We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
Sign in to make comments and contribute your own stories. Or click here to register if you've never used the blog before.
Hi , you are currently signed in to the blog.
Want to find a support group? Enter your postcode or town below to find a support group near you.
is he taking me for a mug??
Posted by desperado! on 21 August 2014.
Hi...never had to post on any site before but this is starting to eat me up! I met my partner 4 years ago and knew from the start he was 10 years clean from using drugs...mainly injecting heroin. Everything was brilliant to begin with...we had so much fun and then I got caught pregnant. I already have 2 children from a previous relationship so having another was great and it was his first. Everything was brilliant and then I got myself pregnant again. Things were going fine and it seemed that everything was perfect. Then when I was heavily pregnant I found out he had smoked heroin! I was absolutley mortified...how could he do this to me while I was pregnant?? We talked it over because I found the evidence otherwise he wouldnt have owned up to it. He assured me that this was a one off and it would never happen again, that he felt like a failure because of it and he had let himself down and I should stand by him and not give up on him....which I said I would because I love him. Over the past few weeks I have had these gut feelings that he is still using and found lots of pieces of evidence that he is..foil.gone missing...being secretive..off out for small errands and being gone for 3-4 hours at a time and making excuses. He also stays up all night and sleeps most if the day...which means I am left with 4 children to sort, feed and amuse. I also found out he smoked a 'tooter'?? whilst I was in hospital giving birth....he kept telling me he couldnt cope in the delivery suite and that he was spending time in the car for his own state of mind! I have confronted him on a few occasions but he gets angry and mad that I have doubted him even when I have the proof!!! Its all starting to get me really down...I have and will support him and realise he has to put his recovery first but suffer myself from mental illness ie post natal depression with every pregnancy and this is starting to maķe me feel ill ....am I just looking for problems.or is he manipulating me??? Please give me some advice as this is a new thing to me....what to do???
You must be signed in to comment. To sign in, use the form to the right, or click here to register if you've never used the blog before.