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Don't Know Where To Turn

Posted by Rob J on 27 May 2016.

I have a son aged 33, still living at home.  A long time user of Cannabis and to a lesser extent Cocaine.  He is increasingly irrational, paranoid and aggressive when he is depressed enough to use something other than just Cannabis.  It has reached the stage where his aggressive outbursts are accompanied with threats to kill himself, or set the house on fire.  The next day it's like it never happened!  His mum and me are convinced he is capable of harming himself or somebody else during one of these low points which are now weekly events.

He will not admit he is an addict, and claims these drugs aid his yoga and Buddhist beliefs, and then flies off the handle in a fit of rage at any disagreement to his views.  He has alienated all friends and family.  We can see no help on the horizon.  He needs to be inside the system to see if rehab or medication can help, but will not agree to this.  We arranged for private therapy to combat his depression 2 to 3 years ago, but he quit that after 4 sessions.  How can we get him into the system without it being through the criminal route which we believe will happen if he hurts someone?

Any advice would be welcome.


Icarus Trust
6 Jun 2016

Hi Rob,
This must be so difficult for you as a parent seeing your son like this. He has got to want to engage in help himself if it is to be successful but there is help for you and his mum out there. We are a charity called The Icarus Trust which was started in order to give support to people like yourselves dealing with a loved ones addiction. If you think it would help you please contact us and we would put you in touch with one of our experienced trained volunteers called Family Friends. Talking with one of these might help you to find a way forward.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Good luck!

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