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my partner was abusing drugs and my finances
Posted by Kia_Davey_84 on 2 April 2017.
I have written this very simply as going into too much detail is a bit upsetting for me I posted on here to hope that it can be viewed by non judgemental readers and help alleviate some of my stress. Partner and I moved in together October 2016 he needed to borrow money off me for the deposit even though we had planned this for months He went out and bought a £500 TV even though we already had a TV Things were going well until he lost his job early December 2016, I knew he took coke but just socially every few weeks he was able to pay me more than half his share with his December pay for rent and bills but had always been short without fail every month even though he already owed me He spent first 2 weeks of unemployment stoned and staying up all night whilst I just worked away, also I was starting a full time degree course in Feb '17 One day I found £250 missing from my bank account, he had used my card to fund his Bet 365 account and obviously couldn't pay back He phone me up one night saying he was in trouble and needed £1000 so I gave it to him, he said it would come back the next week I ended up actually giving him money for coke so he could sell it for profit but this never worked out (£2000 later) he ended up using it all for himself Still he asks me at least twice a week to fund his bet 365 account I have become a guarantor for a loan which I have paid back for him every month since he was not able (£160 a month) He took m student loan from me and spent my 2 months budget on a night out (cocaine, alcohol, cannabis) I can never be able to reasonably excuse why I lend this money, I do feel like there was always a sense of 'coercing' Trying to work 36 hours a week and attend uni full time, and still do all the house work and take care of his friends dog often leave the house at 7 am and come home to find him in bed until about 6pm, no effort into house no effort to look for a job he has a job now finally but I am constantly anxious want to cry most mornings/evenings having had no one to talk to about my situation I cant talk to my partner about things as he gets very shut off from me and aggressive when I try to share my concerns
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