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My Girl Friend

Posted by SarahR4 on 23 May 2017.

I met my beautiful amazing girl friend when I came back from a few years traveling about 7 months ago. We hit it off amazingly and I've never felt a connection like I have with her. On our second date she told me she has been to rehab that she was addicted to Ketamine but was getting help and doing well. She told me prettty much everything and if I wanted to stop things she wouldn't be offended as it's a huge deal. 
None of that scared me I wanted to get to know this girl and spend all my free time with her. We have been together for 8 months now and she is seeing a psychologist and is mostly doing well.
However this year has just been throwing terrible news at her one months after another. She still uses and I can see how much it's taking a toll on her body and her work. I know how well she is doing but it is so incredibly frustrating when o see the circle happening - sneaking off to the toilet everyone time she can and constantly wiping her nose. It hurts so much and she is constantly telling me to leave if it's too much as she can't cause me any pain but I love her so much and can see myself with her for the rest of my life. 
How do you keep going supporting and providing everything you can when it sometimes seems to much to someone you love so much? I'm so worried she gets more bad news or something happens and she goes straight back to it. She's the most amazing person when she's clean and I can't talk to anyone about it as I don't want to tell my family or friends. 
I live in hope that she eventually comes completely clean - she has a girl friend who would do anything for her and an extremely supportive family and friend network. She has the tools I just hope she can really do it.


1 Jun 2017

My heart goes out to you. Your on a very long journey. Your girlfriend is obviously enjoying what she is doing otherwise she would seek help and grab it with both hands.. An addiction is extremely hard to deal with and apart from beating it and becoming clean it's also about staying off it completely as most addicts will have blips along the way.. I have a family member who has been misusing drugs for many years and they have to want to do it themselves and the pain and misery it's caused us has been to the point where I want to lock him in a room. It's ruined our family and caused huge rifts with siblings and also having an effect on his health now.. If you love them , you stand by them but they do have to help themselves other wise your fighting a losing battle .. I sympathise with you and my heart goes out to you ... I totally understand ❤️

Icarus Trust
6 Jun 2017

Hi Sarah,
I'm so sorry to read your post. What Darcy says is very true but if you would like some help and support for yourself to deal with this, especially if you can't talk to friends and family, please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for the friends and families dealing with a loved one's addiction. Our trained and experienced volunteers would be happy to talk with you if you think it would help.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Good luck.

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