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Grief is timeless

Posted by VicKie D on 4 March 2018.

My family and I are approaching FIFTEEN years since my brother passed away. Fifteen years of heartake for my parents, fifteen years of longing for their boy! Fifteen years of watching a million tears shed by our mother. Fifteen years of guilt, of despair and hurt. Fifteen years that seem like fifteen minutes, so vivid the memories of such an awful day. 
Our mother has never been the same, nor have I. My friends not understanding that the trauma of losing my only sibling has left me with PTSD. That every day since he died I have felt that half of me is gone, my first friend, my partner in crime, my best friend all rolled into one.  I am fed up with hearing 'get over it', move on, Judging me for missing him still. Tuesday will be the fifteenth anniversary of his death. I wish I could celebrate his life but instead, I will hear our mother cry and see the pain etched on her face.  Moving on feels like a betrayal of his memory and so I am stuck with no idea how o stop feeling so sad


15 Mar 2018

Sending you a big hug.  

I hope that between us all we can somehow put more pressure on the police/government to stop the drug dealers at source, but this doesn't help you and your family when you have lost someone that you love so much.

Stay strong.

Icarus Trust
20 Mar 2018

Hi Vickie

I feel so sad for you and your family's loss. It's heartbreaking and so hard that you don't have friends who understand how you are feeling.
If you feel that it would be any help to you to talk with people who do understand, please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports people who have to deal with the impact of a loved one's addiction on their lives. People like yourself.
We have a team of experienced and trained volunteers and maybe talking to one of them would help you to make some sense of how you are feeling and to know what other help is available to you and your mum.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Wishing you all the best.

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