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I've lost my mum and I'm slowly loosing my dad

Posted by Chloe_324 on 12 February 2015.

When I was just 14 years old my mum passed away. It was a shock to us all and it upset me more because we never knew why she died... Her heart just stopped beating:( Life was tough for me after this. I went through a really tough time at school, I couldn't concentrate, work , listen everything was hard work for me. 
When my mum passed away me and my brother and sister had to move in with our dad. Well who I thought was my dad. Last year I was still just 16 I recieved a message of a random woman on facebook telling me she was my biological auntie as her brother was my dad? At this point I was really confused/scared/ mixed emotions! I didn't know what to do and I didn't want to tell my dad (the one I thought was my dad just incase it wasnt true. But after a few months he found out I knew and spoke to me and told me it was true! 
Now after 7 months have passed I've started finding things tough.. My biological dad does drugs? But I'm not sure if I want to see him.. After all he is my dad? He has three other children? And I want to see my half brother and sisters? 
I just don't know how to tell my family that I'm ready to see my biolgocial dad/family without upsetting them! I feel like I'm going to go mad.. I've got things flying round my head. I don't know what to do,say,think! I just can't cope with all of this!


Icarus Trust
12 Feb 2015

I feel so sorry to see what huge emotional issues you have had to face and what hard choices you have in front of you. I really urge you to find some support for yourself, to help you deal with what you are going with.
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We support people who are dealing with a loved one's addiction. We have a free service called 'Family Friends' who are trained volunteers with lots of experience of what you are going through. If you would like, we could put you in touch with one of these. Talking with a 'Family Friend' might help you to make sense of what is happening and help you to sort out your feelings and find a way ahead. 
Please contact us on or visit the website
I really hope that you can get support which will give you cope with everything. Good luck!

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