing Ketamine. During the first days of his drug use; my father lost his sense of humour, then his even temperament (he would become vio… read the full post

please help

Posted by Steve on 26 August 2013 (1 comments)

my ex has left two children with me after just getting them back from social serv  telling me she working for three days and.o jade a call from family member saying she called them saying she messed up and back with her old partner who she has to stay away from social.o know she's taking god nos wat and now o dnt no wat to say to the kids they have been taken from her before and this time it's gon… read the full post

the smack keeps dragging him back

Posted by Loving Wife on 24 August 2013 (5 comments)

everytime you say its the last time, 
i think everything will be fine. 
Then the foil comes out, you smoke another line, 
and I die a little more inside*new line… read the full post

What can i do?

Posted by Joella on 23 August 2013 (1 comments)

My partner has been smoking heroin for about a year. He's finally come to the point where he wants to change his life around and is seeking help, however its taking weeks for anything to be done and i don't feel like he can wait weeks. We don't have the finances to pay for private rehab and i don't know what to do next. He's a good person who wants to get better, he just made some  mistakes and no… read the full post

please tell us what we can do to help our son

Posted by fred on 23 August 2013 (1 comments)

we don't know how to help our son , hes 29 yeas old he doesn't live with us he has a council flat which he shares with his partner. basically he is a drug addict and has been for many years now .it started with smoking cannabis in his early teens to taking cocaine then  over the last few years he has been smoking heroin .his partner is also a user .he has been in trouble several times now for shop… read the full post

A mother's worry

Posted by supporter on 21 August 2013 (4 comments)

We are worried parents!!  We often ask ourselves - what have we done so wrong??  Our son has gone from a loving caring person to someone that has become so cold and appears to have no feelings any more.  He hasn't actually admitted to taking drugs.  A mother knows when something isn't quite right.  He stays out most nights, doesn't have a regular sleep pattern.  His appearance has gone downhill.… read the full post

I know what to do....

Posted by Sad and lonely.... on 20 August 2013 (0 comments)

For many years now I have been living with an alcoholic. My husband has battled with drink for so long now I can't remember when it actually started. He has been in re-hab once, this completely wiped out our savings because I had no option than to pay for this privately. We've been to the doctor but there doesn't seem to be any help available. We just go around in circles...a few good days, then a… read the full post

Lost and no idea what to do...

Posted by Ellcee on 20 August 2013 (5 comments)

Hi, 
myself and my younger sister are really struggling to cope with my Dad's codeine addiction. Although our Mum told us of it several years ago, he has never mentioned it to us until recently. He told us he had saved up £2000 and was going to a rehab for a week. He thought this was the first we heard of it. Since then he lost his flat and moved in with my sister as apparently the owners are sel… read the full post

How can I save his life ......it could be so good?

Posted by SadSue on 20 August 2013 (0 comments)

My son is now 30 years old and he makes my life a living hell! He had a very well paid job until Jan this year when he was more or less forced to resign due to his addictions. He drinks too much and once he's had a few drinks he starts on the cocaine. He's got his own flat, still working and earning good money and lots of friends who encourage him to change his lifestyle and me! I try to help by b… read the full post

Letdown...

Posted by Nowhere to turn on 16 August 2013 (2 comments)

My husband of only 3 months is an alcoholic! He had spent most of last year in & out of hospital, with variceal bleeds, two of which nearly killed him. In February of this year, a shunt was put into his Liver, to prevent further bleeds. Throughout all of this, he never drank any alcohol! Over the past 3 months, his drinking has increased, on a daily basis. Following a week long "bender&qu… read the full post

I want to kick him out

Posted by Jazza on 9 August 2013 (0 comments)

My son is 27, admitted heroin addiction 3 years ago, been on 2 lots of methadone.  He is such a liar, he is continually having money off me and claims the big pile of drug paraphernalia in his room is 'old stuff' before he stopped using.

I want him out of the house, he needs to learn to stand on his own two feet, I am at the end of the road with him.  I actually can not stand him.  I wish he woul… read the full post

Husband

Posted by Blondie on 28 July 2013 (0 comments)

I am 60 years old and my husband is 48 we have been married for 18 years, have a beautiful home, a 2nd house we rent out, 2 lovely cars, no financial worries and our lovely 2 dogs.  I always knew my husband could drink a lot soicially, but he never drank every day, or sat around indoors drinking.  he had a very troubled childhood his father left his mother when he was 7 and his sister 8, and it ca… read the full post

Just looking for some support

Posted by poisoned on 17 July 2013 (1 comments)

I'm new to this website. After seeking support from other family members with no success, I find myself questioning my decisions more and more every day. Here is a run down of my story. My mother has suffered from a drug addiction for as long as I can remember. My brother and I have been able to get through some of the toughest times to current date. I am 27 now with my own family and now my son a… read the full post

Should I make him homeless ?

Posted by lexy on 3 July 2013 (4 comments)

My seventeen and a half year old son has been using ketamine almost daily for a year now, using for three years in total. He has refused all offers of help from services, despite me finding him semi conscious twice and dialing 999 where he was taken to hospital. He brings drugs into the house, I hear him snorting it and find residue lying around his desk . In the morning he often has white powder… read the full post

My son

Posted by JJ57 on 27 June 2013 (1 comments)

This is the first time I've done this.
My son is 30, lives at home with me and my husband and his 7yr olds son.He works full time.
I know he has been on canibis since being a teenager and this has caused so many rows and upset. I have been in antidepressants for 9 yrs due to all the trouble we've had with him.
He never gives us any money towards his keep and we pay for most things for our Grandchi… read the full post

my son

Posted by sharon on 27 June 2013 (0 comments)

hi my son was 14 yrs old when he started smoking weed and drinking at his mates place he used to stay there at weekends he is still doing this he is 23 yrs old with a 4 half yr old boy he hasnt seen for 6 months when he does we dont see him for days he goes off the rails like a few weeks a go he went drinking by him self he cant rember geting back to where we live he lost his phone because he lost… read the full post

time to stop or drop

Posted by rock on 24 June 2013 (4 comments)

So I have not been on this site before and not sure how to start. My mum has been an alcoholic for the last 16 years. - please bare in mind I am 21 years old. In that 16 years I have been trying to get my mum to seek help but she has never wanted to..my older brother and sister have also tried. In april this year I broke up with my partner who I lived with and so I moved back in with my mum..I did… read the full post

will my son ever stop his drug habit?

Posted by A Parent with hope on 23 June 2013 (3 comments)

I cannot believe the amount of stories I have read, is there really that many parents that have similar problems with their children? I have searched and searched for help, such as rehab, somewhere my son can find the tools to help himself. 

My son is now 20, I realised he was dabbling with weed when he was about 14. He promised me he would stop. By the time he reached 16,  he was dabbling in pil… read the full post

same old story

Posted by bob on 23 June 2013 (0 comments)

I go  through the week with out thinking about crack  x  but as soon it payday friday the crack takes over and i spend all my money on it :-( why cant it just go away :'(… read the full post

Is it getting worse again?

Posted by Alison on 21 June 2013 (3 comments)

My son started using drugs in his early teens.  I suspected it was going on and asked him about it.  He told me how the group he'd started spending time with had a lot of bullying in it, and how unhappy he was but that he couldn't face being on his own without friends.  Writing this now in the same room we sat in, and remembering that conversation, myself and my boy all those years ago - 10 years… read the full post

In Sickness and in Health

Posted by granvilleey on 20 June 2013 (1 comments)

In sickness and in health 
Enveloped in a dark rubber chair the bumper descends on me
Arms free, head wiggling I’m held tight and hauled up with ticking  judders till
On the edge of a precipice and just for a moment, I see all, bright and clear. 
I want to stay and look, revel in its beauty… read the full post

Happening now

Posted by Doing the best that I can on 20 June 2013 (7 comments)

I cannot believe that I am writing this but recognise that the situation we are in could potentially be a cathartic finale. I want to post in as direct a way possible and hope you can help. I want to help my daughter but she doesn't want it I don't want her to be on a path of self destruction, I want my Beauty to tame her Beast, because I don't believe that she is this person the alcohol is the co… read the full post

Can the vicious circle ever end?

Posted by Tryingtohelp on 14 June 2013 (2 comments)

My partner of about 10 months lives with a family member who is a long time substance abuser.  Though harder drugs were the drugs of choice of this person's younger days, they have now moved to overdosing themselves on prescription sleeping tablets, taking a weeks worth in one go (or more if able to get their hands on them).  We have been through the cycle of enabling, ignoring, controlling, givin… read the full post

Here we go again

Posted by Harriett on 13 June 2013 (2 comments)

I have never posted here before and have only just came across this site.
Since September 2012 I have known my sister is a alcoholic, she has a young son and a partner.
We have been trying to help her and she was due to start a detox on Monday 10th June but the week previous she had a failed suicide attempt whilst drunk and was admitted to a mental hospital to detox. Well she spent a whole week th… read the full post

i am so lost right now

Posted by kimmie on 12 June 2013 (2 comments)

ok where  do I start  my husband drinks  is abusive he has been drinking for along  time just to day I got police to remove him as I wouldn't let  him  in the house so he slept in a tent in the bk garden my husband did go on a 73 aa meetings  which he has started drinking again in the  last 3 weeks heavy  I have tried speaking with him I have tried  the tuff love  thing  my son gave me a op just t… read the full post

Last resort

Posted by clowe on 24 April 2013 (4 comments)

Ok , my story is a long one, but everyones sake will cut it short, basically my parents have been weekend binge drinkers all my life, I am 45 my sister is 49.... my mum had a brain tumour when she was 43 and left her with Epilepsy and short term memory loss, my dad then became her full time carer, and slowly over the yrs the drinking became more frequent, I have to say my mum is an aggressive drun… read the full post

Hopeless

Posted by Xena on 20 April 2013 (1 comments)

Yet again i cave in and give him money , he says it,s for food , or money for the electric , he lies , he intimidates , he threatens sucicide , he calls me horrible names and tells me i am a bad mother he makes me feel guilty , and hopeless untill i give in yet again and then i hate myself for been so weak , i need to be strong but i struggle , he is my son and i love him , but i hate what heroin… read the full post

I need strength

Posted by Xena on 20 April 2013 (0 comments)

Yet again i cave in and give him money , he says it,s for food , or money for the electric , he lies , he intimidates , he threatens sucicide , he calls me horrible names and tells me i am a bad mother he makes me feel guilty , and hopeless untill i give in yet again and then i hate myself for been so weak , i need to be strong but i struggle , he is my son and i love him , but i hate what heroin… read the full post

What now

Posted by Paulina23 on 19 April 2013 (1 comments)

I have searched for a support group to try and sort and make some sense of all the emotions and thoughts that are flooding through my head. I am a single parent my 34yr son is addicted to drugs a variety he is also diabetic and I'm torn with keeping his insulin available for him and not enabling him. It's all mixing together, another night waking up knowing he's getting deeper into his chaotic lif… read the full post

Madly in love with an "ex heroin addict"

Posted by Eveygurl on 12 April 2013 (6 comments)

I need help, any kind word or gesture can help me out right now. Im 24 years old and I live in Florida, about a year ago I met the LOVE of my LIFE in my english class. We started off 4 months becoming the best of friends, he fell madly in love with me, and i too began to fall in love with him. Our chemistry was AMAZING, we would finish each others sentences. About 4 months into our relationship i… read the full post

Torture

Posted by Pally on 11 April 2013 (5 comments)

The only thing i can compare my life to is being tortured. My daughter will be 27 soon and has had an alchohol problem since she was 14. Until a couple of years ago i thought it was only alcohol until she got sent to prison for drink driving and then i discovered that she had had a cardiac arrest from taking someone elses methodone and had also been arrested for possession of Ketamine. I guess i l… read the full post

panicking

Posted by tulip on 8 April 2013 (2 comments)

Our son  a  recovering. Addict. He has been in rehab since Xmas. Eve. We know he is. Doing well but why do I keep. Having anxiety attacks. This is how I felt when he was on heroine. So why  when he. is in recovery do I feel like this. Do these feelings. Never go away.? ..… read the full post

Hopeless

Posted by Xena on 5 April 2013 (0 comments)

So here i am again sat crying , asking why as my son sits in an empty flat that he is soon going to lose , six weeks ago he had everything now he has nothing , apart from a heroin addiction , cant even cry any more .… read the full post

A mothers never-ending love

Posted by little lamb on 31 March 2013 (0 comments)

I watch her from my window as she walks toward my apartment. I no longer see my daughter when I look at her. She has become someone I don't know, a stranger almost. Even her walk is different now. I knew something was going on with her in  the beginning of 2012. She usually called home at least once a day but she suddenly stopped last year. At first I questioned what I had done to upset her so bad… read the full post

Desperate mother

Posted by Nessie on 29 March 2013 (2 comments)

Today he grabs me , today he pushes me.  Today I realise I have  lost my son to drugs! I can't stop crying I feel so ill, my hearts is broken.  I feel he's died .... I relive his funeral I relive his death.  I feel alone . My husband is angry, we argue it's breaking us up!  I'm desperate and hopeless there's nothing I can do.   

I have to live on for my family and friends. Maybe tomorrow he' ll s… read the full post

despair

Posted by enoughisenough on 22 March 2013 (12 comments)

I am the wife of a crack and heroin addict, we've been together 14 years I was 19 when we met and he was clean, he started using again that same year and hasnt stopped. We have four children and one on the way, most of the time he uses to "be normal" he says, its been so long that I feel Im sort of losing my morals about it all and certainly its become normal to me. Dont get me wrong, it… read the full post

Weed..

Posted by Mina on 22 March 2013 (2 comments)

Just found this website.  I. So sad to see so many of us are going through such awful times. My son is 21and has also been smoking weed since 14. It's now desperate times. We are confused, desperate and lost. I am the weak parent! My husband wants to kick him out if he refuses to stop. What hope is there when we are also at each others throat.....I work in a hospital and am in regular contact with… read the full post

So many wasted years.

Posted by 4Everhoping. on 20 March 2013 (2 comments)

My son has been addicted to heroin for almost 18yrs although I try not to dwell on that awful length of time. Life has been a roller coaster of emotions but I think the over riding ones are of sadness and fear. What has kept me and his dad going though is hope. We will never give up hope that he will really win the battle to stay clean and have the normal healthy life he says he wants and we all w… read the full post

I want my daughter back

Posted by Mum on 13 March 2013 (3 comments)

My daughter will be 30 this year - she has made some poor decisions over the past 15 years and gone from one disastrous relationship to another. Every boyfriend has had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, prescription drugs and anything that they can get hold of. Every boyfriend has lived off the state and every boyfriend has at some time been in prison for a drug related offence. My daughter has chos… read the full post

Story unfolding...

Posted by Antony on 13 March 2013 (1 comments)

I have a 25yr old son living at home and increasingly feel he is using drugs - coccaine.  I think he might only be a weekend user when at the same time consuming copious amounts of alcohol.  His moods come Monday are unbearable - agressive/abusive behaviour, total lack of respect for either my husband or me or our home which he lives very comfortably.  His personal cleanliness is somewhat to be de… read the full post

Consumed

Posted by rosie-cheeks on 5 March 2013 (1 comments)

My boyfriend is 28 and I'm 21, I feel like I'm looking after a child. He has a heavy heroin addiction, something I've known about since the beginning of our relationship when he told me he was and had been in treatment for a while. Throughout the past year he's been in and out of treatment, and I've been through it with him as I wanted to help him get well. But now things have taken a turn for the… read the full post

Tip of the iceberg....

Posted by Ad93 on 25 February 2013 (0 comments)

My sister is 28 , and has been an alcoholic for 11 years (that we know of). She has been arrested several times, taken lots of cocaine and ecstasy , and on one occasion was even in a "stabbing fight" with her ex boyfriend (her daughters father). We received a phone call that day by my very young niece (who must have called by accident after finding a mobile). Something didn't feel quite… read the full post

History repeats itself

Posted by Ted on 16 February 2013 (0 comments)

I have just discovered that my son is smoking weed.  He admitted to me that he has tried it but denies smoking it.  Im shocked that he is going down this terrible path because his uncle, my brother, who has been diagnosed with Schizophrenia for the last 8 years has been smoking weed for years.  My son has seen the suffering his uncle has gone through and the hell we have gone through as a family b… read the full post

despair with an older brother

Posted by spinzle on 2 February 2013 (2 comments)

for 30+ years my older brother has been an addict.  To drugs or alcohol or both.  He can't hold down a job or a relationship and even his own daughter doens't want to know him.  My mum is in her 70's and find this so difficult, she is convinced it's something she did wrong.  but I'm not an addict - have never even smoked a joint!  Right now my brother is in a mutually abusive relationship.  I've j… read the full post

Desperate and confused

Posted by Univava on 23 January 2013 (0 comments)

My husband told me two months ago he had a crystal meth addiction. Prior to this I have spent over a year thinking my husband was working late and staying in the office when he was taking drugs. Even throughout my pregnancy I would cry worried where he was because he was too out of it to call me and often was scared I would go into labour on my own. When our second son was born, he didn't bond for… read the full post

My story

Posted by Anastasia on 13 January 2013 (0 comments)

After having a chat with a lovely lady from Al-anon yesterday, I decided to do an internet search to see what sort of help and support there is on-line and found this gem : ) 
My Dad has been an alcoholic for decades, he has been into rehab twice and the change in him whilst he was at the second place was amazing.  I wish it had lasted.  Yesterday I read an e-mail from my sister that she sent to m… read the full post

Adult Children

Posted by evergreen on 4 January 2013 (0 comments)

I am the daughter of a beautiful, strong and reliable woman.
I am the sister of an extremely broken and confused brother. 

My heart is split in two. 
One half bitter anger and hatred, the other pure unfailing love and loyalty.… read the full post

sons drug abuse

Posted by jane on 19 October 2012 (1 comments)

I am living with my husband and our son is still living at home he has been using cannabis since he was 14 he is now 22 he won,t stop using it he also dips into other drugs he feels he has everything under control he hangs around with all the wrong people we have tried to talk to him about it we have tried eveything he has no job or money although he signs on but most of this money is spent on dru… read the full post

not again don't know how much more I can take

Posted by hedgehog on 19 October 2012 (1 comments)

I suspose he's always has a drink problem we were young when we meet and partying hard and out down the pub alot, we got married having gone through the death of my dad and then his own. Time went on and eventually we had our 1st child we'd been married 5 yrs and now 26 I was ready to settle down I ended up getting admitted into hospital on new years eve for observation and told they could induce… read the full post

drug addiction

Posted by jj on 6 October 2012 (0 comments)

The pain, the hurt, the dishonesty are all the emotions we all go through when a loved one has an addiction.
My heartache began when my son turned 14and like most people on this forum i had no idea what was happening when he turned froma loving and caring son. into  jekyll&Hyde virtually overnight.
tThe lying. stealing, abusive language, staying out and inthe end not seeing him for days.
We… read the full post

Please read my story

Posted by wishfulthinking on 17 August 2012 (0 comments)

I've been reading the stories here and many phrases remind me of my own struggle. I should point out that alcoholism in my husbands case was abusive - and not always when he was drinking - it was just as likely when he needed a drink - especially first thing in the morning.  His drinking wasn't severe - just borderline at first (like a 'drip drip' effect) and I can't go into details about the abus… read the full post

He disappeared again,holed up in a hotel not answering his phone...

Posted by Cocaine Victim on 8 August 2012 (2 comments)

I Think Of You

I think of you lying there, naked and dead,
with porn on the TV and drugs on the bed.
I think of her finding you, screaming with shock,… read the full post

alcholic who only drinks at night?

Posted by sap312 on 13 May 2012 (3 comments)

My husband of 14 yrs has drank heavily for the last few years. Its always been a big part of his life. all his hobbies involved having a few drinks afterwards but over the last yr his drinking has increased.
 He had a lot of problems a work and used alchol "to numb himself" when he got home from work. He always got up 4 work and went with no problems, but would buy beer on the way home.… read the full post

I want my dad back!

Posted by TaziG on 1 May 2012 (1 comments)

I only noticed about 6 years ago that my dad was a alcolholic but he was drinking years before then. I am 18 and currently living with my mum and 2 brothers after being involved in numerous occasions of domestic violence. 
I remember the feeling of walking home from school and not wanting to go home because I knew that as soon as I walked through that front door I would be confronted by a drunk d… read the full post

Partner cannabis & binge drinker, also has mental health problems.

Posted by Grace91 on 23 March 2012 (0 comments)

At the age of 18 i met my partner, at the time he was drinking with mates i thought it was just normal as we all like a drink, so didnt think much of it, i fell pregnant within a month of knowing him, and im still with  him today, im now 20 and we have a 9 month old son. 
as i got to know him more, i realised he smoked alot of weed, and he also suffered depression , anxiety, and agoraphobia. by t… read the full post

When You Don't Know There's An Alcoholic In Your Family

Posted by Clare on 14 March 2012 (1 comments)

Hi, I don't know if anyone will be able to relate to this - and it seems incredible myself, but I have just found out that my mum has been an alcoholic for over 30 years. I am 41. My dad told me and my brother and sister a month ago when my mum was admitted to hospital with Wernicke Encephalopathy/Korsakoff Syndrome. This is the result of severely heavy drinking for decades. She nearly died. At fi… read the full post

Let Down

Posted by Suep on 3 February 2012 (1 comments)

My son will be 30 in a couple of weeks. He was always hard work and at 11 was sent to a bording school for children with behavioural problems, it closed when he was 13 so he had to go to a local unit for kids with problems. he got in with a gang who drank and shop lifted and generally got in trouble and he started at 14 running away from home to be with them. he also started stealing from us about… read the full post

what happened to my gorgeous husband

Posted by mary on 31 January 2012 (1 comments)

Ive been with my husband for 15 yrs we have 2 boys and 1daughter all through the years he's smoked cannabis and although we've  had our ups and downs we always pulled through with the love and respect we have for each other but this year something happened out the blue and i dont think if you asked him he would know you see my husband discovered raves and started going there every weekend he's 34… read the full post

WHERE DID WE GO WRONG?

Posted by samuel on 25 January 2012 (1 comments)

My son who is 20 is a drug user, mostly cannabis and has stolen money and possessions from me.he also has mental health issues that we are awaiting an appointment for.
Life is so stressful in our house.he is waiting for somewhere to live
I cannot understand where we went wrong as we are good parents.
sadly there seems little help or counselling for us who have to live with a drug user.… read the full post

I want my mum

Posted by SH on 19 January 2012 (0 comments)

For as long as I can remember, our family was always a bit 'different' to those of my friends. My parents split up just before Christmas when I was 6, which at the time didn't seem to affect my older brother and myself. But things did change after my dad left, my mum always seemed to crave attention, she would take in people to our home and let them stay with us, often on the sofa, often with othe… read the full post

Where has my little boy gone

Posted by motherslove on 16 December 2011 (4 comments)

I'm so sad and depressed.  My son is a heroin user and has been for the past 11 yrs.  No matter what is dad and I do for him he keeps going back to using.  We're not sure when he started dabbling in drugs although we believe it was from the age of around 11/12 but being naive and totally unaware of drugs  we did'nt know the signs.  He has always been hyperactive, never still always on the go, but… read the full post

Losing my mind

Posted by Verytired on 11 December 2011 (4 comments)

I always knew my husband liked a drink, but it wasn't until after we had our children that I realised that he was an alcoholic. Even though he drinks every day, he still has a good job - if we had real financial problems it would be far easier to confront things and say 'your behaviour is unacceptable'. As it is, the financial result is that we have a lower standard of living than you would expect… read the full post

I dont know what to do or where to turn to for help

Posted by angel on 24 October 2011 (1 comments)

Im the mother of five beautiful children. My second eldest Daughter has been addicted to Heroin and crack for some four years now. As a result of her and her parners drug use, they have lost their little girl. she was taken into foster care 3 years ago, aged five. she will be eight after Christmas and I am no longer able to see her as she is being placed for adoption. I am only able to have letter… read the full post

Where do I go from here

Posted by Poppy on 11 October 2011 (1 comments)

My Nephew (Chris)who is 37 has alway been a cause of exacerbation to me, but he is such a lovely chap, very polite, loving etc.

His parents divorced when he was about 8-10yrs old, sorry I am not very good with ages.  His mother ran off with another man, and she took the children with her.

She now lives in Australia, with this man and my other nephew.… read the full post

My son James

Posted by John G on 5 October 2011 (2 comments)

Hello all, I am a drinker but not an alcoholic.

I and my family are troubled deeply by the effects of our sons (James) alcoholism.

Many years ago James was a nice, normal young teenager, we can’t remember when he changed or started to change.… read the full post

whats happened to my beautiful son ?

Posted by witsend on 24 September 2011 (4 comments)

My 21 year old so is a alcoholic with cocaine habit,he first started using drugs at about 10 years old.When i found out i would ground him stop his pocket money,then he began stealing from the family home and even selling his own clothes at school.As the years have gone on he has become worse,he did hold down a job for 4 years and recently lost that due to stealing a car from work taking it on a j… read the full post

I want my lovely son back!

Posted by petal on 21 September 2011 (5 comments)

I have 4 children, my second son has had some emotional problems from a very early age, to which although we have cried out for help were told it was our parenting skills and he was fine.  He started secondary school and well it went downhill from there.  He began to smoke cannibas, stoned everyday and doing 'bongs'.  My son has stolen from me and his siblings, lied, got into trouble with the poli… read the full post

Boyfriends addiction and stealing

Posted by Helen on 19 July 2011 (4 comments)

I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 years in september and he is 3 months younger than me (27).  when i first met him back in 2008 i knew nothing of his addiction.  once when i went to see him a friend had rung seeing if he wanted to go round.  i later found out that it was to get high.

we broke up and he ended up in hospital with mental health issues and a year later i got talking to him aga… read the full post

My Alcoholic mum- my best friend

Posted by Mum2604 on 19 July 2011 (4 comments)

Thought I would share my experience with others, it might help. I've learned there is always hope and to never give up on the person who is suffering from addiction.

For as long as I can remember my mum always drank. I was 7 when my parents separated , the arguments before that were constant and as far as I can remember they were mostly about money- my mum spent every penny my dad earned on alc… read the full post

The Loss of My Son

Posted by Mary on 12 July 2011 (5 comments)

Hi to All ,
I am wanting to speak of my son who was an Addict .Today I am sad and grieving deeply for a young man who just seemed lost to his addictions
My son was found  dead in a house he was  allocated  13 days  before by the local council . He was so badly decomposed by the time he was found I could not identify him. The police used his finger prints and tattoos to identify him . he was foun… read the full post

My boyfriend smokes almost every day

Posted by milla on 23 May 2011 (3 comments)

My boyfriend since 2 years smokes weed almost every day. Even though he takes a drag every day he doesn't smoke much (i mean, he never smokes a whole, or even a half joint, and lots of tobacco mixed up with it). I  am 25 (my boyfriend is 30) have never smoked in my entire life and feel uncomfortable about him smoking. I was brought up in a home with non-tolerance to drugs and smoking, and had neve… read the full post

My boyfriend fights me

Posted by Glass on 22 May 2011 (2 comments)

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years.  I have a beautiful and very intelligent son .
When we started our relationship I was on my own with my son in a new city, and he was one of the first people I met.  He liked me very much and eventually we got together.
He has been using recreational drugs for a long time since he was 17 and I met him when he is 32.  I did not think this will cau… read the full post

when will it end

Posted by hopexxx on 18 April 2011 (2 comments)

where do i start ,ime 30 ive been with my husband 13 yrs we have 3 great kids,i should be happy instead life,s one big struggle with his alcahol addiction,he started his 5th detox on the 7th of feb this year,he didnt touch a drop 4 8 wks now the last week he as been drinking again now i am crushed again i feel so angry,sad,confused i feel like he doesnt love me an the kids enough to stay off it,my… read the full post

Good news There IS HOPE!!!

Posted by Rose on 29 March 2011 (3 comments)

My daughter went to addiction hell. (Familiar story, smoking at 11, cannabis, alcohol, other drugs..eventually crack and heroin IV. personality change, lies, stealing, alienation from the non addicts world and values, prison, (what a relief!) Attempts at rehab. 
Eventually I gave up hope.
It took 15 years, but SHE turned it round and came back towards the light. Now it seems like a distant night… read the full post

my son ...

Posted by belle on 17 March 2011 (6 comments)

it's been nearly 3 yrs since i lost my son to heroin , he was just 24yrs old and had everything to live for ...
in 2005 my son came to me and told me he was using heroin , i was mortified if only then i had known what a  very long heart wrenching fight it was going to be,at  first he was smoking it and i was pretty ignorant as to how addictive it really was , i thought this was a phase or maybe i… read the full post

End of a relationship with a heroin addict - living in limbo

Posted by Anne on 4 March 2011 (3 comments)

I've spent the last four and a half years of my life hiding my relationship with a heroin addict which ended over a year ago. I didn't know he had problems until a year into the relationship.  When my parents found out they worried themselves sick, my brother suffers from mental iilness and I didn't want to add to their burden. I was naive and thought I could help my friend and that I was strong e… read the full post

My boyfriend is repeating history

Posted by Hayley on 27 February 2011 (4 comments)

I have been with my boyfriend since I was 14, we've been together for just over two years now. When we started dating I was aware he was regularly  smoking cannabis but I was never really bothered about it. We had a healthy relationship and did keep his cannabis use under control, mainly smoking on weekends. About a year into our relationship he was chucked out his house. He began living with in a… read the full post

me and my now ex girlfriend

Posted by DAVE on 25 January 2011 (6 comments)

We met 4  years ago and  within days she told me of her addiction to prescription drugs. This wasnt an isue to me it didnt change my view of her at all.
We spent every second of everyday together and fell inlove.Anyway a month or two  later we moved in together .Everything was great between us but she slowly started getting worse and buying tablets over the counter ontop of her  prescription.
Ev… read the full post

My Husband the Heroin addict

Posted by mary on 24 January 2011 (5 comments)

We met when I was 18 and I am now 36 ... Never in a lifetime did I know what life would be like....

My husband who is 12 years older than me, was a drinker and I hated it - but like many I thought I could change him.  Fortunately for me, he stopped!   (Only after he lost his job) then  he became addicted to smoking cannibis.... then growing it and then onto smoking Herion!

I dont even know w… read the full post

My son is smoking cannabis

Posted by Dolph on 18 January 2011 (2 comments)

My son was caught approx a year ago smoking cannabis, he said it was a one off. we then caught his approx 10 months later smoking again. He was grounded and some of his freedom reduced, however this was difficult as he is 15 and lives with his mum. She found it hard to ground him, he was only grounded for one night. 

Last week he was caught smoking at school as suspended. He is now back at scho… read the full post

Trying to grieve.

Posted by helpformum on 4 January 2011 (4 comments)

I lost my eldest brother two months ago to Herion. He was 38 years old and had a daughter my age, twenty one. He had been clean from Herion for about 18 months. He then started dating an 18 year old who was a recovering herion addict. Or so we thought. 
On 25th oct 2010 I recieved a phone call at work from my mum telling me that my brother had been admitted into hospital following an overdose. I… read the full post

Why won't my sister take responsibility for her alcoholism?

Posted by Sam A on 1 January 2011 (1 comments)

My sister has always been fiery, recently we have seen this at its worst.  She has been getting drunk then becomes violent towards her loved ones.  She uses language and insults of the worst kind and appears 'possessed'.  This is having a huge impact on my family, my parents are former shadows of themselves and we are all living hour to hour wondeing if she is going to turn up drunk and violent.… read the full post

my life as a heroin addict

Posted by kate on 5 November 2010 (5 comments)

hi, my name is Kate, I am 42 years old, I have been using herion for the last 15 years, I have tried everything from hospital detox's to home detox's to withdrawing off my own back with no support or medication and each time I have failed. My life is a mess, I have no family (both my parents are dead) on't have anything to do with my brother as he can not handle me when I am using neither can he h… read the full post

my brother and his alcohol and heroin addiction

Posted by angelica on 2 November 2010 (3 comments)

My brother has been taking all kinds of drugs for 15 years of his life, he has been to two rehab centres, but unfortunately could not resist the temptation of drugs and alcohol.  Five years ago, my son was born and it made him realise he needed to get clean to be involved in his life, and maybe gave him a reason to sort himself out.  We managed to get him on the subutex program, which seemed to be… read the full post

my sister spends approx £150 on canabis a week

Posted by milledchilli on 30 October 2010 (3 comments)

My mentally ill sister has wasted the last 20 years of her life in and out of psychiatric units.  She bullies my mother for money and to impose her will  , my mother always gives in afraid of what "Barbie" will do but when I try to intervene my mother defends my sister by saying that she cannot help it because of her mental health problems.

"Barbie's son was put on the at risk re… read the full post

families and drug addiction

Posted by mum of addicts on 12 October 2010 (4 comments)

as a mum of a large family i have struggled with 8 of my children being addicts heroin,crack alcolhol,tablets u name it they have used it one son,is now off all drugs with help from g.p and agencies he is now working full time and is doing brilliant i am so proud of him he is in a good relationship with a lovely girl another son is 36 years old still lives with me got two lovely boys works 6 days… read the full post

My Brother

Posted by Jayne on 2 October 2010 (6 comments)

My brother is 24 years old and has been a Heroin addict for 8 years. 
As a family it is tearing us apart. My mum is on the verge of a breakdown and lives in fear of the dreaded knock on the door to say that he has overdosed.
We thought that we had got through the worst when he had come very close to dying not long ago. He vowed that he would get better and never touch the drug again. Months of… read the full post

boyfriend and cannabis

Posted by polly on 10 September 2010 (4 comments)

I've been with my boyfriend for two years, we're both in our 40's and i have two young children. we don't live together. He smokes cannabis every night to help him sleep. To him its not a problem, although sometimes he does take more and then it has an obvious effect on him.  I am anti drugs, and hate this habit of his, it's getting harder and harder for me to cope with.  He didn't tell me he used… read the full post

alcohol is ruining my life.....

Posted by chloe on 9 September 2010 (2 comments)

i had/ have the best family life ever my parnets are great and i have a steady job, i started drinking at a early age with friends at school, they all seemed to grow out of it and i contiuned drinking quiet alot, i was drinking about 3liters of cider every other night and this was just during the week, on a weekend it could be double that i could never remeber my nights.!
in 2008 i got raped and… read the full post

Reflecting on Paul’s life

Posted by lynn on 16 August 2010 (7 comments)

Paul fought drug abuse for 17 years. Paul didn’t want to be on drugs and sought help never but never really found it. Paul was tormented by drugs and over the years they sapped his body of all goodness, health, energy and emotions. Finally numbing his soul. Feelings of love and happiness were hard to find. 

I found this note in Paul’s papers on stress and anxiety after his death. Paul was o… read the full post

Stuck...

Posted by Anon on 2 August 2010 (4 comments)

At the age of 14 (he is 5 years older than me) my older brother began taking anphetamines, acid and LSD with his friends. After a bad "trip" (as he calls it) he began suffering from anxiety and paranoia and has ever since. That was 15 years ago and its progressively got worse. 
things have happened in his life that definitely did't help him, our mum died when he was 18 and his fiance le… read the full post

cycle of change for a person whose parent is doing drugs

Posted by stop, play, pause on 24 July 2010 (10 comments)

My life was great, friends, family, school, dog and more. We were normal family however relative that can be. I never went without anything that I needed. As I rolled on with my life, my parents’ life became quite different to mine. There were parties, music, dances and eventually drugs. First it was weed and then one day I woke up both from my defiance and sleep and found out that it was someth… read the full post

help with a job

Posted by peaceful on 10 May 2010 (5 comments)

Hi new to this but here goes.My son was aheroin addict.did stupid things and got arrested.did his probation and drug reabilitation.was clean and free for almost 2 years.met a new girl.last october although he is on methadone he shot up and was bought back to life in the back of an ambulance.6 monthes clean and his girlfrield took him back.two weeks ago hesmoked a joint with heroin in it.now his gi… read the full post

My Boyfriend and his Mephedrone Problem‏

Posted by sheena123 on 30 April 2010 (6 comments)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 and a half years, we met when we were young and have had the strongest loving relationship anybody could every wish for.. all up until about 6 months ago.
 
I noticed that he was acting different around me, he was secretive and sly about everything he did.  I didn't say anything to him and let it carry on for a couple of months thinking nothing of it.… read the full post

My boyfriend

Posted by sarah on 12 March 2010 (33 comments)

I met my boyfriend 8 years ago it was a normal happy relationship and we were very happy, I got pregnant 3 years into our relationship and we both where very very happy. It was after our son was born when everything started to go wrong. About a year after money was going missing and I never knew where my boyfriend was or were his money was going he worked but never seemed to have any money. I neve… read the full post