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Posted by Elsie on 3 June 2016.

Hi, Ive just signed up to Adfam blog. My son is almost 27 and is driving me to despair. Bottom line is he stole from home from an young age to buy cigarettes and weed and heaven knows what else (he's not on heroin) and we all believed we were misplacing things, my other son even suggested we had a poltergeist!...Yeah that's how ignorant we were. Anyway, this week his girlfriend ended the relationship with him due to violence and other things -  and the social services are involved. Hes now on my couch and I'm not happy with it. He says hes entitles to stay at his mums. I really don't want him here. I have mixed feelings and thoughts about the situation. One minute I think, 'I'm his mum, I'll be here through it all'. Then when he's knocking me up at 2 and 3am I don't think the same way, I get angry thena t his lack of thought about me or my neighbours when he's pounding at the door. I can honestly say I don't like him, nevermnd love him. The thought, 'Am I ok, is it OK to say, 'no', youre staying at my house?' I don't want him staying with me but I'm his mum :-D


Icarus Trust
6 Jun 2016

Hi Elsie.
This is really hard for you and it is not surprising how confused your feelings are for your son. The Icarus Trust is a charity that has been set up to offer help to people, like yourself, who are being affected by the addiction of a family member or friend. If you would like to talk with someone who would have experience of what you are going through please contact us and we will put you in touch with one of our Family Friends. Talking with one of them might help you to make sense of what you are feeling and help you to find a way ahead.
You can contact us on or visit the website
Good luck!

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